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writes: i saw it before, like, being talked about, but i dont know ware it is. im just really curious, u know? i am confused about that an i never learned that stuff either. we dont have that at my school. all we got taut was not 2 get stds and stuff.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 April 2012):
There is always google and anatomy book. It's a GOOD thing to educate yourself.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 April 2012):
Sex for the first time *can* hurt, but there are many things you can do to minimize discomfort. After the first time or so, sex definitely doesn't hurt.
What causes the discomfort is your hymen, a thin layer of skin that covers over your vaginal opening. In some girls, it's thin or even nonexistent. In others, it's a little thicker. That's what usually causes the discomfort in first time sex. The hymen breaks the first time a woman has sex. Like I said, there are many things you can do to greatly lessen the discomfort, and many more things your partner can do to make it much easier.
Trust me -- sex is nothing to be afraid of whatsoever. The first time or so might be a little sore, but you'll have a lifetime of a lot of fun! Just keep doing what you're doing --asking questions and learning!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): oh i don't do anything with boys until im married.
i just kno some of those words because my friends say stuff and i read about it sometimes. they all said sex hurts though.. even tho most of them probly have never had sex but is that tru?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 April 2012):
Don't worry! Nothing is stupid about wanting to know more about yourself and your body. The more you know, the better off you'll be. The *last* thing you want is some guy telling you what will feel good to you in order to get what he wants.
Yeah, check out that Wikipedia page like I said. Not only are there diagrams, there are actual pictures which will help you.
One thing to make sure you know -- the clitoris is *the* center of sexual pleasure in a woman. Take your time exploring it! Don't be afraid, embarrassed, or shy when it comes to exploration. The more you know, the greater power you have over your own pleasure.
Is there anything else you don't know or have questions about? The more you know about stuff like this, the much better off you'll be! I hope you took the birth control stuff you learned to heart. There are guys out there who like to prey on lack of knowledge, and I'd hate to see you taken advantage of or misled!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): yeah im a girl. i was not taught any of that tho. an im real curios because i feel kinda stupid not knowin it....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 April 2012):
Hey! First of all, good to see you on here! We're happy to help you.
First, to get a basic diagram of your anatomy, go to Wikipedia.org and look up "clitoris". This will give you some good scientific-sounding info on what it is, a picture of where it is, and what it's for.
Second, you're a female, right? As it says on your age and gender on here, you are. You know where you go to the bathroom out of, right?
When you're in private (while taking a bath is a good place as well as in your bedroom after lights out), make sure your hands are washed and dried and then place a few fingers along where you believe you go to the bathroom out of.
If you bring your hand from the place you go to the bathroom from, and bring it very slowly and softly from there as if you're tracing a line from there to your belly button, you'll run across a place that feels very sensitive and pretty good. That's where your clitoris is.
Remembering or using the picture on Wikipedia, just let your hand explore there. It'll feel like a small, very sensitive nub. When you are aroused, it'll feel a little bit swollen, like a pea. This is because it swells and is an erectile organ.
Take your time exploring both with your hands, on the computer studying about what it is, and some people might suggest using a handheld mirror to even look at it. Up to you!
Hope that helps!
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