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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I broke her heart twice, but I'm still in love with her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I miss my ex-gf so much. It hurts. Badly. I'm not capable of doing anything anymore. I was the one who ended it and it felt right at the time. It most definitely broke her heart. I keep telling myself it wouldn't have worked out, she's moving to Tokyo for a year, on the oth... (134 words)

I feel like my boyfriend is dragging me down!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey agony aunts! Well im in this dilemma that has left me confused,stressed,worried at the same time i'm gonna try my best to make this simple. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now his my first love weve been through a lot and have made it this far. My boyfriend is the ... (273 words)

A new guy is pursuing me. A Player? Why am I so reluctant? Is it because I still feel vulnerable from the break up with my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So i have been out of this dating game for a while my bf and i were together for 3 years and we broke up about 3 months ago. He completely shattered my heart when he cheated and left me for her. its been tough to overcome this but im getting through. The thing is,there is ... (324 words)

What happens after the honeymoon phase?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm confused-when the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends, and the passion and sex dies down a little, what happens to those lustful feelings? Do they get directed towards other people? It worries me! Because I'd want to keep those feelings within my relationship, not ... (58 words)

Is this love or lust? and how can I get over this? My parents don't approve!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Sorry for the long story, but I think it is important to say it all. About an year ago, my friend introduced me to a Filipino girl for dating. However, I was reluctant to date since I knew my parents won't approve a non-Indian for marriage (I am from India), and I did not wa... (639 words)

What is this older man thinking?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Agony Aunts. What conclusions can be made from this? I'd been seeing a 27 year old for a while. I had only just recently turned 18. I decided to take things veryy slowly with this man as I wasn't too happy with the age gap, but sadly began to fall for him after a couple o... (389 words)

Do I have a right to get mad and/or jealous?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short, my boyfriend, who lives about an hour away, went to his schools winter formal. This morning, I see all these facebook posts about that night. It seemed like a lot of fun. Apparently he ground on some girl (he even said so in one post), and later poste... (204 words)

He's out having a good time after the breakup, and I'm all alone with a bunch of busy friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Are there any early forties females out there who can advise me on how to structure my life to move on from an 18 year old relationship? Without going into too much detail, I was in a very bad relationship that has left me with low confidence in terms of making new friends. ... (1070 words)

Did I overreact to my boyfriend touching another woman?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a function at a bar where I didn't know anyone, but he knew a lot of the people. At one point, I came back from the bathroom and some girl he knows was sitting in my stool at the bar and they were talking. After a minute of waiting, he got ... (337 words)

I've sustained an injury, can't play sport. Have an exam coming up. And feel miserable. How do I climb out of this pit of miserable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Last week I injured my self which means that I can no longer participate in my team sport. I've had a horrible and painful week but nobody understands this because I have not made a fuss. I had to make a decision yesterday as to whether or not I was going to play today and ... (197 words)

Why do people think it's wrong of me to not date within my own race?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I've had people telling me that I cant "like" other people from different cultural/racial background. I don't understand why because as far as I'm concerned getting to know the individual is far more important. E.g The guy I like is mixed race (half white and Indian),... (229 words)

I think my professor likes me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i really don't understand my professor. I heard he is usually strict during classes. He has given me much better grades than my classmates. Last time during classes when i looked up i noticed him staring at me, i don't know what happened but i quickly turned away. When i had a ... (122 words)

I do all these things for him, but I feel unloved!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently just moved in with my bf, we were in a long distance relationship. We've been living together for about three months now. He is a nice guy, but lately I just find it difficult to connect with him. I don't get very much emotional involvement from him, even p... (420 words)

He acts like he likes me in person, but just a friend via texts!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So there's this guy in my class. Since my school is so small, everyone is sort of aware of and at least to some degree friends with everyone else. Recently, though, this guy who I hadn't really been close to suddenly showed up on my radar. I flirted with him, and he flirted ... (458 words)

I want to encourage him, but I don't want to be called a tease if this doesn't work out. Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4699 days ago

21 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - I went on a date with a guy recently. We have another date next week. I just want some advice on how to handle this as I try to feel him out. I'm new to the city I live in and met him through a new acquaintance. I enjoyed chatting with him the first time I met him in a gro... (599 words)

Is my married coworker attracted to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Is this guy kind of attracted to me? He's married, so I would never act on it. He's also not my type--he's too "suave/lady's man" flirts with every girl, etc. You know the type. Anyway, I would nevertheless be flattered if he thought of me that way because I don't feel very att... (538 words)

