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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I can't lie to myself and say I'm truly happy...but why do I feel so shallow?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel mildly shallow about feeling this way, but regardless, here it is. I'm young, healthy, middle class, smart with perfect academic achievements, pretty enough. I should be reasonably content with all of this, but instead I consistently feel as though something's lack... (403 words)

Getting a contraceptive implant in my arm tomorrow...any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i'm getting the contraceptive implant in my arm tomorrow and i'm really scared of getting it done. any one got any ideas on how to not get scared and to not focus on it? thanks... (35 words)

Sex is like...?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I really want to have sex but don't have a boyfriend. Could someone please tell me what it feels like to have sex. Like comparisons. ... (25 words)

Confident when drunk and flirting...shy when we're intimate...How do I gain confidence?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4733 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in my current job now for the last 6 months and moved departments 3 months ago. That was where I met this guy who isnt quite in my department but is close by...close enough that I see him daily. Well if im being honest Im rather popular with the males at work, i... (397 words)

My ex and I kissed and were flirting and we are both with others!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello I am very confused at the moment, my ex broke up with me a year ago, and a couple of months ago i found out through FB (he wasn't very careful with his privacy) that he was dating this other girl (much younger) and apparently he was very happy with her, at first i was o... (239 words)

Worried about revealing photo I sent to my friend, I never told my b/f about it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so to start out... i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. last year, i sent a revealing photo to one of our friends. the picture was really dark and you couldn't really see anything.. thank god. after i sent it i felt extremely bad and i even texted the guy i sent it to ... (210 words)

Crush on Friend's Younger Brother . . . . HELP!

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4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok. I have a crush on my friend's younger brother. My friend is almost a years older than me and her brother is only about 6 months younger than me so age is not an issue. I met my friend in high school as freshmen but didn't really meet her family until senior year. We're all ... (395 words)

My girlfriend still thinks of her ex 7 months later?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. My girlfriend and I have been together since June (with a small break up in there) and things have been going great. But when confessed to me yesterday that she likes another girl as more than a friend and can't bring herself to delete a photo of her taken last June, the ... (111 words)

How do you communicate with someone who is so closed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4733 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello there - I am having serious communication issues with my partner and it seems to be going downhill rapidly. I really dont know what to do about it apart from leave him or get relationship counselling. I am at the end of my tether trying to communicate and now we dont ... (536 words)

Fun things that LDR couples can do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a very happy and strong long distance relationship with my boyfriend and have been for a year now. It's still a little while until we can physically be together so until then I want to keep the romance and excitement alive by finding more fun things to do together. What ... (71 words)

I'm wondering if my ex is in denial that he still loves me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupids, I am friends with my ex boyfriend. We broke in the summer of last year. We talk regularly. Hasn't been easy at times but we're both getting on with things. We've both being seeing other people etc etc I recently spoke to him on the phone (wish him a happy new ye... (287 words)

Tips for new and exciting sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! I'm going out of town for a vacation with my boyfriend next week. He's been out of the country for 3 months for work, and what I'm looking for are some tips for some new and exciting sex. Mostly to the men out there, what is something that you would love for your... (78 words)

Any advice on dealing with rejection? And how to hold out hope that one day I will find someone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm feeling a bit sad about the possibility of being rejected by someone who I was convinced that was interested in me. I posted a question on here asking if people agreed with me that the fact that he has not replied to a message I sent him means that he is not interest... (247 words)

His crazy ex endlessly contacts him and now knows our address, and sent him a card, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi aunts... I need some help. My boyfriend of two years had a very mentally unstable girlfriend about 6 years ago. He still cares about her and wants to help her be happy, but they aren't talking atm because she is inappropriate when it comes to our relationship. I've nev... (461 words)

Are all sexual relationships a roller coaster ride?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been warned by a lot of people that sexual relationships are not all their cracked up to be. That there are a lot of ups and downs. Is this true? Or is it possible to have a relationship where there are plenty of ups and few downs?... (49 words)

1st time about anal sex and I'm worried about it being messy!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4731 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hello all, i am going to be embarking into the world of anal sex starting in a few days and i'm really excited, but also worried! to be blunt i am worried about poo and that i will poo myself! i am also worried about the hygiene of it and any do's and don'ts !! i have ... (96 words)

