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writes:Well me nd my bf (now ex) decided to break things off when his baby momma threatened to put him on child support if he didnt go back.And im only 16 and he is 21 so we decided it would benefit both of us if we waited a few years to go back out. Well I mean ALOT can happen en 2-3 years?? And he says he wants to get back with me and we promised each other whoever were with we'll leave them to be together again . I thought he was just playn around and this was his way of sayn im done! But he still calls evrry day, we see each other, txt each other?? Should I go back out with him again later on, or move on? Helppp Mee Pleasee:/Thank You:)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2011):
 MOVE ON.
he has a baby and a baby mama drama going on
you have your whole life ahead of you.
if after college you are still interested in him get in touch with him then.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 If I were you I would move on completely. Your right a lot can happen in 2-3 years, he may fall in-love with his baby- mamma. What concern's me is that you say we both rpomised that whoever we were with we would leave them and be together, that is a very cruel thing to do to anyone. It seems to me he is using this as an excuse so he can leave and be with his baby-mamma but keep you around in case it doesn't work out. I would say just move on and stop contact with him, you are worth a lot more than being treated in this way. I kn ow it's a hard thing to do, but at the end of the day whatever excuses he has told you, he chose another girl over you, that is all there is to it.
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reader, unmeidaagonyaunt +, writes (30 October 2011):
 Wait ... so he is 21 and already has a baby mama?!
And you are 16?!
And you are wondering if you should move on already?
Oh, honey. Please don't waste the most fun-filled and carefree years of your life on this guy. The fact that he is a dad doesn't make him a bad person, and the fact that he put the freeze on the relationship does not make him a bad person. In fact, he is doing you a favor by giving you space and room to date other people at a point in your life where you will want that (you may not want it now, but you will).
And you are about to head off to college! Do you really want to hang on to this relationship into college?
Move on, m'dear. You will look back on this and realize that he did you a tremendous favor by not dating you at this time.
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