Why do teenagers get more criticism, when they become pregnant?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok im 18 now and before i tell u my story i have a question.. why is it that when somebody young ends up pregnant they are judged and discouraged. sometimes even pretty much told to have an abortion..when we can be just as good as parents as some 30 year old and sometimes even ... (73 words)

He calls me a lot but never wants to do anything, together! Should I drop him or hang in there?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - So here's the problem, I really, really like this guy. He says he likes me too, he calls me beautiful and says he cares about me. We text each other 24\7 and talk on the phone 3 or 4 times every day. We hang out sometimes but nothing has actually happened between us. I ask him ... (119 words)

Extended one-night stands?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - If you decided to have sex a few times with a guy and then each move on with your lives (basically an extended one night stand), did you have sexual satisfaction from the first time or you had to give it some (more) time(s)? What to do in order not to get emotionally atta... (55 words)

I want to be with this girl, but at the same time, I don't.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 16 years old, and I have just recently started experimenting with my sexuality. I've dated plenty of boys but ever since I was young I've wondered how it would be to be with a woman. I started getting closer to one of my good friends and we kissed. We talk to each other ... (173 words)

I've missed going out because she can't afford to.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F) age 30-35 - Am I being an inconsiderate friend to my flatmate, she doesn't get her loan. her parents do because it goes towards her rent. She lives on 40 a week and of course her parents wouldn't fund for event tickets or nights/days out. Well she's the only person who I really go out with ... (333 words)

Am I wierd? I hate to see my boyfriend performing oral on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i feel i am degrading/diminishing him, i can`t see him doing that ,i always stop him and just want to hug him and make love . the feeling isn't bad ,but that`s not how i wanna feel with him , i would rather have sex i had my ex performing oral on me, because simply i did... (85 words)

She never accepts that she is wrong and she doesn't apologize

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a girlfriend who is older than me by 3 years, we have been together for 3 years, but she is too full of ego and pride, when she offends me she hardly accepts she is wrong and find it hard to be sorry. Please what do i do?... (50 words)

How could I remove the misunderstanding? I'm hurting inside.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 and IT's been 2 years that I live in this new town, I left my bestfriends and my boyfriend and everybody I'm attached to and when i got here it was so difficult making friends again. But I made two best friends and we used to spend all the time of the day together every ... (314 words)

Why are many men obsessed with female virginity?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4701 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I mean I read alot of stories on here like this. Why does it matter so much? Are any of these guys virgins themselves? I doubt it. why would it be a surprise if a grown woman isn't a virgin? These days most people don't marry before they're 25.... (49 words)

I don't believe in pre-marital sex and this guy seems to have a problem.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Am 20 and in a relationship with a 29 year old guy that has 80% of the qualities i w ant in a man. We've been together for a year in which he struggled not to have sex with me because am virgin, and a christain with deep knowledge on pre-marital sex. My major problem is that ... (181 words)

Before we dated she revealed that she used to meet up with strangers for sex. I'm disgusted. Am I being too judgemental?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4707 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a girl for the last 6 months. Last week she told me that she has used internet sites to meet guys for sex. This was before we dated and has not done it since. I am having a problem accepting it. It was not my business, I was not with her then, but the thou... (89 words)

How can I get him to notice me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - This is a bit of a strange question, basically I have a light coloured ginger hair that people say looks really gold and my eyes are an unusual silver blue, everyone says they are my prettiest feature but I don't know what sort of eyeshadow to put on them, copper is supposed to ... (200 words)

My husband treats me bad and I have nowhere to go

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I dont know how to stard,anyway i got married to a guy who i loved for 5 years.now i have a 1year old son.but i feel my husband treat me like a shit.he do hurt me a lot but now i stop crying.onerstly if i dont have my son ill kill my self.he dont allow me to any job telling me ... (95 words)

My FWB is still in love with his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I have got a problem I have tried to deal with for nearly a year now I am in a fwb not a planned one just happened anyway I got the feeling he didn't want anything to do with me anymore so I text him and I asked him he replied back with I do and don't what do you think he ... (247 words)

Feeling uninspired despite having an ambitious boyfriend

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4716 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I just needed a reality check I guess. I have the most wonderful boyfriend imaginable. I simply dont feel good enough for him most of the time. He has a lot more ambition and drive, discipline, talent and brains than I ever could. I have no clue what he sees in me. On top... (186 words)