Is there any way of going back once you've pushed someone away unintentionally?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help badly. I've made a big mistake in pushing my boyfriend away and now he's moved out. I had just came out of an abusive relationship with an ex when I was 5 months pregnant and pretty much jumped back with my ex, realising that the guy I was with was just a rebound ... (146 words)

How do I get my boyfriend to do some foreplay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, I was wondering what is the best sex position? How do I get my boyfriend to do a bit of foreplay before we have sex? He always gets a boner after like 5 seconds but i'm not ready as i'm not in the mood that quick! Any advice would be nice. Thanks... (61 words)

Wife doesn't want to get rid of pictures of her ex. Am I being unreasonable?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4362 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - We're only married 6 months and already we have an 'issue'. When my wife and I got serious and started talking about getting engaged, we both deleted 'exs' from our facebook accounts, deleted them from our contacts in our phones. I even threw out my 'paper' address book. No ... (453 words)

I think about my ex even when I am with my new girlfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - i have been dating my new girlfriend for a few months now and i recently started thinking about my ex a lot and she called me the other night to talk. it was a light conversation between old friends more than anything else and she mentioned how she broke up with her ... (127 words)

What was he after and why did he pursue me for so long?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met with this guy about 4 times. We also kept in touch by phoning and texting each other. He agreed to taking things slow with me and insisted that he wasn't after me for just sex. After our date he invited me to his place. We were both drunk and it was very late. After an ... (267 words)

Girlfriend is going to a drunk sleepover where her ex will be

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now. She loves me very much from everything I can see. We've made plans do take trips together far into the future. She gets excited every-time she comes over and seems to miss me a lot when we're away. Things seem to be good. ... (291 words)

We are so much alike but I think she's going for my roommate!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4733 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everybody I am having a lot of stuff in my mine about this situation. I just get to know a girl 2 years older than i am thru one of mine roommate. she is the most beautiful girl i've ever seen and also really smart too. we have a lot in common like taste in movie, foods an... (127 words)

Should I contact my ex..its been a year. Or let it go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my ex broke up a year ago... and it took me a long time to get over her. I thought I was, but I keep dreaming about her and its driving me crazy! I dont know why I do, but all I know is she kept contacting me for months after we broke up and I stopped replying to her - ... (227 words)

I'm not getting responses from my ad on dating site. Help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have joined a dating site, being an Indian girl I am not getting much response from American and canadian guys. I really dont have any problem dating a guy other than my race. Could you guys please help me in some way. Any suggestion will be helpful.... (50 words)

I have a boyfriend, but am still ridiculously in love with a guy from my past.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (?) age 30-35 - hey guys, little war between my brain and my heart at the moment, so would appreciate outside opinions. I'm in a relationship right now and he's amazing to me. The thing is, I'm still in love with one of my best guy friends that I had a thing with 3-4 years ago. Despite me ... (204 words)

How do you talk sexy without sounding stupid?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4731 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid, i've been looking for ways to spice things up with my guy. i watched a little bit of porn, but felt weird about it, soo i decided to just consult google and see what i could find out (snicker if you must...lol). one of the tips that i've seen quite a bit is t... (106 words)

Are we ready for a threesome?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4394 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi! Want to know if you think we are ready for a threesome. We have been married for 6 years and have children. We both come from a conservative Middle Eastern background, we are not fully liberal but both are relatively open minded. We love each other a lot, but my... (482 words)

Losing the baby, financial difficulties, my drinking, his insensitivity... it's all a big mess!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I have a very difficult situation and am very torn as to what to do. I have always had a difficult situation with my bf but recently things got worse. In October we bought a house together and we have a joint mortgage. I also found out that I was pregnant. At around 9... (485 words)

How involved should I be with my niece's choices?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My Niece is 14 and she has changed dramatically in her teenage years from the very considerate and empathetic girl she once was, to a looks obsessed, withdrawn and troubled teen. Her parents are now divorced and I suspect her Mum to be in part what troubles my niece, I fear ... (352 words)

What is more important? Her wellbeing or my sanity? Help...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4731 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i am a bisexual girl and i just got out of a 2-year "weird thing". well it was definately not a relationship but not friendship either... when i met her we both became interested in each other but we were both seeing people. when some months later i broke up she took care of me ... (660 words)

