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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How to please my boyfriend orally?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I used to be good at giving oral sex, but a man I was with for a long time didn't like oral sex, and as a result of not doing it for so long, I have completely lost my touch. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about six months, and I have yet to make him climax ... (171 words)

Not sure what to make of this

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I may be over analyzing this but i just want a woman's perspective. Its pretty simple i asked a girl out that i met awhile ago through some friends. She said she would love to go but she is busy this week (friday i asked her to go out). She said maybe we can do lunch.. my ... (213 words)

Can rough sex cause burning?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help.... I had sex with my boyfriend and it was kinda rough... well now when i go pee it kinda burns a little... is this normal and if it is is it just because of the roughness???/... (39 words)

I need help to get my ex back, I'm so confused and a complete mess. There seriously seems to be something weird.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, im in desperate need of some advice to get my ex back. I know you’ll possibly think, you deserve better, move on but believe me it doesn’t help, and this is why I’m writing here to see if anyone can help give me advice and to try and understand. I’m at breaking point, ... (1243 words)

My boyfriend? Why did he let this other guy get to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so me and my boyfriend were in public and me and him think its funny to say stuff out loud. So i yelled oh babe lets have sex! and he laughed and said lets do it right now! We were both laughing and i said i want millions of kids baby and he said lets get started. We were ... (254 words)

The old plateau is sinking in again

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been in and out of many relationships each of which lasting for a significant amount of time. All of the girls have been nice and special in their own way, and initially I got very excited about having the privilege to call them my own/my girlfriend. However, after a ... (197 words)

Online dating...I want children, he doesn't

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am currently on-line dating. A guy has expressed an interest in me, however he specifies that he doesn't want children, whereas I do. Is it worth me even bothering to date him? I don't know if I will have kids anyway, due to having ME. I'm not sure how to play this. ... (57 words)

I am worried my girlfriend is not a virgin!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I met this girl and I fell in love with her only to find out that she is an ex girlfriend of a my workmate.I never bothered and am now planning to marry her. We did not have sex because she claims to be virgin. Is this relationship ok? what happens if she turns out not to be a ... (76 words)

Should I tell his fiance he slept with me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

- Two years ago I met a guy on holiday and slept with him. I was with my friends and he was with his girlfriend. Yes thats right people, his girlfriend! He befriended me and my group of friends and flirted with me from the start. Then one night, all my friends went out and I was ... (245 words)

Why it is that I keep losing my head/cool whenever I like a guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear People, I am a 24 year old woman and I have never been in a serious, committed relationship. My previous encounters with boys have been a result of unrequited feelings. One was a fling I guess you could call it and the other two couldn't work for various reasons. I jus... (242 words)

My mum and younger sister make me feel I am overweight! I hate eating and I constantly feel fat!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My mum and younger sister always comment on my weight and how I look. In the past 6/7 months I gained 1 stone but my weight is still healthy and so is my BMI for someone who is 5'8" (11 stone) Both of them are overweight and they both admit it but I'm not and they constantly ... (177 words)

I saw my friend getting spanked...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I saw my friend getting a spanking and now I'm having fantasies about being spanked ... wtf is going on?? She's a bit younger than me but we're good friends and we're always in each others houses. Anyway, a few days ago I went round hers and as usual I just went round the b... (224 words)

I cant get over my Ex! Do I keep trying, or should I give up?

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18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was with my boyfriend for a couple of years until we broke up a few months ago, and he is 98% everything I want in a guy. I haven't been particularly trying to get over him and we've become a lot closer again recently. I tend to live by the quote 'If you never try, you'll ... (236 words)

He's gone hot and cold on me should I give him time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - Hi. I met this guy online and he's travelled miles to come to study in the country I'm in. He first visited the capital city and is going to join and course there in Feb. Now, he's moved down south where he found this temp job. We went out on casual dates twice and he's ... (202 words)

How do I get back into dating? Please help!

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18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Agony Aunts, I was with this guy for 2 years, from the age of 13-16 and we broke up in September. I'm now ready to start dating again, but everything's changed since before! I've never really approached anyone before, I've always been approached, but during the time I w... (188 words)

How do you feel good about yourself after being single for many years ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been abstaining from casual sexual relationships for little over a year now and I'm waiting until I am in a meaning relationship as within my experiences, I believe that sex should be with someone you love and feeling loss of self respect when sleeping around. So within... (118 words)

I don't feel confident going on top during sex! Advice please!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

- I dont feel confident going on top during sex, I know this sounds stupid but I feel like I'm doing it wrong and that maybe my partner doesnt enjoy it and will think I'm rubbish at it, please can you give me some tips?... (46 words)

My ex has been going through a lot and I feel somewhat responsible!

