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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

When asked if he wanted us to be in contact, he replied" I do and I don't." Meaning?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I could really do with your help on this situation as it is really getting me down I met a man nearly a year ago now it turned out to be just sex for him I have asked him if we will be together in the future he responded with we will just see what happens anyway ... (248 words)

He thinks I don't care about him because I won't change my schedule.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - ok so i'm quite upset and I don't know what to do. I kinda got into a fight with my best friend. Last night he called me because he was really depressed and I was trying to get his mind off of things well he just starts to attack me saying that I cared too much for and a that ... (283 words)

I'm worried about gettin waxed down there

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'd like to get my hair " down there " waxed lol, but i'm too embarassed about a stranger seeing my private parts, and how much hair there is there lol. I'm also worried about it hurting. How can i feel more comfortable about having it done ?. Also, is it normal to have a lot ... (66 words)

She blows off a date twice and then ends things saying she's had enough?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age - think only woman can help me here the problem is we have been together 4 years both have our own houses the problem is it was my birthday 2 weeks ago she says she wasnt well enough to go out and get me a present we are both in our forties sorry forgot that so the next day she ... (142 words)

How can I be happy if a part of me is forced to be repressed?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4710 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi aunts and uncles, I hope I do not offend anyone but I am a semi active crossdresser. Basically I am a married heterosexual man with no interest in men. I have a strong feminine side that I feel I need to satisfy, meaning, I need to feel pretty and sexy on occasion. My wife ... (340 words)

Now that I'm all warmed up he's put me on the back burner!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - There is this guy who I met online about 6 months ago, we chatted a couple of times, he liked all my profile photos and albums, he seems like a big fan of me and comments on my photos things like " very attractive" beautiful and such complements, then he wanted to take my phone ... (352 words)

His behavior is out of order! How do I tell him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Is there some that could help me? Im in a messy relationship and im 5 months pregnant. Im 27, hes 53. Yes i know huge age gap but age is just a number. we've been together a year/was friends for a year before we got together. When we first got together, we agreed we w... (723 words)

Am I sending mixed signals or is he just not interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (?) age 41-50 - I met this guy online, he travelled miles to meet me and now that he's near, we only went on two dates and he went up north to join a course for three weeks. He emailed me saying he was sorry he didn't keep in touch (for a week) saying he had probs, but promised to spend more ... (171 words)

He showed me his scars, could he trust me as more than a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, well I'm really into this guy, he's a friend of a friend and we've met a few times now an in those few times we've gotten on really well, we talk on Facebook all the time and I think he's flirting with me. I told him ages ago that I kinda fancied him and he said he was ... (266 words)

My girlfriend occasionally stays and sleeps in the same bed with her best male friend. I don't feel comfortable with this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend is 22 and occasionally works 3 hours away and stays with here best friend who is a male. He is a straight male with a straight male roommate. My girlfriend, before we even met, would sleep in his bed with him when she was there working. She still does this even ... (138 words)

Does it sound like he might like me romantically, or is he just interested in me as a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - We've been working together (in a bookstore) for a couple of months (he actually remembers how long I've been there, and he also remembers me from when our soccer teams had a couple of practices together about 3 or 4 years ago, even though we only interacted *briefly* twice), ... (427 words)

Boyfriend keeps teasing me about being loud in bed, and it's making me self-conscious!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4317 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone! I'd like to know if you think I'm being too sensitive about this issue or not. Every so often, my boyfriend starts teasing me about the fact I can be rather, erm, vocal in bed. I know he doesn't do it to be horrible, but he does like to poke good-natured fun at ... (294 words)

Dating only 5 months and already he's making excuses to not cuddle/have sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (?) age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for a few months and he is as sweet as hell! helped me move into my flat, would do anything for me, but the last couple of days I have been feeling really annoyed with him but i dont know why~! actually i do know why! we were in bed the night i ... (268 words)

Does dating get easier?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Iv been on 2 dates now and got turned down by both girls when I ask them if they want to meet up again. Does this get any easier? I came out of a long time relationship a while ago and trying to get back into things but it seems SO HARD! im doing ok on the dates i think ... (138 words)

Boyfriend's mom won't let him be in a relationship!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - how can i ask my b/f to do the right thing when his mum won't let him be classed as in a relationship with me, she bullies him every time he sees her which is only 2 collect his money as she won't let him use his own bank account, we've been together for 2 years almost but she ... (124 words)

