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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupids,I am friends with my ex boyfriend. We broke in the summer of last year. We talk regularly. Hasn't been easy at times but we're both getting on with things. We've both being seeing other people etc etcI recently spoke to him on the phone (wish him a happy new year). He told me about all these girls that are chasing him and how he is seeing this new girl for about a month. I asked how it was going?- He was seeing her and another girl initially and now he claims their r/ship is "hot and cold"..I don't know what this means..??? but I know, although it can hurt, I have to wish him well. He is also keeping our friendship from this new girl. Eventhough I told him that there is n threat from me. I am happy for them. I won't pretend that there isn't a little bit of pain..but as is life?. We're both adults and our friendship means alot to us both..We said our goodbyes and both said "I love you" before we hung up.Afterwards he sent me a text to say that was a good call..There is a part of me that loves him still. I do think he's a great guy and I've accepted that it's not "there" anymore. But I can't help feeling that he's in denial that he still loves me. I think he's in a rebound relationship. ..or to men bounce back that quickly from serious LTR's???The reason I'm posting this is because I'm doubting myself. Please feel free to give advice before I drive myself crazy- I could really do with another person's opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): well breaking up is often a process not an event. for many couples, they break up, then get back together, then break up again, then back together again, until finally they break up for good. maybe you're still in the earlier stages where you may get back together or come close to it, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's meant to be. you did break up for a reason. but some times people get really confused when they break up on good terms and stay friends and thus there is a lot of back and forth in their feelings. but ultimately, if it was going to work out, you wouldn't have broken up to begin with.
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reader, punksavage  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 i cant really answer this in confidence cause i dont really know him. but i do know that quite a few men bounce back faster then females. my advice is to let go and move on. hes seeing other girls you should be seeing other guys.
you owe it to yourself. im sure this was a very difficult break up but you have to move on hes trying to why arent you? find a man who your 100% happy with and who iss 100% happy with you
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