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writes:What's your opinion on One Night Stands? Would you do it?Is it bad? I like one guy. We are just friends and he want to have sex with me. I'm confused. I don't know if I want to do it or not. I'm attracted towards him and I like him a lot. He is 23. I'm 16 years old.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 not good for you!
do not at 16 sleep with a 23 yr old EVER...
when you are 23 and he is 30 then maybe....
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 You don't like one night stands. You aren't really interested in having sex now. You are a virgin. Virginity is important in India.
Then why are you still confused? The answer is obviously NO!!!
This "friend" of yours IS only trying to use your body. He doesn't care if he ruins your reputation. Nor is he promising you a relationship, or love, or care. He isn't promising you any love at all, he just wants to fuck you. Why does he want this you may ask? Because he thinks he can guilt you intro it or persuade you into it.
YOU wouldn't have suggested sex with your friend, would you? You are only considering it now because he is pestering you with it, trying to be kind and sweet with you so you will sleep with him.
Your friend thinks you are a whore. He's not a friend of yours.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with your boyfriend then break of the relationship with your boyfriend. But don't have sex with a guy who doesn't care for you. DON'T HAVE YOUR FIRST TIME with a man who just wants to use your body.
If your friend actually cared for you he would propose you enter a RELATIONSHIP, not a one night stand, and he'd want to WAIT with sex until you and him are sure where the relationship is going/get married.
Use your brain girl, don't let this guy trick you and ruin your future because of his own selfish desires. YOU don't want to have a one night stand, HE wants it. Then your answer should be NO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, virginity is considered really important in India. I really like this guy. I don't like the idea of one-night-stand. I never had sex. I'm still a virgin. I still haven't had my first kiss. I like this guy. We met online after my break-up. My ex is 27 years old. After few months of break-up he came back and we are working out again for our relation. But he is not paying attention to me. We are in long distance relationship. I want to break-up with him,we both have lots of problem in our relation. It's like I'm the only one who is working hard for our relation. I really don't want to cheat on him because of sex. I love him a lot, but I hate the way he treat me. I'm attracted to this guy and I'm confused. I'm not doing it with any stranger. He is my good friend. Sometimes I think its ok to do because We both want sex and we are good friends. And other time I think its a bad idea, because I want a committed relationship. I want commitment.And if I do it, It's like I'm cheating on my boy-friend. I can't break-up and I can't control my emotions towards this guy. I don't know what I want to do. I'm getting depressed because of it. I don't want to do something that I will regret later. He said he will not talk to me much if I say no to him. I don't want to ruin my friendship :"(
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (31 October 2011):
 What our opinion is about one-night stands in general is irrelevant.
What is relevant is, that at your age, it's a horrible idea. Do not go through with this. Besides, wouldn't it be illegal in India? The age of consent is 18 over there, isn't it? Please do not do something you will certainly regret later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): I personally would never have a one night stand. They make people look cheap and nasty - never going to give you a good reputation, ESPECIALLY at your age, you are far too young and this guy would just be taking advantage of you. Please just don't do it, you know it's a bad idea, so don't feel the pressure to do it, you will regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): I do not like one night stands. I don't have them, I never have had them before, and I don't date women who have. It's not wrong but it turns me off in a big way. I have a very different view of sex than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): makes a person look cheap, slutty , easy.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (30 October 2011):
At 16 I think one night stands are a very poor idea, because you are so young. I also think this "friend" of yours isn't a real friend, but someone who is trying to use your body, because you are young and naive.
Are you a virgin? Isn't virginity considered very important in India? If you have sex, will that not reduce your chances of getting married?
When you are an adult I think it's ok to have a one night stand if you want to. But you are not an adult yet.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 Everybody has different opinions on one night stands. But you say you like this guy and he wants to have sex with you. In my eyes this is not a safe path to go down. Because you have feelings for him and if you give in to him and he is only after sex well then you are going to feel horrible and you will end up hurt. Off course this is completely your choice but I would advice against it for your own sake.
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