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writes:Did I do something wrong?I have been on five dates with a new guy over the last month or so, and I felt things have been going really well.On our last date, he seemed a little off with me, not nearly as hands on as he has been in the past. We hugged and cuddled, but he didnt move to kiss me for hours. This made me feel really unwanted at the time, I began to wonder if he was having second thoughts and I guess I tried to push him into kissing me and touching me. We have not had sex yet and the touching has not progressed very far.Since that evening, the contact between us has been minimal, and many of my messages have gone unanswered by him.Did I do something terribly wrong? I do not understand what could have changed so quickly as before he seemed so very keen. I am so upset as I really do like this man, and I could see a lot of potential in a relationship with him.
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (30 October 2011):
As long as you have good hygiene and act normally then his actions (or lack thereof) have nothing to do with you. Perhaps he likes someone else more, perhaps he is not into you, or even into women...
If you want to know whether you two potentially have a relationship, you need to sit down and have an honest, non-confrontational conversation about what both you see the near future holding for you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 Whatever it is I hardly think it is anything you did. Why would it be you? You acted like normal and usual. So no, it's not you. It's him. Something has happened with him in his life unrelated to you that has made him shift his interest towards you. Maybe he met someone else. Maybe he realized after these dates that you are not the one for him after all, even if you think you are a good match. Could be lots of things he's held back that he hasn't been enthusiastic about, but hasn't been able to communicate it.
Don't take it too hard. If he distances himself then just leave him be and move on.
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