Did the teacher like me or was she just wanting attention since her husband was away so much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I graduated from highschool in 2010, and there was this one teacher who I had two years straight who I got really close to. She is 7 years older than me, and every guy at the school at the very least, thought she was stunning. Also she was married, but during those two years ... (1023 words)

Why is the ex still trying to be in contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my girlfriend of four years about eight months ago. Things weren't going well for one whole year. That precisely happened a year after she joined a course. But she opted for break up a few months later. But we were in contact until recently. While talking on... (300 words)

Lack of sex a reason to break up?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend and I have been together for just over two years. She recently moved in with me about five months ago. Prior to moving in, she would come over to my place on weekends. We’d snuggle before bed and have sex at least once a week. Now that she’s moved in, things have ... (301 words)

Not being able to contact him is interfering with child visitation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

- Im at my wits end with my baby sons father. Our son is almost 2 and me and his dad are no longer together. We have a really good routine on having our son, where he will have him for the whole weekend every other weekend and then for a couple of hours on the weekends he doesnt ... (441 words)

She says she needs time, and not to wait

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend recently said to me that she needed her space and time apart from me. This i understand, but the situation itself is rather complicated. We have been talking absolutely non stop for over a year now, and then when she moved near me for uni we had a whirlwind ... (278 words)

I'm shy around new guys, and a friend is trying to set me up

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My friend is trying to set me up with one of her friends from college, we havent met yet but he seems like a nice guy from what my friend has told me. The problem is, i'm ridiculously shy around new people, especially guys and would like some advice or tips to help me out.... (55 words)

Just learned that my wife cheated while we were engaged

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4164 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I just found out my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. I'm really confused about what to do. Part of me wants to just leave and get a divorce, but my wife and I have been married for more than 10 years and 3 children. My trust in her is shot. I found out that while w... (414 words)

Conflict on a work placement

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I started a work placement in my 3rd year of uni studying business law in june of last year at a small firm of lawyers. I love my job and am hard working and try my best with my work and relationships created here. I never got the impression that one of the secretaries really ... (520 words)

We're dating, but her family is trying to set her up with another guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4688 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I recently started dating a 17 year old girl. As a couple by ourselves we work out great. We agree on many important things. She's pretty mature for her age too. The problem is that I think her family is trying to set her up with another guy. Here's why I think so. One... (563 words)

My boyfriend got a lapdance at a strip club and now I am struggling to deal with this, am I just being silly?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2806 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend went to see strippers and has got a private lapdance on a number of occasions. Im finding it hard to deal with, I feel inadequate and dont feel comfortable having sex at the moment. I just feel he'l compare the way I look to the strippers. What should i do? am ... (61 words)

Was he flirting with me, and if so, how should I respond?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I like this guy and i commented on his photo on facebook,saying it was nice,and he said " why thank you, m'lady ".Do you think he was flirting with me lol and how should i respond ?.I'd like to think of something funny/flirty to say back.... (46 words)

Should I leave or stay? My ex husband cheated and may have a child with her...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age - My screen name is blackwidow48, because of how I feel inside. I have been married for 16 years, but divorced for 2 years yet, my ex got evicted and asked if he could stay with me for a few months to save money and that was 8 months ago and he still lives here and denies that ... (425 words)

Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and its a very strong urge. And... (542 words)

In a strange place with no way back so I gave him oral, and now he hasn't contacted me. How do I forget? How do I make sure this never happens again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I went through my childhood and most of my teen years being made fun of, and because of that I often feel ugly and fat and unworthy of being loved. I met a guy a few weeks ago who made me feel beautiful and he took me out for the day it was great we had such a good day I ... (399 words)

Is it me or is it him? Has he brainwashed me, or do I need to end the relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

- Back on here again about the same person I put a question on here about in 2010. I suppose that says it all. I desperately need some advice so if anyone can spare 5 mins to read this I'd appreciate it. I'm in a very troublesome relationship. I wrote on here i... (925 words)

How can I prove my feelings are real?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Please help me, I desperately need help and I don't know what to do anymore. I have met the most amazing girl ever. She is kind, thoughtful, sweet, caring, faithful, intelligent, fun..everything that a man could want. We never even argue. What is the problem? She is 32 and I ... (1007 words)

I loved him so much but he treated me bad.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why would you want to hurt someone that loves you so much? is something wrong with me? I loved him so much I thought he loved me too.. He was so nice so sweet, I felt for him and he told me he loved me everyday. But then he broke up with me saying he didn't want a relations... (214 words)

Unwanted hair....

