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writes:I am crazy about my ex. We broke up last May because we were so far apart. Now we live 20minutes away. I've seen him a bit since I moved closer but he only comes around for like a week then disappears again. He has done this too me three times. The worst thing is it would be very intimate which makes me fall for him all over again. So I was seeing this guy a while back and my friend told my ex. I've been keeping it going saying that me and the new guy are great and really getting on etc.. in hope of making him jealous and want me back. I dunno whether it's worked or not. Tonight he asked about the new guy so I asked was he saying and he said that he is seeing two girls at the moment. Who are "mature" because apparently I have an immature sense of humour. He puts this to our age difference which hurts my feelings because it's only 3 years of a gap and I like to think of myself as quite a mature person.My question is how do I get him back? He's all I've wanted for so long. When we were together I was the happiest I've ever been! Now I find myself crying over him all the time. This isn't me..
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Making someone feel jealous never works. You want the guy to want you because he loves you, not because you make him jealous.
Unfortunately sometimes we need to hurt in order to learn who is the right person to hold on to and who is the wrong person to let go.
He seems like the person to let go.
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (8 April 2012):
 Don't put yourself up for revenge there is no point in being vindictive. Just bare with it I'm hurting to right now and the best thing to do is don't date someone else just to get over another person also don't try and make him jealous tell your friends to stop saying things about that other guy. Humour is suppose to be immature but playing vindictive games is not right.
Goodluck
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reader, KillMe  +, writes (8 April 2012):
The only difference between my experience and yours is that I'm the guy and the ex is the girl.I loved her so much I gave her everything to make her happy, unfortunately I had to work far from her so we see each other maximum twice a week or sometimes not.Sadly you can't give someone a cookie when it's looking for a cereal. He keeps on dropping you off from time to time which means he's not really that serious about your relationship and he only needs you for a certain reason. So if ever he still comes back to you, are you sure that he won't leave you again like the first 3 times he did before?There are so many guys around, try to hang out with friends, meet someone, explore! DELETE everything that reminds him of you. BURN the gifts!Think! :D
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 April 2012):
 You've gotta stop playing games! The whole "get him jealous" thing and telling lies about your life is an immature move on your part.
Before you think about crying, think of how he's treated you. He comes around once in awhile, has sex with you, and disappears.
You need to be direct and honest, because his playing with your heart is unhealthy. You've gotta tell him that there isn't anyone else, and that you're interested in being with him now that he's closer to you. If he's not interested, then he needs to leave you alone, and you need to move on.
No tricks, no games, simply standing up for yourself. You're probably thinking "What if he leaves forever or doesn't want to be with me??" Yeah, that will hurt. But it'll hurt less and for shorter time than his using you for sex and dropping you like a yo-yo until he gets horny again.
You need someone who cherishes you, and the sooner you press the issue with this guy and he either decides to have a real go at being with you, or if he decides to move on, you won't be in this painful state, and you won't be used anymore!
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