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writes:so I slept with my friend's friend yesterday and would like to be fwb with him. I didn't know why, but I didn't give him my number when he asked to exchange numbers.. probably too drunk.. anyway, the only way I could contact him is through facebook.. should I add him? will he think I want more? (I don't want anything serious as I just broke up with my ex.. but I have my sexual need too..) or I should tell him explicitly what I'm looking for..? I don't want him to think I want to date him.. (if you want to judge me, then I could tell you in advance that I don't care. I want a fwb cos I don't want to sleep around and I use protection, I know what I'm doing)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 what sexual needs does this man meet for you that a good vibrator can't?
I'm not judging you but I gotta tell you many will, including this boy you want to sleep with and he will tell his friends and they will tell their friends... etc.. etc etc...
I know you know what you are doing... and I hate to tell you that at 18-21 saying that you don't sleep around but now you are willing to use a boy for sexual gratification does mean you sleep around....
that being said... since you don't care about him other than as a living breathing dildo facebook message him and tell him just that... Hey I don't really want ANYTHING but your body in my bed on Tuesdays and Thursdays...
see where it gets you and good luck.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (31 October 2011):
 I will never advise anyone to have a FWB because it ALWAYS ends in tears. Search this site with the phrase FWB and you will see many questions mostly from girls, who started out with a guy as FWB and then they fall for him every time, and then want more but get upset that he only wants sex.
Women are incapable of seperating sex from their emotions, we have a hormone that is released when we have sex that is designed to make us attached to that man we are having sex with. So as much as you think now you just want sex and you will be able to handle it, I would put good money on it that you end up falling for him and get hurt when he doesnt feel the same.
If you have just broken up with your ex then take some time out from men - have a break and dont think about getting involved with anyone in any way, shape or form. It will do you the world of good. FWB always becomes complicated, even if you start out with the best intentions so dont fool yourself into thinking you can handle it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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