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18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So im not going to lie, I'm sort of confused. I recently broke up with my bf of almost 5 years about 5 months ago. We do have a 3 yr old daughter together which makes my situation so much harder. We still live together and work together. I did move in with my mom for a little ... (750 words)

Does he actually like me or is he just a flirt?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So there's this guy in my class. My year is really small, so I've sort of known him for the last two years. In the past, because we're both kind of flirtatious in general, I guess you could say we've always flirted with each other. Recently, though, I think something has ... (363 words)

6 months after parting my feelings are just as strong as they were!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age - Hi there everyone, I will try and keep this short, and if it does not give you enough information please let me know. Here goes, i started a relationship with an old school friend, we were both unattached apart from the fact she had just come out of a long term relationshi... (270 words)

Dating for a year and b/f will not touch me! He says I am putting pressure on him

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I got myself into a pickle. I think I'm in love with this man I've been dating for a year. I'm 24 and he's 37. In this time we have only fooled around but never had sex. I will pleasure him but he has never touched me down there. He will unsnap my bra and tease me but ... (368 words)

How do you gracefully quit a job?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I got a 2 day bar job, via a friend who recommended me, but have since got a 20 hour a week day job. I've only worked at the pub once, but I don't like it at all. It's a 20 minute drive away, but I go that town quite regularly. How can I quit without things being left awkwa... (118 words)

Dating a single mom and I'm confused!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Having been married for 6 years, I'm now in my first relationship post-divorce (which is kind of strange for me in and of itself). I recently met this amazing woman and we've been going out now for about three months. She is also divorced and has a young child (7 years old) - ... (683 words)

Ex keeps getting together and then breaking up w/me. BF says I'm his booty call only!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid, back in march, i met this guy through a mutual friend. i wasn't really all that interested in him at first; to be honest, our first date was actually kind of a pity date. but eventually, i wound up falling for him. HARD. and when i say hard, i mean harder than... (472 words)

Older male cannot understand what's happening!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age - Hi, I am 62 and change. Exactly 1 year ago I met a woman 14 years younger in a retraining program. She chased me, and even when I tried to point out the age difference, she insisted it was not important. We've been seeing each other several times a week since then, dining, mo... (156 words)

Does he loves me or not.? Any idea to know what is in his heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How will I know that my best loves me or not. He tells me evrything good or bad about his life,his best and worst do's also.he agrees if he is guilty.He never tells anyone what he feels but me. He is ready to help me always,but teases me very often in our group.I feel ver... (103 words)

Does he still find me attractive ??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey :) Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over nine and a half months, when we first got together we had sex all the time and it was good but now he doesnt seem to want to :\ the last time we made love was just over six weeks again. When we are together he will tou... (140 words)

Girlfriend hearing things and assumes I'm cheating!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Please I am need of desprate assistance Yesterday my girlfriend came over to my house to study she was already mad at me because she is thinking I cheated because Long story short I didn't cum the day before and I told her "I'm gonna cum ok" she thought she heard "I'm gonna cu... (233 words)

Getting drinks with a big group of people this weekend and 3 of them have feelings for me! Help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - And to make things more complicated, a fourth girl that is going to be there is the one I actually have a thing for and am hoping to get to know better at this social gathering. So "Girl A" is a good friend of mine; we've been friends for years during college and had both alw... (516 words)

Why do guys act hot and cold? What's the point?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't get why guys act hot and cold. What is the point of being like this? Is this not a form of mind games? Don't get me wrong, I know it's just not guys who act hot and cold but women do it too. I just get confused when this happens though :/. Surely if a guy blows hot an... (70 words)

Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men to go down on me (i know mos... (77 words)

Why won't he put me first?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm a 25 year old gay male (if you hate me already, please move on and don't leave me mean messages!). I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. He is two years younger than I am. We fell in love at first sight and it was amazing and still is amazing at times. But he makes me ... (556 words)

Can all women have squirting orgasms?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3417 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm in my early 40's and my question is about squirting orgasms, which I have never had. I have had a vaginal orgasm only twice, both on my own. Most of my orgasms are clitoral and extremely satisfying. Do you think it is true that every woman can have a squirting orgasm... (96 words)

I'm engaged, but still in love with my ex who has got back in touch and wants to see me! Help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm in love with and engaged to a wonderful man. He is everything and more that I've ever wanted in a partner. It would take me centuries to share how amazing he is and how he worships the ground that my children and I walk on. But there's a problem that's been jabbing at me ... (187 words)

Is masturbation worth doing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4715 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 20 years old and I'm still a virgin in every way. Everyone I know masturbates,but for some reason that really freaks me out. The thought of it makes me feel guilty for some reason. How do you even do it? I know that sounds silly, but seriously. Is it worth doing? Is it ... (63 words)

When he crashed out and went to sleep I kissed him, now I'm not sure if he even was asleep....what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My best male friend and I have been friends for about 3 years, and we're very close. We're college sophomores and we talk about school, parties, sex, orgasms, etc. -- we're really open with one another, which is great...and it's nice to have a guy around who isn't just obsessed ... (331 words)

I'm married and now my lover has got married I have lost my trust in her....what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am married and I have been in mutual relationship with a co worker for few years now. She recently got married and it was mutual decision that we shall continue working post her marriage and we both wont change our feelings for each other and she committed lot of things. ... (309 words)

Why do I feel so guilty?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I posted almost a week ago about my situation but now its changed a little and I want to know why I feel soo guilty!! Im suppost to be moving to canada in the summer for a year but I dont have to...anyways my ex lives in canada and theres a slight chance that when I go over w... (557 words)

I'm beginning to feel like an outsider because I haven't had sex or dated anyone!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I really don't know where else to turn. I am a 19 year old guy, who has never had sex, had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. I despise this about me. Every one of my friends have had this experience before and I just feel like an outcast. Like, I'm friends with many couples, ... (171 words)

Our mutual friend likes her, but doesn't know we're together - what do I do?

