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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 well in that case dear, I suggest you ask HIM why
I know that sometimes when men (and it's not just one or two who I have had it happen with) would insert their fingers into my vagina... the would use their THUMB in the crease of my leg (where the leg meets the body) as if for leverage... and I have to tell them to stop... it
a. hurts
b. is distracting...
perhaps he does it for balance? who knows?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your replies, he presses using his hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): You like it, you have a pee urge- its gspot stimulus. YOu just need more stimulus before it blossoms into something wonderous.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 Ask him
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 April 2012):
we are assuming he's pressing with his hands.
what is he pressing with (asks the man in my life) so that we may better answer you
is it his penis
his hands
his belly?
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reader, LenaP +, writes (8 April 2012):
One reason might be is bc your G spot is right under your belly button & doing this can give some girls orgasms
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 April 2012):
 If you dislike it, just tell him it's uncomfortable. If you like it, make sure you pee ahead of time. OR, don't pee ahead of time and ask him not to press, just have it be full feeling on its own. I sometimes like the sensation of that, but if a guy was poking at it, it would just feel uncomfortable.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 April 2012):
 I'm guessing that someone in his past really got off on it, or maybe HE gets off on that, since the bladder will press on the prostate or the clitoral area/G spot. That's probably why you like the intensity of it, though you also feel discomfort.
This is personal, but I know that when my bladder is slightly full, it does add a dimension of feeling to me as well, though I wouldn't want someone outright pressing on it.
He's trying to enhance your experience. Just guide his hand to a place where his goal will be better achieved, or tell him that if he caresses instead of presses, it's even better for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Its not so much the bladder he is pressing on but his goal is to position you in a way that his Penis will rub against your gspot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): pressing on your bladder just before an orgasm is rumoured to make it more pleasurable which is why he may do it, but it doesnt work for everything so its best just to tell him its not right for you.
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reader, Rosy +, writes (8 April 2012):
Maybe you should 'pee' before, so when it happens, you just enjoy the feeling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Maybe he thinks it feels nice, just kindly guide his hand away and say "sorry that makes it a bit uncomfortable" and he should get the message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): My guess is that he saw it in a porn and thinks porn is a good source to learn from about pleasing women.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Why don't you tell him to stop that?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 April 2012):
 He probably just thinks it adds pleasure for you, which you say it does in one sense, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable just ask him not to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Maybe he likes the idea that you might pee on him if he does it. Best thing is just to ask him, nobody knows except for him why he does it. But my best guess would be that. Just ask him.
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