I gave the new guy false hope but I've just realised I'm not quite over my ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Basically, I’ve been with a guy for two and a half years but a few weeks back we broke up. Reason he gave was he couldn’t deal with having a relationship because he was too stressed…Actual reason, he had been cheating on me with another girl. I was devastated but told myself I... (291 words)

My sex drive is significantly higher than my wife's

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello all, I am new to the site. My question is, I am a 36 yr old male, married with 2 small kids. The problem I am facing is that I am all ways horny, and I mean all the time. My wife helps me out with it most of the time, but other times I do not want to bother her so I ... (79 words)

My boyfriend seems more interested in himself and his games than he is in me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I'm 19 and I have my first boyfriend of all time. I'm excited, I adore him, I find him to be the sweetest boy I've ever met... unfortunately, this is a long distance relationship. We have to communicate over skype more often than anything. We met through playing video ga... (425 words)

I've stop talking to my ex. Am I worrying too much about the whole "abandoning" my ex thing for no reason?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - It's been a couple months since I decided to stop talking to my ex. The months after the break up that lead to this decision were full of emotional turmoil and unresolved feelings. The no contact (and anti-depressants) has helped me a great deal with my mood and anxiety. ... (206 words)

Why are more guys choosing to father children in their 60s?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - This seems to be a growing trend especially with celebrities. E.g Alexander Skarsgard's dad having a second child, with his second wife. He is in his 60s. Even though he has adult children already. Why do people do this? Don't they want to enjoy their retirement? I mean they'll ... (59 words)

Should I return the favour?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My female first cousin who is 30 and single and myself who is a single 28 year old male have been very close friends since we were little kids. We talk all the time and pretty much tell each other everything. Well last week we were out on my pontoon boat just enjoying the sun ... (306 words)

I am in love with my ex. Ex who broke my heart now wants to be friends. What do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4698 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in love with my ex. We broke up 5 Months ago after 8 months together and he did it by text after I caught him online cheating and told him to get out of my apartment. He answered that with a "have a good life. Move on" text and would t answer his phone for a week when I ... (160 words)

She laughs hysterically with her friends. So why does she seem distant with me? And claims nothing is wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend and I have been really happy. This past month some activities have started up at school again and we haven't talked or seen much of each other even though were in the same activities. When we do see each other she doesnt really talk to me much, and doesn't ... (147 words)

Music was our life. My husband's attitude is ruining everything. What can I do to stop this ruining our lives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Me and my husband are both musicans or I thought we were. Ten years ago when I met my mate he wanted to date me and be in a band together. Slowly after about 7 years of performing together it seemed like he no longer wanted to do music anymore. He slowly stopped promotin... (178 words)

Suggestions on what we could do together as a couple...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend always stay at his. All he does is play on the Xbox and watch TV. I want to do more interesting things together but I can't think of anything we can do because he doesn't really like going out. Could you please give me some suggestions on what we could do ... (66 words)

How can I get my friend to take me seriously for once?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 17 and my 2 closest friends (we aren't really close, but we're closer compared to us and the others) are beginning to take advantage of me. I'm really reliable and sympathetic, so if *X* or *XJ* need anything support wise, I'll do whatever I can to help. X has stopped ... (217 words)

G spot? Where will I find it? Need to know to use vibrator effectively, thx

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - What is the best position to hit your 'G' spot with a vibrator? ... (13 words)

How can I regain his trust after what I did to test him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - this one,i would like then men to answer me.i'm feeling extremely low right now. i did somethig horrible to my goyfriend of 2 yrs.i tested him from a fake ID i created on facebook.it turned out to be totally dumb because the profile looked obviously fake .he came to know tha... (294 words)

I talk regularly to an ex, but he never told me he got married. Now he wants FWB with me. What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I need some advice, I dated my boyfriend for 4 years, I am still in love with him but,we broke up in 2009 and every now and then I email him just to say "HI'. My friend told me he recently (2010) got married, I was shocked. I asked him if he was married and he said yes. We ... (123 words)

Does he really want me back? Or is he just playing games?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4717 days ago

21 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend broke up with me on October 2nd. We had been together 29 days short of 2 years. After that I did not talk to him for a week and a half, then we started talking again. First texting, then sitting together at dinner and hanging out again. We had a fight on November... (420 words)