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18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in a relationship with a girl who is 17 right now and will be 18 this summer. She'll be going to the same school I'm in (I got a late start). We do see each other often, even alone at my place sometimes. Overall our relationship is great. We share interests, value... (600 words)

How close is too close?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age - Hi Advice sought on how to handle a prospective 13 year old step daughter. She came to stay with us for the school holidays (nearly 5 weeks). It has been one of the most stressful times for me as she seems to have set up some kind of competition with me for her father's... (435 words)

My boyfriend says the mark on his neck is a bruise. I say it's a love bite.

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2915 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Thanks in advance for your answers! Last night I noticed what looks like a lovebite on my boyfriends neck. When I mentioned it he said it must be a 'bruise'. Since when do love bites look like bruises? When I tried to bring it up again he got angry, what should I do now? How ... (63 words)

How do I make our friendship less awkward after my recent comments on Facebook?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - About 3 years ago, I went off to college and knowing nobody, I was pretty bummed out a lot since I'm not really a social butterfly. Then I met one of my best friends. As soon as we talked the first time, I knew we were meant to be more than friends. For me, it was love at first ... (266 words)

Should I try to talk with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4722 days ago

18 January 2012 (?) age 26-29 - I have a crush at school and he's very shy and quiet. Normally, I would just be nice and say hi without being too excitable, we do not talk much at all obviously, because yknow it's only been a week and a half since I developed this crush and I don't like just...brushing up on ... (279 words)

I think I love my girlfriend's best friend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and everyday I hang out with her and her friends. I think that I'm starting to have feelings for her best friend. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking of her. I'm not sure what to do or if this is just someing like I want what I ... (61 words)

He has done nothing wrong but I don't trust him, how can I get over my insecurities?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a really great boyfriend but for some reason I don't trust him. He hasn't really done anything to deserve this. What are some ways I can get over my insecurities? I want to talk to him about it so he knows I feel this way but I don't want him to think I'm attacking him ... (62 words)

Is he into me or what?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have fancied this guy at university for a year now and although we haven't talked much through the year, we went on a dinner date a couple of days ago. We got a bit drunk after dinner and I went back to his and we kissed and cuddled all night. He kept kissing me on my... (254 words)

My girlfriend says she needs time and space, what does it mean?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a month and a half and everything was going perfect she seemed very happy and said I give her butterflies when ever I kiss her. We rarely argued and she also said she never wants to lose me because we are perfect for each other. ... (150 words)

I think I'm addicted to internet porn!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

18 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - i am a man of 26 i have always loved porn and mosted fantasys i have tried to explore most of my sexual appertite but i feel its not enough i have a fiance that is 23 years old as much as i love her she just doesnt fufill my needs is this wrong of me? i thionk i am addicted to ... (134 words)

How often does "no contact" work on the heart?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - We were together 15 months. We practically lived together for six months. We were good together, really understood each other, but our timing was off (he's younger and not sure of what he wants in life). I broke up with him because of his indecision (I still want to be with ... (115 words)

Is there any harm in his posting my picture on his wall with the caption "smitten"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have met this guy once in person before, and we are supposed to be going on a date this week. He has posted my photo on his facebook wall without my permission. You can share photos on facebook. He wrote a comment underneath saying " smitten ! ". Do you think there is any ... (125 words)

How do I stop my extreme jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - dear agony aunts, im currently going out with the love of my life. ive been dating him for almost a year, its both our first relationships. we have never had any problems in our relationship, and we trust each other without a doubt. there would just be a problem with the atte... (239 words)

Help, my boyfriend acts like a child...should I dump him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - me and my fiance were together for 3 years...we have been having alot of issues lately..he brings out the worst in me it seems..we havent spent a actual weekend together lately bc he gets on my nerves and when i dont give him attention he gets in my face and trys to throw ... (483 words)

My father is selling his body!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i reently found out my father and his new girlfriends selling their bodies for sex on a website [name of website removed by mod]. its torn my family apart one of my brothers thinks the sun shines out of my fathers rear end and my sister is getting eaten up by it all. im just so ... (100 words)

We had incredible chemistry, but his friends say he always cheats on his girlfriend. Was I ever special?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

18 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This past summer I met a guy...we'll call him Brad. He was talking to my dad and I walked over to introduce myself. There were fireworks instantly. We bonded over music, as he is a musician and actor in plays and before I left he said "I hope to see you around here more ... (653 words)