Am I paranoid or is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, I'm not sure if i am paranoid that my boyfriend is cheating or if he really is so i need your guys help. Okay i don't have proof that he is cheating. He don't have a phone anymore cause he says he can't afford one anymore since he has a lot of stuff to pay he hasn't h... (346 words)

Coping out with the pain...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a break up with my ex last three months but i just cant move on that easily. Every night when i go to bed i can't help thinking of him and by this i get too much pain. He kept on sending emails but i'd rather refused to reply because i find it more easy for me to move on ... (93 words)

How do you deal with people you cant trust?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How should one deal with people who you can't trust? I know this one guy that keeps saying things that I later find out aren't true. He comes up with excuses that can easily be seen through, and I know it isn't correct. When confronting him he gets offended.. as I suppose ... (277 words)

He doesn't open up about his problems, he doesn't tell me he loves me and he stares off into space....what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - why am i feeling so low with myself? im in a ldr for nearly 3 years and we are looking to be together for good this year, we spoke about it last year, but things have to be done to the house so we can all have a nice big room as we have kids from our previous partners. the ... (689 words)

I've liked him for two years but he is dating my friend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - well i have really liked this guy for more then 2 years and then i just found out like 3 mouths ago that my bestfriend likes him to, and now i dont know what to do because they are together... i have told him i liked him and he didnt want to screw our friendship up do you think ... (83 words)

Now I have the chance to make my mothr proud

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Ive been talking to this guy for 3 months. He likes me a lot. I like him too.We have known eachother since the 5th grade. Hes 39 and single.hes been married once. Im 40 never been married but been in a relationship for the past 7years. He knows this and still wants to be ... (185 words)

Will I ever get over my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do I get upset everytime I think about him? will I ever get over him? I miss my ex boyfriend so much. We were so cute together. But we argued most of the time. We broke up 8months ago. Cos he said he didn't want a relationship anymore :(. He wanted to stay friends but ... (147 words)

Has he really got time for a girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was with my ex boyfriend (Julian) for three years on and off. when he finished with me in summer 2010 I started seeing someone else (steve) he'd give me money and lifts and generally looked after me, we only had sex three times. I then went to Spain for a few months- he ... (324 words)

I'm ashamed of my actions!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4733 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone I am asking for advice here as I can´t discuss this problem with anyone. I am so shocked and ashamed by my actions that I have no words for it. I was at a party recently with my husband and some of our mutual friends. We were having a really good time and a ... (815 words)

My Mum's a tacky dating tramp all over Facebook. Help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My mum's using the fb date site and she adding all these guys for friends and flirting with them. I want her to stop because it shows up on fb to everybody thats her friends and some of them are my friends and relatives. She's acting like a slut and its making me lose respect ... (130 words)

My ex will only talk to me about our kids, after I started dating a friend of hers. I miss her company!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - my ex and i split up a while ago......we did sleep together for sometime afterwards. whilst we were sleeping together i was messaging a friend of hers and now we have become a couple. my ex and i have kids together and we always got along well. since i hooked up my new ... (152 words)

What's the solution to her lack of interest in sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4734 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 28 years old and my wife is 29 years old . its been just one yesr since we got married and we have no kids. My problem is that my wife is not at all intersted in sex. Before Our marriage she was always excited about sex but now she never wants to do it. I have spoken to ... (118 words)

Found videos of my girlfriend on the internet...should I tell her I've seen them?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4623 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a girl for about 3 months and things are starting to get serious. We just started referring to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. A few days ago, I was looking at an adult video site and noticed a newly uploaded video was of a girl that looks like her. ... (399 words)

Thinking of moving abroad for a few months....how will this work when I have a son?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I wasn't too sure were to place this question but I like all of your advice so thought I'd ask it today. In the next few months I'm being made redundant and I've been seriously thinking about trying for a 12 month visa for america(florida to be exact). My question is... (170 words)

I don't know what to make of him and I'm worried he might be playing me....what do you think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy on an online dating site. We seemed to have an instant connection and decided to meet up. The first date went great and I know I shouldn't have but we slept together. After that we talked for a few weeks over text and then our conversation got to be less often ... (171 words)

