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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Exercise tips needed to lose weight on my thighs

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiya, This isn't a relationship question, but I guess it's kind of a health one, which is why I'm asking here. Recently I've decided that i don't really like my body shape~ I'm about 5'5" and maybe around 11-12 stone (about 160 pounds) though I've not weighed myself i... (205 words)

My sister is having an affair right under my nose. What shall I do about it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I came across this site today and was pleased to see the kind of service you are rendering. You are guiding people with their questions which they cannot ask anywhere else. Also, its great to see that you don’t want to make it erotic fantasy, rather giving very genu... (457 words)

Is there a good way to break staring at each other without it becoming awkward?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I sit next to the girl i like in one of my lessons and a lot of times during the lesson i see her looking at me. When i look at her there would be about 5 seconds of staring and she would smile and her eyes would start to sparkle. I wanted to know if there was a way to break th... (98 words)

What do I do if he's went off me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - hmm? My boyfriend is very unaware of how I feel about him... he doesnt realise he is pretty much the only thing on my mind that I always want to be with him and if he does'nt text me or gives me a slightly bad impression that will litterally kill me inside... on the last day ... (268 words)

Should I resist my ex? Or give in?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4393 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - we were college sweet hearts. Every where i went, he was there. so, we dated, graduated college. He was my first. Then i got pregnant, on purpose. We got married and moved together. We had arguments and stupid fights. He walks out on me and an infant. We got divorced in less ... (293 words)

Why is my girlfriend so guarded? Can it be because she's Scorpio?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So my girlfriend and I have been together 3 years, us both being lesbians. She's a Scorpio and I'm a Cancer. My issue is she's a very guarded person. And when she's going through things she doesn't like to talk about it or even talk to me. Which always leaves me feeling ... (196 words)

Has my boyfriend lost interest or is it the stress of his current custody battle?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I had been dating a man for only 2 months, so just a short time. We hit it off very well...he would call daily,(sometimes twice) email, text, showed lots of interest. He asked me to go on a few weekend getaways with him and some close friends in a few months. I have met his ... (387 words)

My wife has violent outbursts. Should I get out of the relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I have been married 5 years and have been trying to make it work for 4. She has put me in some tough positions, I have brought them up and feel no closure on them after the arguments that followed. During my bachelor party I didn't want to do anything crazy I ... (990 words)

Why does my partner become less affectionate and attentive after intimacy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I am in a relationship with a guy for 6 months. He loves me a lot and so do I. We plan to get married in few years. He usually texts me and calls me often to ask about my whereabouts as well as 'miss u lot' and 'luv u' text. It is like he cant think of anything else while do... (223 words)

What does a wink from a married man mean? Friendly or flirtatious?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - What does a wink from a married man mean? While I was at a friend's house, her (friendly) husband winked at me while I was leaving. We were talking at the door and he winked. Previous to that, I always felt he would be happy to bump into me in public, and the conversations wo... (183 words)

Moral high ground!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4384 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 22 years old, 23 in January and I have slept with 3 guys. The first one became my bf when I was 14 and we finally slept together at the age of 16 and a half then broke up when I was 17 and a half. The second guy became my bf just before I turned 18 and I was with him ... (379 words)

I'm with someone I love but after a few days together I need time alone!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm with someone I really love but after we've spent a couple of really intimate days together, I feel like I have to get away and spend time alone. He doesn't understand and wants to spend all the time with me. It ends up causing a lot of arguments and ruining our time. I feel ... (129 words)

Met a guy with a huge porn collection and no history of relationships!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4396 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have met a guy a month ago of 37 who sounded good on paper (we met online). He seems like a decent person but is very introvert and has a close relationship with his sister and his mum but has lived alone for 10 years. We have been gradually getting to know each other. ... (421 words)

Boyfriend knows I'm insecure so why does he do things to make me feel worse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my boyfriend for the last three years and have always struggled with insecurity and sometimes jealousy. We work on the same floor now and I often find myself consumed with jealousy and paranoia when I see him talking with certain girls. There is this girl a... (470 words)

The man I'm dating wants to borrow 20,000.00. How do I tell him no nicely?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, The man with whom I'm in love has been offered a contract worth $ 270 000. He is so thrilled about this new opportunity. However, to be able to execute the contract, he has to show proof that he has $50 000 in his bank account. He only have part of the money in his bank... (150 words)

