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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

After these remarks? Do I still talk to him? Or wait and let him make the next move?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've fallen hard for a guy I've been seeing for the past 2 months. But according to my friend who asked him, he says we're just some fun and he not the settling type. This really hurt me because I thought our relationship was actually going to go somewhere. I haven't pers... (115 words)

I'm distraught. She's pregnant with the baby we have longed for. But she's not sure who the father is. Do I stay to father a child who may not be mine?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4685 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Any advice would be great because my head is fried, I'm not sure I even want to be with her now. Hi not sure where to start so will start from beginning, me and my fiancée have been together for 4 years. 19 months ago we had a little girl who was still-born. Since then we... (626 words)

We have strong feelings for each other but seem to wind up with others

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have strong feelings for someone i met over two years ago and its clear we have strong feelings for each other. Although, we have never bee able to be together because of always having someone else and not wanting to hurt them by leaving them. He was with someone for a year ... (166 words)

Gay man in a woman's body

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4643 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This is really confusing so please, take the time to read and try to understand. I'm a female but I have an extreme need to be a man, but gay. I don't know if this makes me straight or gay. I've been with both men and women but being with both doesn't interest me, seeing a... (122 words)

How do I ask him if he still loves me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - The last week i have been having this strange feelings that my man is maybe talking or visiting another women, i asked God to take these feeling away if it's a bunch of balony, i call his phone and if he don't answer right away, he usually calls back with in the hour. I know i ... (117 words)

I went first but my friends didn't follow

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Yesturday i went with my 2 best friends that are twins to get friendship tattoos, turned out it was at the mans house. My friends didn't want to go first so i did. Our plan is to get all the same tattoo in the same spot, a Cherry blossom. So he goes head and does mine, when he ... (219 words)

If he doesn't want to try again I at least want my stuff back

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

- I'm still deeply in love with my ex, we broke up last October. He lives pretty far away so I never drove over there to go pick up my things. I have a few things I left at his house that have sentimental value to me, but they have absolutely no value to him. Before we broke up, ... (402 words)

My wife seems to be addicted to making friends with men on the internet!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4675 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age - What is your take on this? My wife is addicted to the internet. She is on there constantly, to the point that she neglects just about everything else in her life. I found out a few things and it has been bothering me to no end. What started the suspicion in the beginning is t... (615 words)

We were planning to move in together and then he texted he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Everyone, I've been in a relationship with this guy now for four months. We seem to understand each other from the very start. Our chemistry is like crazy when we are around one another. We fell in love pretty fast( too fast for me). He seem like my dream guy in every se... (226 words)

I feel so bad about me and him not having sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4674 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - OK so my life is perfect but there is one tiny bit problem. me and my boyfriend are so happy together. thats not the problem. the problem is that i feel like he whats to have sex but i don't really want to. honestly i dont think im ready for sex. he says its all okay but he is ... (79 words)

Mixed messages before the first date! Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am talking to a guy who seems realy great we talk on the phone for long periods of time and really connect. we have seen pics of eachother and are both attracted and planned to meet this week. he sends me nice messages saying he cant wait and plans to keep our friendship ... (128 words)

I snooped and found he has changed his passwords

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3112 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has changed his passwords on Facebook and gmail without telling me. Am I right to feel insecure about this?... Why has he done this if he has nothing to hide? Or do people not share passwords with their other halves? We have been together over 5 years and have a... (114 words)

He doesn't know if he wants to be with me or not. Is he seeing someone else?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - my boyfriend and i broke up Tuesday. we have a daughter together. we hadn't been really talking much. i was talking to him Saturday and then he randomly asks me if he can stay the night with me he said he would help out with the baby. at first i said no then i thought about it ... (249 words)

Anti-depressants made me put on a lot of weight and it is really upsetting me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I was put on venlafaxine a few years ago for depression and anxiety. However, it caused me to put on a lot of weight. I was happy with my physical health and appearance for the first time in years but I quickly put on nearly 3 stone. I was on the tablets for 2 years and forc... (250 words)

My chatroom guy keeps pulling me back in right when I think I've moved on. Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4690 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - well where to start. i met this guy online through a chatroom almost a year ago. at the time he was sleeping with someone, and i was properly single. we liked each other met and fell in love. however the problem is that we are of different ethnic backgrounds. he is white, i am ... (256 words)

Why does every boyfriend I have say they want to marry me?!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have noticed that every guy i have been with has told me they want to marry me! And no i don't have sex with them or anything! they just tell me. but i break up with them. (not because of them saying they want to marry me mostly because i don't feel sparks anymore) but i am ... (88 words)