Girlfriend shows a lack of interest, yet wants to get married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. In the beginning, things were great and we were really into each other. We would have sex often, and things couldn't have been better. Lately, I don't feel like she's into me anymore. I still love her unconditiona... (629 words)

I cooked a special dinner for my boyfriend but he spent the entire time on the phone with another girl! Am I right to be mad about this?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of one year is from another country and talks from time to time about foods he misses that aren't common here. Thinking I would surprise him, I went out of my way to make a dish he had been reminiscing about. Since I'd never tasted it before, it took a fair amount ... (314 words)

My ex is spreading rumours that I'm stalking him and it's ruining my reputation! Will this blow over?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - my ex is spreading around that im stalking him! His saying i drive by his house (yeah i have gone past he lives on the main street of the town!) he says i go out in the only club in my town because his there (the ONLY club!!) iv been told his seen me at the beach when his ... (197 words)

Bizzare excuses: am I just being paranoid or is he right that I have trust issues?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - How does a guy who has been sketchy react when you suddenly start being sketchy back? I have never played hard to get and may make it too easy when I like a guy. If we are dating and he wants to see me - I say yes at the drop of a dime. I don't like to play games. Howev... (406 words)

Is she looking for 'fun' with me? If I allowed this to happen, would I be a bad person?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4733 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone. I am a reader and occasional writer of dearcupid and I just love this blog. I am here with an issue today. I apologize in advance for the length of it. I came to USA in Feb 2011. When I came here, my ex of 4 years from my home country dumped me for another ... (716 words)

How can I get over these feelings of frustration without cutting her out as a friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - alright, long question here: ok so about a year or so ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else which i accepted and so ... (228 words)

Crushes that don't go away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I graduated from high school a few years ago. But the crush I've had on my ex-high school-teacher since junior year hasn't gone away. Is this something I should be concerned with? If so, how do I handle this? I'm slightly worried, I'm turning 22 in a few months, should I... (124 words)

My ex was sending very lewd texts to me but denies it....Did I handle this the right way?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone. Over my school's winter break, an ex of mine started texting me. Our relationship didn't end on good terms, and I didn't text back. He started sending sexual texts, each increasing in lewdness. After recieving a few of these, I texted back "don't ever text this ... (128 words)

Am I being petty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He had a messy break up with his ex when him and I started dating. This ex of his caused both of us a lot of trouble. I felt especially affected by this because she would go around saying very negative things about ... (504 words)

One minute she is avoiding me, the next it seems like she still cares....what is going on with her? Is this behaviour because her father passed away? Or has she simply moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm sure this question has been asked before, but I think everyone/every situation is different, so I'd like to ask it again. Last June, this girl (24) became very interested in me and, a month later, we were together. Not too many 1-on-1 dates at first, but a lot of group th... (461 words)

Should I cry until I can't cry anymore and eventually will just forget about him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in this ldr for almost 2 years. We met on a chatline and instantly connected! Every time me tried to meet up,something would always happen on both of our ends, so although we had never seen each other we did skype and video chat and send picture, which made thin... (1051 words)

Why don't some girls realise they're being cheated on?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4730 days ago

4 January 2012 (?) age 36-40 - There's this guy who I know from high school. He used to be a geek and didn't really get the girls. Now he's different, he works out and looks pretty good. I really liked him at one point and never would have guessed the kind of person he'd turned into. I ended up sleeping with... (217 words)

Why does my vulva itch?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4735 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My vagina, and entire vulva, is quite itchy at the moment. I had a bit of pain while touching myself since about five days ago, but that was only when I went near it. I didn't think much of it seeing as I didn't touch myself very much and it caused me no irritation the rest of ... (142 words)

He's shy. Should I ask him what is going on with us, find out once and for all how he feels?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone thanks in advance for your help and for listening. I really like this guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me. We text each other from morning to night and also talk on the phone. We have been for lunch etc and bought each other Christmas presents. We joke about bei... (176 words)

To men dating? What puts you off pursuing a women who has children from her past relationship/s? How many pre-existing children represent "too many" for you to consider pursuing her?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4732 days ago

4 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This is aimed at all the men. When you reach your mid 30's and you are looking for a long term partner, we know most women will have at least one child. Do men have a maximum number of step children they will take on board? What number of children would make a man back off from ... (61 words)