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writes:I'll get right to the point here... I'm 16 and have been talking to this girl of 13 for a few weeks. It is purely chit chat, the simple hello and few questions, but as of late I have been noticing myself staring at my phone waiting for her reply. Is this a sign I may have an sub conscious attraction to her. I know I would never act upon ( if any ) attraction I had to her as of the age gap but is there anything there? What would be a good move next, continue just the simple chit chat? Gradually stop contact with her? Any suggestions? All and any advice would be greatly appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wouldn't have imagined her parents know... The conversations have never really progressed further the idle chit chat... And thankyou.. She is very young so I have to be respectful (: x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 ah so you know her... that's better to some extent in my opinion.
do her parents know?
sounds like you are being respectful and I like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou (: your feedback is much aprreciated... No I would never dream of sexting, dirty talk or do anything that is in anyway inappropriate for her age... Yes we are local but we don't hang around eachother... We say hello if we pass eachother and talk on facebook.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2011):
the difference between 13 and 16 is HUGE! HUGE
the difference between 16 and 19 is not so big but still big enough (and here in the states potentially a problem for the 19 yr old if the couple is sexually active)
Personally I would, as a mother, wonder why a 16 yr old boy wants to hang out with my 13 yr old daughter....
If you like her AS a FRIEND... keep it casual.. but I'm going to bet the farm that she deveolops a huge crush on you and tries to escalate this to a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship long before the time is right...
are you guys local to each other or is this an internet thing?
do her parents know about it?
A good move would be to make sure her parents are fully aware of you and your friendship with their young daughter.
and keep it just friends till she's AT LEAST 16.... no sexting, no dirty pictures, no talk of love or datiing...
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reader, tealeaves  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 You say it's subconscious, is that because you don't feel anything for her directly? Or are you actually aware of your attraction? Either way, it's hard for someone else to say whether you're attracted to her or not; that is purely your decision. But from what you've said it does seem likely that you have an attraction to her.I know you're concerned about the age gap but I don't think that means you should stop talking to her. Perhaps you should wait until you're definitely sure that you are attracted to her before making any decisions like that. I suggest that you wait and see how it plays out with her.
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