I need advice about my friend and my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - (Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.) So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month together. and in that week i was alwa... (590 words)

Should I accept my boyfriend's idea as a one-off or should I tell him it's not a good idea?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4690 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So my boyfriend and I have been going out now for 4 years and everything is going great. He went to uni last September and I took a while to get used to it but after being apart then spending one month solid together and being apart we have encountered no problems, and as crazy ... (296 words)

Caught between two men! What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok, so this is long, and complicated, and tricky, and anything else you can think of... i've been with the most amazing, wonderful guy for 2 years on the 1st of may this year, he lives in london, and i live in the south west of uk in cornwall, that's right, we are in a LDR. ne... (1082 words)

Why do young people under 18, take drugs?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4688 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hi a drug question here... not about me but about friends and people i know. Why would people use drugs? why? Even my 14 yo brother's friends are using drugs (there his age). He says hes seen his friends with it and take it (he came straight home when he saw that)Is it the ... (139 words)

What's this girl's problem?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I know her on facebook, we share our phones and starts talking and becomes talking like lovers, but I didn't tell her that I love her, nor she does. And then we meet each other. She is a little bit bigger than me... on the next day when I ask her to communicate and ... (149 words)

Guys: What differentiates a woman you met in a club from being 'a bit of fun' to the 'might be girlfriend' type?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - When you meet a girl in a bar or club what diffrenciates her from being the girl you want to make your girlfriend, or the girl who could be some fun? I know many guys (some being friends who do this) meet girls in clubs and assume she's down to sleep with them, or that if... (242 words)

My bf wants a child with me! And I don't want that because he's so unstable..help!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - So, my boyfriend of 7 yrs is giving me an ultimatum of leaving me in March because he feels he doesn't have a "family" with me. Mind you he has a 13 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son who he thinks might be his but he's not really raising either because they live with there ... (422 words)

My best friend refuses to dump her horrible boyfriend! How can I make her understand that she deserves better?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My best friend has a horrible boyfriend who tells her things like he thinks of other girls when they're having sex etc. She has the lowest self esteem (and self worth) of anyone I know. I keep telling her to dump him because he treats her awfully (ignores her when he's cross, ... (123 words)

What can I do to forget about worrying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. My bf cheated on me 2 yrs ago, some reason I forgave him and we're now perfect (have been going out for 3 years). My trust in him is nearly back fully, but I still feel a tad uneasy when he goes out with his friends (male). He's going out in the next few days, what can I do ... (65 words)

I thought we were rock solid, now I'm not so sure!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear cupid, Ive been married 25 years. Raised three children. We have had our share of ups and downs but have stuck it out worked on things been happy. We had an incedent at christmas that left me feeling not very loved. Our daughter and I went to a spa for a couple hours. W... (130 words)

Should I go on this date or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm supposed to be going on a date with this guy this week. He asked for my number on facebook, so that he could call me to talk about the date, so i gave it to him, and he sent a message back saying " hooray ! " ( i think that was because he was glad that i agreed to go on a ... (263 words)

Wife asked if I was going to wear a dress, and other constant put-dozens.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I was really taken back by my wife's comment. We were getting ready to go somewhere, I asked what she was going to wear. She said jeans and asked me "are you going to wear a dress?" I was puzzled, and still am. The thing is I have NEVER worn ANYTHING female or feminine. I a... (178 words)

I found out my wife had 2 abortions and never told me. I don't know what to do now

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4685 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - We have been together for 5 years and we got married a few months ago. Recently she got pregnant, however 6-7 weeks later, it turned out to be a miscarriage. During one of the visits at the gyn, the doctor mentioned that this is her third abortion. I couldn't believe my ears: ... (138 words)

Not sure what to make of my encounters with my brother's friend, who does have a girlfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4691 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so for new years me and my siblings wnt out to a club,I'm 18 my brother is 20 and very protective.We met up with his old bestfreind from highschool.His freind was quite goodlooking and could'nt keep his eyes off me,my brother didn't take it that way he just looked all proud ... (472 words)

Husband didn't satisfy me emotionally so I went online, he found out and we are working on things but things still aren't right

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4680 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age - Hello everyone, I have been married for almost nine years, I have a wonderful husband, he's been the most kindest, compassionate, wonderful man I have ever known, only problem is, is that we don't get intimate nearly enough, if I'm lucky it's once a month, and I'm not ... (315 words)

After being deployed several times, this man says he doesn't feel anything about everything. How can I help him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4690 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I dated this guy 8yrs ago... I know long time move on. Anyway we were young and we only dated for a very short while, but e both thought we were in love. We had a horrible break up and didn't communicate for 2years. Well out of the blue we come in contact again and have been ... (406 words)

