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male
age
51-59,
*ommy Crue
writes:OK, heres my story. I know I dwell on things sometimes and often wonder why, but I am hoping for some good advice on this. Up until the age of 17 I was very insecure/backward. I never had a date until then. About the time I came out of my shell, I met my ex-wife. We dated 4 years, were married 4 years and had 2 boys together. I was no longer the " ugly duckling " so to speak. I had several good looking women to throw themselves at me at this time (of course lol) Well my marriage went South because my ex decided she wanted to hoe around. I met my current wife shortly after and truly believe she is Heaven sent. She is very good to me. I am so much happier with her than I was with my ex. What bothers me is that I feel "weird" I have only slept with 2 women in my life. I have had several chances during both marriages but I would NEVER EVER cheat. I don't believe in it. My wife had only slept with 2 guys so she wasnn't very experienced either. She only did this because she was pressured into it, not because she loved them. She dated several guys and kissed several. Guess I feel like were both pretty inexperienced. Maybe her experiences have made her love and appreciate me more because she was with some total losers. Maybe I should just accept this is the way things worked out and enjoy the life we have together. We have been married 14 years, have a boy together and are very much in love. We had some rough times, but it is very good right now. What brought this on ? My insecurity I had back in school has returned with a vengeance and I don't know why. I'm 43. Mid life crisis maybe ? Anyway, any helpful comments would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, demeplev +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Let me offer another idea a well,
first let me say sounds like your very happy in this relationship and I applaud you for never cheating or wanting too.
Maybe you are wanting to be a little bit more adventurous in the bedroom? if that's so maybe just present it to your wife maybe you two can role play and pretend your with someone else?
whatever you two decide makes sure it strengthens your relationship and keep lines of communication open and I am sure this possible mini "mid-life" crisis your having is just a blip.
Remember she is your best friend go to her with your concerns she knows you best and may be able to help both of you feel better.
Good luck. Peace and love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): No offense and I'm going to come across as unjudgemental as I can. Please stop thinking with your d**k and think with your head.
You have the woman of your dreams and a wonderful family unit. What difference does it make now?! From a person with a little more experience, trust me your not missing a thing! You have accomplished what almost everyone is looking for and without the hassle of going through one relationship after another. Stop worrying about what IF and concentrate on what IS. There are millions of people that wished they had what you have and you are wondering about being single. Enjoy your lovely life like it is and be grateful you have what you do. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I guess you are under the influence of the Hollywood movies, where people sleep with someone new every night!
The real life is different man. I am 38 and I only had one woman in my bed! And almost every man I know have had 1 or 2.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I think you should just be happy thats all it took for you to find the right woman for you. You could have had 10 more failed relationships or a few more knotches on your bedpost. Would you be happier? I don't think so.
My hubby was never with a woman before me even though he is six years older than me. I was married and divorced and had 10 years more sexual experience than him. Did it matter? Nope.
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