I fell for a scam. Can I get my money back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have just fallen for quite a (lucrative for them) SMS scam, like a premium date dating service, but over text. I stopped the service a while ago, and also deleted the numbers and the texts. Meanwhile I found an email I had sent to the company providing the service and a ... (83 words)

He was taking pills for a STD a week before he met me. He never told me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey All, I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I recently found he had sex with a girl he was seeing, just a week before we met. He had told me it was a month and a half since he last had sex. But this isn't a big deal to me about having sex a week before he met me. Be... (515 words)

Should I mention on first date that I'm trying to quit smoking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok so here goes. I'm a 31 year old virgin. I've asked out a girl from work. She said she doesn't date smokers but would like to go out for a drink. We are going for a pint tomorrow and I'm starting to get anxious. Ive never dated so I'm worried about making a tit of myself. I ... (131 words)

Why am I so bothered by what my ex thinks of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 38 and my controlling ex of 3 years just dumped me saying he cant give me what I want (a full time relationship rather than seeing him at week ends as we live an hour from each other) He was a great guy to start with but the cracks soon appeared and he was soon criticz... (312 words)

How do you make yourself feel sexy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (?) age 41-50 - I have gain a lot of weight over the years and I am obviously not the same size I was as a teenager, I have accepted that is the case and am working on losing the weight, but I do not associate myself as sexy, I am confident mentally, but not physically. My weight will not come ... (148 words)

Would you find it offensive to be told you are his first black girl?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (?) age 41-50 - I am a black single female who is born and bred in a multi-cultural city. I date/pursue men who I am initially attracted to and this can be of any race different to my own. I have noticed that on more than a few occasions if I become close with a guy, they would say “You are my ... (134 words)

Hot girl at work! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

- A small part of my job is to do pest control. The jobs that i do are all within a work environment like offices etc. I have had some bait boxes at this office for the last couple of months now and there is this really nice looking girl. She always makes a point of talking to me ... (261 words)

Is it wrong of me check on my ex crush's page just to make sure his alive and okay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - There a guy an old crush till recently I really thought I was over him but I guess part still has some feelings. Long story short on my first day at uni at coffee shop. ii started eye flirted with cute guy across the room we both with other ppl so didn't get chance to talk but ... (274 words)

Advice needed... Is my brother for real???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So my brother has been a drug user for 8 years. He also does pot/weed. He has been cheating on his wife since they were dating but his wife still married him. His wife gorges on alcohol and is frequent at bars. They have a 4 year old daughter. My brother cheats on his wife eve... (322 words)

Am I being too controlling with him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, so iv been with my boyfriend now for two years and i am starting to feel very jealous and controlling over him i don't like him going out with his friends recently he said he was going to a gig with a girl friend of his and that i wasnt allowed to go as he wanted to spend ... (245 words)

I'm getting such mixed signals....does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4368 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey So I have this childhood friend, 'X'. We drifted apart in the middle because he went to a boarding school. When he visited once in the middle, I was an ugly duckling and he was kind of cute. I fell for him. And bad. Anyway, we kept in touch then on and I've grown up to... (295 words)

Why does he ask if I'm ok so frequently? And why is he nervous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and everything is fine, im just slightly confused about something. We are very close and intimate with each other and some occasions it can be a really intense connection (we havnt said I love you or anything else like that to eac... (276 words)

The destructive effects of porn?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a partner who watches porn and looks at pictures of naked women. I couldn't understand this so I gave it a go myself. Problem is I think I prefer the porn, I don't want to make a habit of it as morally and for my own reasons I don't find porn unacceptable but... (141 words)

How many sex positions do you use when having sex? Are my boyfriend and I normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - how many different sex positions do you use when having sex? like in one night, and also in total? like within the last couple months, how many different positions have you used? me and my boyfriend use maybe about 10 in total. is that not normal?... (46 words)

My boyfriend never buys me anything! Should I bring this up, and if so, how do it do it?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend never buys me anything!!! When we had been going out for about 2 months, he bought me a birthday present, but didn't even pay for my dinner! We always split EVERYTHING, he never even offers to pay. Which really makes me upset. I havn't brought it up to him thou... (151 words)

Its been 3 weeks! Why doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 months. Not very long, I know. We've been friends for about 3 years. We had started hanging out more and more, and eventually I ended up staying over at his house a few nights, and eventually we slept together. Things have been ... (248 words)

