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30-35,
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writes:I have this girlfriend and she's super hot. She says she loves me, but I have caught her flirting with other guys before and she expresses her admiration for physically hot guys occasionally. Me, I'm definitely not as good looking as her. I'm not particularly handsome and I have narrow shoulders and a skinny body, so I'll never look like her equal no matter what I do. It's obvious that she's not with me for the sex (it took ages for us to start having sex). In other words, I'm not that sexy to her. She loves me. Girls get into relationships for love, not so much for sex right? That's good for me otherwise I wouldn't have a chance with her. However, this means that when it comes to that time of the month where she's at her sexual peak, she must have the hots for hotter guys. This desire means I'm kind of like a genetic reject to her. Ovulation is the only time of the month when girls can get pregnant, and she likely wants other guys during that time. Although we do have sex because she has morals I guess. Other girls would cheat I imagine. At least on occasion.So she has sex with me what am I complaining about? My problem is that she doesn't feel that much sexual passion for me. She's not into the sex that we have when we have it. She has expressed more desire toward hotter looking guys. If society were totally lenient she would most likely go off and have sex with those guys. That's girl's biology if they don't choose a hot boyfriend. Find love (get what she wants from some guy like me who loves her), then have sex with some guy with hot genes. Even though it all plays out nicely because of rules and morals, without those rules and morals, at the biological level, I am the fool. What it comes to is that I want to be hot to my girlfriend at all times of the month.I didn't write this to debate what I just wrote about girls. I just want to know, if I can't physically be as hot as my girlfriend, what do I need to have about myself that would make me as hot as her? Let's pretend that I can actually make those changes that must be made. This question makes it seem like there is a chance, but I really don't know.Thanks for any help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): I totally agree with So very confused. I'd also like to add thay maybe your just being hard on yourself for no reason. I mean she hasn't told you that your revolting or anything. I don't know many if any women that picked their partners based on looks. The men I've been with varied on the hotness meter but I never in my life wished for someone hotter. I think loving your woman makes you the sexiest man to her. You could always ask her what she finds attractive. My husband knows I LOVE facial hair and tattoos but he has neither. It doesn't me im looking for a inked up hairy replacement. It just means I appreciate the beauty in other men as well. Don't get me wrong though my man is the sexiest thing I've ever seen!! I'm sure you are to her too so start acting like it. Get more involved in pleasing her in the bedroom if she isn't happy enough.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 November 2012):
 "I just want to know, if I can't physically be as hot as my girlfriend, what do I need to have about myself that would make me as hot as her?"
OH I know this answer! And YES you can do it.... not easy... but YOU CAN be the HOTTEST man around!
don't laugh... the hottest sexiest guys I know are the ones that are SELF CONFIDENT. Seriously.
my husband... PERFECT example.... he's nearly middle aged at this point (39) but he looks younger... he's SHORT he's got bad teeth... (snaggle toothed even), thin lips, beady eyes... short military haircut... he gets rashes... when I met him he was too thin, now he sports a pot belly, but women die for him... and I think he's hot and sexy... BTW I'm not bad for a cougar so it's not like I'm not all that and a bag of chips.
HE managed to "steal" me away from my last hubby who was tall and a million other things... totally on the aspect of his personalty and his SELF-CONFIDENCE.... a man with no self-esteem is not attractive but a confident man, hot and sexy.
groom well.
dress well
be interesting and articulate and funny
treat a woman like a lady
and KNOW you are ALL THAT AND A BAG of CHIPS
and you will be the hottest thing going.
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