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writes:Hi,Hi recently met a guy a chatting app. Because the app tells you how near the person you're chatting to are, I know that the guy doesn't live too far away from me. The guy is 27 and I'm currently 18 going on 19 in March. I wasn't originally meant to talk to him but he was been really prisistant and he was been really nice too. We've been talking for more than a week now and he's been telling me that he really likes me. I asked him if the age business didn't bother him, he said no because age is just a number. I didn't want to at first because I know all about the crap that goes on on the Internet but he seems like such a genuinely a nice guy. I told him that I wasn't going to be meeting him anytime soon and he said he was fine with it that we can get to know each other. Now that we've been talking for up to two weeks now, I'm starting to feel attracted to idea of him, he just seems really nice and I don't wanna be gullible about it!I've asked some of my friends and their opinions seems to be divided. I've even googled this type of senario but I'd appreciate and welcome any opinions you guys have to offer.Thanks :)!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 you are over 18
this is what you do
guard yourself carefully if your gut tells you something is not right you are probably correct.
it can't hurt to meet him and see what happens.
FWIW when my husband was 18 I would have been 31....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I wouldn't do it and it has nothing to do with the age but just wait. If he is that persistent after week make him wait months and see how he acts. If he is still nice and everything then maybe meet. Now he is just to eager and I bet just wants in your pants.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (4 November 2012):
Usually I'd agree and say age is just a number, but as this guy has been very persistent and when you've only met him through chat.....you have to wonder why? He doesn't know you and it does come across to me that he is looking for sex. Could be he is hoping that your age will make you more naive.
He's also already going on about how much he likes you (and again you've never met in person) so it seems like he is just trying to speed up the 'process'.
If I were you, I'd avoid him. But if you're desperate to meet up with him and are going to do it anyway, then obviously meet him in a safe place and don't have sex early on in the relationship. If he starts to go on about it a lot and starts to pressurize you, end it immediately.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Red Alert! Red Alert! Of course he seems 'really nice' - but the 'really persistent' part worries me. And personally, I'm not to keen on the age difference, you are still only 18. I would be very careful.
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (4 November 2012):
Red Alert! Red Alert! Of course he seems 'really nice' - but the 'really persistent' part worries me. And personally, I'm not to keen on the age difference, you are still only 18. I would be very careful.
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (3 November 2012):
 You're Legal! He's nice. You're both single I take it. GO FOR IT!!!!! Just think when he is 39 you will be 30. Doesn't sound too bad then does it? :)
You are doing the right thing about taking your time to meet. Get to know him first. And, always, when and if you do meet, do it in public :)
Good luck! :)
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