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writes:I had a friend back in school (8 years ago to be precise). We were really close and good friends but didn't date. Over the last couple of years, we've been in contact, at times 3 months apart. Thing is, I think about him a lot and I feel he does too. Whenever he calls we talk like we have something going on. Atimes, its text messages that he misses me and really would like us to see again. We live some 5 or 6 states apart. There was a time his job almost brought him here, then twas later postponed. I on the other hand haven't said much to him, but I usually ask what's up with him etc. Now I'm thinking of asking him what's really on his mind. We were best friends in school and succeeded in keeping it that way for 3 years. I am now going to say what the real problem here is - We are both married (not to ourselves of course). Want to hear from people in like situations and how they're handling it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2011):
Hi. Been there. 22 year friendship. 8 - 11 year relationship.
DON"T DO IT. DON"T DO IT. DON'T DO IT. Please don't do it. It may or may not end badly, but it will end. It's seems silly, but ultimately you will get over this "phase" in your friendship. It will happen again, and hopefully you will both enjoy the "infatuation feelings" joke with each other about it and talk about wishing you could act on them - but promise each other, you won't. Be honest, open and most of all realistic...there are others in this with you and they don't even know what's going on...don't ruin your friendship, your other relationships and your goodness in yourself. Trust me, it's heartbreaking. AND although in my situation, we've been and still are friends after 22 years and a insecure 8-11 relationship. We have to fight for it every day. We both miss our "good old day's" and you eventually memories of the good times really hurt. Oddly - i'm blessed. My ex from college also a 22 year friendship - and i never went back to a relationship and although we tease and want to - knowing it will hurt us - has made us that much closer. I love him so much that i want the best for him...and i'm glad he's got it..i just wish that i hadn't been so blind with my friend. You didn't for whatever reason 8 years ago - stick to it - I PROMISE, IT WILL BE WORTH ITS WEIGHT IN GOLD.
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