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*ueenofthegreen27
writes:I am just getting over a bad relationship I had a few months ago, and getting back to feeling myself again. I am definitely a relationship type of girl, I don't really like flings (just how I am) and I am definitely not looking for anything just sexual with a guy. However, I am a very sexual person and when I'm attracted to someone, I flirt with them. I don't want to give guys the wrong impression, that I just want to have sex, or that I am willing to just have a sexual relationship with someone, and I know myself that I am not "easy" but today I was talking to one of my co-workers, who I find very attractive, and I said a sexual innuendo.Immediately after I thought to myself, "Do guys lose interest or become bored of girls who use innuendos, do they go into an 'easy' category in their brain?" I have nothing against sexual innuendos and don't consider people slutty if they use them while flirting, but just curious to what guys think (maybe it's perceived differently depending on the guy).Keep in mind I'm only 20, so still pretty new to the dating world. Any answers would be appreciated. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I think men react better to a woman with a mind of her own, who has a great, confident personality and can have intelligent conversations. Flirting wih limits (without sexual innuendos) is probably better and differentiates you from other women. You'll probably attract better men too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2012): "Guys, do you think a girl comes off as 'slutty' or 'easy' when using sexual innuedos while flirting?"
No, a girl only comes off as 'slutty' or 'easy' when she puts out with minimal effort required on our part, because that proves she IS 'slutty' AND 'easy.'
"Do guys lose interest or become bored of girls who use innuendos, do they go into an 'easy' category in their brain?"
As the late great Groucho Marx (legendary US comedian whose career spanned several decades, from vaudeville to television) once observed, "love goes out the door and comes innuendo," which I interpret as meaning that talking dirty is an art form, and if a woman can lace her conversations with racy (but not obscene) double entendres, then you'll have intelligent horny guys panting, if there are any intelligent guys your age who can appreciate such classic timeless adult humor.
I honestly and sincerely suggest you familiarize yourself with the legacy of another American pop culture icon, Marilyn Monroe, who despite her blonde bombshell looks and curvaceous body, specialized in breathy innocent sensuality to hilarious and arousing effect.
Just remember it's all about the chase. As one of Marilyn's onscreen female pals advised her at the end of a classic film as they walk down the aisle for their double wedding , "Remember, Honey, on your wedding day it's all right to say 'yes.'"
You can say anything else leading up to that moment (or what you consider the right time for you) and not be considered 'slutty' or 'easy' as long as you DON'T say "yes." That's the one word that makes a girl come off as 'slutty' or 'easy.'
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