Is my wife testing me? My sister in law is way too flirty. My wife wants me to get on better with this woman.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - My wife has family in San Diego that we visit sometimes and over the past few years, on and off, her sister, who is also married, has been flirty with me. There have been instances where she has "accidentally" exposed herself, talked to me about how she has flashed others and ... (577 words)

Four year age difference. is it too much? Do I go with it? I think she loves me already

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4688 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Is there anything wrong dating a girl 4 years older than you are. I am 22 and and this girl is 26 and i believe she does love me because anytime we are together she likes touching me,she'll like to rub her hands around my body. At times she'll try to kiss me and later withdraw... (140 words)

He's a good guy. So how much give and take is reasonable in my LDR FWB ?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I just have a bit of a problem and would like some insight if possible! Thank you in advance. I have been I guess "casually dating" this guy for a couple months now. Whatever we actually are,we are not exclusive as far as I am aware. We have very good communicatio... (814 words)

Should I stay or dump my ill Bf? Should I find someone who can/who wants to go out to places ?.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Do you think my boyfriend is making excuses and isn't committed ?. I have been asking him lately about us going out, but he says he doesn't want to because of his back problem ( he has spondylosis ), and also because he doesn't have much money, but he also said that if we argu... (224 words)

I have feelings for my employee. And love my wife. Can I stay close friends with my employee, and yet not allow it to become more?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been married for 12 years and have 2 young children, a boy and a girl with my wife. At my work, there is a woman who works for me that I have grown fond of over the years and in recent months I have admitted to her that I had feelings for her, but I would never chea... (818 words)

Do people believe in friendships without immediate financial benefits anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4690 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age - Broke people get lonely too. And this economy ain't looking up very soon. Do people believe in friendships without immediate financial benefits anymore. I'm by no means lazy or any of that. I' a hard working type guy . Any advice please? ... (47 words)

Faded love? How can I get back into his life? His heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend broke up with me almost 4 months ago. He told me he did not know if he loved me anymore, or if he ever did. He had a ring ready to purpose to me but then gave it back, we had been together one month shy of two years. About a week and a half went by and we didn't t... (340 words)

Is it University or is it me? Can anybody help me make sense of what is going on here? ....Depression perhaps?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i don't know what has happened? Before I left university for christmas everything was great and I was sad to go home and excited to get back here.. But now i'm back I find that I don't want to spend as much time with my flatmates as before, I've not gone to university all week... (201 words)

Am I trying too hard to keep tabs on him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - A guy I've been seeing for about 5 months told me he doesn't want me worrying about him so much. And that he's not used to having someone to check in with and doesn't really want to do that even though I've told him that it bothers me when he doesn't. (These are not ridiculous ... (185 words)

His friend was there before we married, and I'm not sure she isn't still first for him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - we have a friend who is in the hospital.my husband and this friend used to depend on each other since they didn't have anyone else until i came into the picture. i feel like things were fine when we were dating but deteriorated after marriage-he will accuse me of saying or ... (204 words)

My G/f is utterly convinced that most of her unhappiness has to do with me, and I have a hard time dealing with such a heavy burden

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am feeling very confused and trapped in my current relationship with my girlfriend. I’ve been dating her for 2 and a half years, I am 21 and she is 23 years old, if this is any help. I care for her a lot, yet she is simultaneously a very positive and negative element... (846 words)

I cant bear the fact that my ex is in a new relationship and threw away the 5 years we had together

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear friends... today i found out my ex is in a relationship and i didn't take it as well as i should... we broke up 6 months ago, and because it was pretty crappy at the end, i thought i was completely over him... but deep down, i always thought we'd get back together a... (336 words)

The next level, when? When is the right time to have sex? I don't want to feel I'm rushing it.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - ModNote: two almost identical questions combined. I have just recently started dating someone. He seems to be a really nice guy and we havent done anything other than kiss. we have been talking for a month and have hung out twice.... what i would like to know is, when is the r... (153 words)

I found dirty knickers in my husband's car

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4672 days ago

16 January 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I found dirty underwear in my husband car and they aren't mine I don't known what to do? Dirty females underwears in my husband car? Im confuse I don't know what to do.... (34 words)

Is it too early to say I love this guy? Because I think I do.

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16 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So i have known this guy a little over two or so weeks. the minute i met him., i couldn't stop smiling. and we have spent every day together since we met. We have had little arguements but calm each other down quickly. There is nothing about us that doesn't work. His friends ... (132 words)