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently I've noticed I've been getting dark hairs on my neck, chest (in between my boobs), around my nips and my bum and down the back of my legs. I shave the legs and bum hairs, but i pluck the other hairs on my body. I'm scared of what this may be, should i see my doctor? I ... (114 words)

Does she like me or does she already have a girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi im a lesbian in my 30s. i met this woman through another friend of mine and we have become friends. she does text often and i visit her once a week. we seem to get on well as mates and she seems to like meeting up. nothing happens we just chat as friends. she says she has a ... (231 words)

She wont invite me over ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I have been dating for 6 months my girlfriend hasn't had me in her house yet it bothers me.She say's she loves me and she is going to move in .I fel like im on the outside looking in please give me advice on how to talk to her about that issue.She said she was moving in after ... (139 words)

People think he's perfect. Yet how do I cope with his secretiveness and fact he may be seeing escourts? He has excuses for everything.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4708 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I'm married with two kids and have serious trust issues with my husband. We've been together for 12yrs and everyone who knows us thinks he's the perfect guy as he is a great father, helps around the house and is easy going. About 2 yrs ago I noticed that he had paid for... (212 words)

Our living situation is getting to my wife. I endure her regular tantrums. Do I change our whole lifestyle and income due to her whim?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4692 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 41 and I have been married to my wife for 19 years. We have no children. We bought this house in a large suburb (120K people) 10 years ago. It's near the mountains and we get a lot of wildlife. There are lots of trees, too, and you'd never know you are 8 miles from a larg... (1260 words)

Have I hurt my Bf's self esteem? I'm shy and got worried I'd do something wrong during making out, so stopped him going further.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I are both each others first relationship. We have not gone farther then kissing. In the past few days, things heated up between us. He kept telling me to do only what I was comfortable with. The first time this happened, I decided to do something for him ... (212 words)

I've been sleeping with a boy who has a G/f and I'm starting to like him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I know this is wrong but iv been sleeping with this boy which has a gf. We have been meeting up now and then for the last 4 months, and I admit it is just sex, but I'm starting to like him. I know it's wrong and shouldn't have done it but at first didn't see the h... (144 words)

I don't think I'm happy in my relationship and I don't know if its worth salvaging anymore..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't think I'm happy in my relationship. The feeling comes and passes but ultimately I just don't feel emotionally satisfied anymore. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and half, we used to be engaged but I found him looking at naked pictures of a gi... (303 words)

I feel so guilty about how easily I hooked up. Am I the hypocrite now, after my own outrage at my Gf cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hey! so my gf of two and a half years cheated on me and it was terrible etc so i thought why not get back out there! so i got this girls number who i thought was pretty cute in a spur of the moment decision, Í'd never seen her before, but later that night i ended up hooking ... (126 words)

I have a B/f yet I watch lesbian porn movies, does this make me a lesbian?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Well, I have a bit of a problem, I have a boyfriend of a few years now, we want to get married etc. Nevetheless, I have a dirty little secret, I watch lesbian porn movies, does this make me a lesbian? I tend to find women more attractive and can orgasm quicker whilst w... (82 words)

While we were broken up, we both hooked up with other people. Now that we're back together, I cant bear to think of her doing something with someone else!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend of 11 months and I broke up around Halloween of last year. We were having issues, I liked her more than she liked me, and I felt I was the only one putting forth effort in the relationship. We were both obviously upset by the situation. During several months a... (452 words)

Was it right to tell the father of my child, someone on drugs who has been harassing me, that the child isn't actually his?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4713 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi. ok so i really do understand about all the parental rights and everything (i think!) but could really really use a bit of advice!! please be honest.. please dont judge but please dont just be nice to me... im 19 years old and im 20 weeks pregnant.. the 'man' i got preg... (661 words)

My husband is against abortions but doesn't know I may be pregnant. Is it wrong to get an abortion and never tell him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4714 days ago

26 January 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - How wrong would it be to have an abortion without my husband's knowledge? He is completely against abortion, but we have a 5 month old baby and I don't want anymore kids now. I misused my new birth control pills accidentally. He doesn't know that I may be pregnant.... (49 words)