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writes:dear cupid,i've been looking for ways to spice things up with my guy. i watched a little bit of porn, but felt weird about it, soo i decided to just consult google and see what i could find out (snicker if you must...lol). one of the tips that i've seen quite a bit is talking dirty while you're getting it on. the problem is, i can't really find any good examples of stuff to say. i want to make sure that i sound sexy, not stupid...and honestly, i really don't have any idea how to do that. does anybody have any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): Don't shy to talk dirty, be Spontaneous and confident.
you can talk something like...
Thinking about your ***** makes me hot.
The thought of wrapping my/your hot mouth around my/your ******* drives me crazy.
You really turn me on when you do that
Which way do you want me? ... etc
And I found some good resource on dirty talking . you will like it, check this link.
http://tinyurl.com/7vtf3gv
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2012):
 @Tish, no but he did take the bag off my head to check
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (5 January 2012):
 Hmmm... The first thing that needs to be taken care of is peoples' preoccupations with making sex out to be something that is taboo. You are not five, right? No, I see that you are between 18 and 21. That was not an attack on you, but an attack on our society at large, that has caused you to be ashamed or shy about your sexuality, within the privacy of your own home.
Do what you want to do. That is the best advice. If you are relaxed and you actually explore what you want to explore, yo uwill get where you want to go.
Do you trust your partner? Do you like your partner? Do you have a good relationship? If you answered yes to all of the questions, then start experimenting with one another.
A good way to feel people out is to be honest and straightforward in a game sort of way. What I like to do is say, "You are walking on a beach by yourself and you stumble upon a lamp. yOu rub it and out pops a genie who is indebted to you for 3 wishes. But wait, they are a sex genie. What are your 3 fantasies/wishes you want to be fulfilled?"
Trust me, if my girlfriend were to say that back when i was 18 with the first girl I was with, I would have said so much. He will open up, and when you see his enthusiasm, you will open up as well.
Think outside the box and enjoy each others' bodies and develop a connection that you may not have otherwise made.
Best of luck.
Inbox me if you have questions.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 January 2012):
 I think saying things like "I want you to ....." "I love the way you ...... " "I'm going to ...... to you until you ......" is probably pretty easy in the moment. Just fill in the blanks! Just say if things feel good or amazing and how excited you are. You can build on that if he likes it and you get more comfortable.And @Eyes, but first, did he have to turn on the light to make sure he was in the right house? ;)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 January 2012):
I wish I could help you but the last time I tried this my husband made an appointment for me with a Tourettes Specialist.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 January 2012):
 Mostly you're just trying to describe things, but in a stereotypical gaspy sultry voice. If you're uncomfortable at first you don't have to use any stereotypical "dirty" words. Just describe what you're feeling, like hot, wet, etc... and what you see happening. I know it sounds silly, but just narrating what's going on in a gaspy voice while moaning and breathing louder than normal can be a great intro into dirty talk. Being honest here, dirty talk sounds incredibly stupid out of context. BUT, when you're in the moment if you say/whisper it with confidence (read: NO GIGGLING) it can be very sexy. Also as a seduction method, just one line whispered in his ear at an unexpected time (say while watching TV) can be very effective.
Though I think you're worrying way too much about this! No reason to be self-conscious. Your boyfriend will appreciate the effort no matter what. Even if you both wind up doubled over laughing, that's totally OK. Dirty talk isn't for everyone, and a good laugh is pretty easy to transition into other fun things. There's no way this can possibly be bad, even if it winds up sounding really silly (which it won't unless you burst out giggling).
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