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writes:Usually I have very high standards (it takes a fair amount of beauty to get a 8-10 mental rating from me), but I have recently met this girl who I would have never looked twice at in the street and I don't know why I am so taken with her...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012): I'm confused. What exactly is the problem here? Is it that you care too much what other people think of you so you wonder if they will look down on you and think you're "weird" for liking her? If so, that's just silly. If you like her, then be with her. You're the one who would be dating her, not your friends. So your opinion should matter more. Besides, all those "perfect" women you would normally go for really aren't perfect. A lot of them get their looks from beauty stores, but many men don't know this because they have no reason to ever set foot in one. Seriously walk in one sometime (in a town where no one will recognize you) and just walk through the entire store and look at everything they got nowadays. Even read labels on some of the stuff. You will be quite shocked at what you see. They got a solution for nearly every flaw a woman can have. That "perfect" woman's beautiful complexion is actually makeup that is designed to blend in with her natural skin color to even out her skin tone and cover even the tiniest blemish, that thick perfect hair is actually human hair extensions that if done right there is no way to tell (and she can wash it and style it as if it was her own), realize when you see the eye makeup they sell that you've never actually seen one of these "perfect women" without it, and the list goes on. Only then will you fully understand that the "beauty" you appreciated before this "average" girl came along truly was only skin deep. That's not to say there aren't natural beautiful women. But with all the beauty products, tanning salons, (not to mention plastic surgeries), that are available to women nowadays, it's harder for "ordinary" women to seem beautiful to men when they are walking amongst all these perfect barbie doll women. Stop comparing natural women to fake ones, and this woman you like will be even more attractive to you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 April 2012):
 I'm under the impression that you feel you've lowered your standards. Poor girl.
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reader, N91 +, writes (16 April 2012):
 Personality Looks
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Haven't you heard?
Love is blind.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Because you stopped being shallow and met a REAL NICE girl?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Because she cast a spell on you....
said as a joke, to some extent but truthfully that's what love is all about.
she may not be a ten to some but clearly you are smitten with her and that makes her a ten to you....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (15 April 2012):
 This girl's in a whole different league than what you've previously been used to.
You grew up in the world of CD and digital music, but I can tell you -- I grew up with cassettes. I was totally happy with them, rewinding, fast forwarding, and I never thought better. Then one day I heard the CD for the first time, and the clarity was mind-blowing. I could hear things I had never heard before.
I also remember the first day I used high-speed internet after having gotten by with dialup for years. Suddenly, things are lightning fast, I could watch videos, play complicated video games, talk to people using video in real time, the works.
This girl you met is high-speed. You're becoming aware of a whole new league, a whole new level of attraction, and you're a moth to a flame now. You'll still appreciate that topical 2 dimensional beauty you see from strangers on the street, but your eyes are now opened.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Maybe her beauty isnt in her skin, as you have probably heard a thousand times if not once, beauty is only skin deep. Maybe this girl has other qualities, like a personality, a quick wit, is interesting to talk to, maybe she can make you laugh, maybe she has smiling eyes.
OR maybe she was able to look past your rather narrow view of other people and see something worthy in there worth talking to.
Why dont you put some thought to it, and come back and tell US what it was!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Because looks aren't everything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2012): Bodily scents. At the end of the day we are animals. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/the-smell-love
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (15 April 2012):
 Maybe you are in shock because you are nowhere near as shallow as you thought you were? Sometimes there is an attraction we don`t understand, it is like a scent. It may even be that she has a charismatic personality. In all, I don`t think you have a problem and it`s a step in the right direction. I hope she is as equally taken with you.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (15 April 2012):
 I could give you some BS explanations about how sometimes people just click, and maybe it's because you have a real connection.
But in reality it's probably just Pheromones.
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