My girlfriend accidentally found the engagement ring I bought her

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I bought an engagement ring for my live-in girlfriend a few months back. In fact, I had it custom made. I hadn't found the right time to propose yet, so I hid it away in a silver box on the top shelf of the cabinet we keep wine glasses in. We use that cabinet a lot, but almo... (353 words)

Can anyone shed any light on the "husband as head of household" concept?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Can anyone give me some perspective on the husband as the "head of the household"? My fiance comes from a religious background and says this is important.I would like to understand what it is goig to mean in terms of how things will be different once we are married. And does a ... (67 words)

Financial situation with husband's kids, ex and myself is making me want to leave the marriage!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age - My stepdaughter has been living with us for 4 months. She does not pay rent, clean house or buy food. She has a full time job but spends her money on wine, clothes and going out. That brings me to my problem. Her mom and dad have the wackiest financial arrangement I have ever ... (655 words)

Girls seem to like me as a friend. So why can't I convert any of my friends into a Genuine Girl friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I’ll be turning 27 soon and have never had any sort of romantic relationship with a woman. I just can’t seem to figure this out. From what I hear from friends and family I should have no problem attracting women. I’m told that I’m an attractive guy and I tend to agree. ... (406 words)

What can I do to turn things around? My hot taller older cousin gets the girls. I get zilch. I'ts making me jealous of him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I am intensely jealous of my older cousin. He is very tall about 6'2 and is called handsome by so many girls who meet him. He has hooked up with many girls. I am only 5'8 and i am not anything special. We both have steady futures so I cant use that to boost myself either. ... (266 words)

Is there potential for a relationship between this 27 year old Veteran and me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Do you think a 27 year old guy would ever take a 19 year old seriously? He works, goes to school, has his own place and is a veteran. On the other hand I am still in school and I have a child (9 months) I really don't have much to offer a grown man. He is nice to me an... (107 words)

Is it the way I act that is making my Bf lose interest? For instance he didn't bother to give me a Birthday present this year

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am unsure on how to act around my bf or how he feels. He seems to lack interest in me. I do not know if I am doing something wrong, or if he just does not love me anymore??? He claims he loves me and we have been serious for 3 yeara, we have never had a huge fight , just ... (799 words)

Am I being selfish? Three week baby sitting assignment I do not want. Help me rebut their fallacious arguments

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am single and I like babysitting my nephews and nieces from time to time. But now I think my family are asking too much of me. I live alone and I work full time. Just because I am not married and don't have children does not mean I don't want children one day, because ... (533 words)

Does he have another reason why he's not willing to let me help? He doesn't want to allow me to be the designated driver when he goes out drinking with his female colleagues.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4402 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm recently married. Things generally are very good with our relationship. Just today, though, my husband told me that he has to travel to his company's other office a couple hours away sometime next week, and that he's going to stay after work and have drinks with his co-w... (218 words)

I don't want to be just friends. But how do I get past the fact that I think she's in a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4402 days ago

2 November 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 16, and I really like this girl who's the same age. She goes to a different school than me, so it's not possible to see her every day. She is already in a relationship, but we talk at least every other day. She hasn't told me she is in a relationship, my fri... (113 words)

My irresponsible 17 year old sister wants to get pregnant again just because I am! Should I advise her, talk to our family or just let her make her own mistakes?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4399 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Two years ago my 15 year old sister became pregnant with her daughter. Things really did not go well at first, she had trouble dealing with a newborn and was reluctant to give up her social life leaving my mother and myself no choise but to step in for the sake of my niece. My ... (199 words)

Do you think I should ask this guy out? He's older to me and a co-worker

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4400 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi so I was just wondering what I should do. I am 20 and I am head over heels for a guy that I have known for about 8 months. We met when I started working for the same company as him- he is a coworker not my boss- and I have developed feelings for him. Initially, I thought ... (203 words)

Should I just take some time out to be single?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Since I was 16 the longest I've been single is about a week. I have had an 8 year relationship and I've just come out of a 7 month relationship. Within a couple of days I was on a date with somebody else. My ex wasn't at all nice to me, really jealous and possessive and made ... (176 words)

Is it possible to become this depressed in a matter of four days?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4370 days ago

2 November 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - For the past two months, I've had my eye on this guy who goes to my school. Let's call him "C". C is two years younger than me. We've started dating a little over a week ago. I've convinced myself that I really like him, but now I'm not so sure. I've been very depressed for the ... (195 words)