Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 25 March 2014: Oh *god* no. It comes off as a cheap line, to be honest, along the lines of "How would you like your eggs, fried, scrambled, or fertilized?" In fact, you scare away girls who would be interested in you with that line!
You need confiden... (read in full...)
My current boyfriend versus. my ex... help!!! What should I do?
Q. Hi, just going to skip to the point realy, My ex-boyfriend- i still have little feelings for him,but they aren't as extreme as some people think, i don't know what to do though. We hardly talk anymore and i'm still in teenage years so you kno...
A. 23 March 2014: How would you feel if you loved a guy and he kept talking to his ex, asking her if she still had feelings for him?
You're cheating on your current boyfriend. If you're not over your ex, you need to break up with your current boyfriend and stop... (read in full...)
Would put him off if my friend told him I like him?? Instead of me communicating to him, in some way, that I like him?
Q. Hi I'm thinking about telling my crush how I feel about him but I'm not sure how to do it and I've been going over it so much that I think I'm confusing myself. My friend offered to tell him for me but I'm not sure if this will put him off if I don...
A. 23 March 2014: Good for you! You are at such a profound and exciting point in your life. Find a mirror and look at yourself in it, and instead of seeing all the physical imperfections and criticizing what you see, look into your own eyes, and know that you would ... (read in full...)
I am already pregnant. So how do my husband and I handle his parents who flipped about the pregnancy because my husband is disabled?
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with the things going on in my life at the moment. I Will tell u the back story. My husband and I were involved in an accident a few years ago and it left my husband significantly physically disabled and I'm now ...
A. 23 March 2014: Wow, what a heartbreaking response from his parents. Life is always a good thing, and just because your husband now carries physical disabilities doesn't mean that he is an invalid who is disqualified from being a fantastic father.
I have no ... (read in full...)
While we were apart, he slept with a lot of girls, including one night stands and gave me an STI when we reconciled. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi everybody any advice will be appreciated. Me and my boyfriend had been together four years when I got into a university in a different country to do medicine. It's a five year course and I would be living four hours away from home. After much...
A. 21 March 2014: He has nothing to be sorry about to be honest. You broke up with him because you thought you'd be away to school. He dealt with the pain of losing you by having casual sex. You didn't "reconcile" if there was no fight, you just re-committed when ... (read in full...)
My ex has some of things and owes me money, do I wait or just get it over with?
Q. My ex has some of my things and owes me some money but I really miss her and I'm not ready to meet up yet. Can I wait a month or so before seeing her or should I just get it over with now so that she no longer has to think about the things she has ...
A. 21 March 2014: Never allow money to enter a relationship like that again. Leave joint financial decisions for when you're married, or wedding expenses themselves. Oftentimes, it's money that unravels relationships, so loaning, borrowing, joint stuff, best to ... (read in full...)
My boy keeps lying to me, but insists that he loves me and only me?
Q. Alright so before you tell me to just "dump his ass", actually think about this. Basically, the guy I'm with right now is the best guy ever. I love him to death. And he loves me. He does so much for me, as do his parents. Through his life, he has a...
A. 21 March 2014: Have you ever had any experience with addiction, whether to drugs, or to food, or to sex, or to video games, gambling or to anything??
Addictions ruin lives when they're excused and minimized, and that's what you're doing. If he's a sex addict a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is tired of my friend and her lying cheating boyfriend
Q. I don't really know who to ask about this so I thought id give this a go. I've got a close friend who has been seeing my boyfriends friend for about a year on and off. He has cheated on her and messed her around numerous times and he was expect...
A. 21 March 2014: So, your boyfriend ran home to Mommy?
He is a flake who forgot that it was *his* friend that created so much trouble for the two of you, so he dealt with it by burying his head in the sand.
He's emotionally blackmailing you unless you destr... (read in full...)
Fiance is having people at our home, not telling me and then lying when caught
Q. Need your perspective to work out if I an being unreasonable or not... found oout my fiance has been lying about people coming over to our house whilst I am out at work and am really annoyed at him for omitting to tell me, and lying about his day. ...
A. 20 March 2014: Yeah, I agree with Honeypie. It's as much his house as it is yours. You're not his mom. His parents should be able to pop by if he's home and you're at work! And his sister too! If you're going to marry them, are you not going to be their ... (read in full...)
We can't have sex unless we are in a certain position. Is it the height difference?
Q. Hi, I have started having sex w a new guy. He's 6'5" and I'm 5'5". For some reason he can't ever get his dick inside me unless I pull my legs up. Why is that? Is it because of the height differential? I don't get it! ...
A. 20 March 2014: He might be tall, but he is small. Why aren't you on top? There are 5,000 positions for sex, and neither one of them have to do with height. He needs to get out of his rut.
Some sexual books may be a great investment.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is tired of my friend and her lying cheating boyfriend
Q. I don't really know who to ask about this so I thought id give this a go. I've got a close friend who has been seeing my boyfriends friend for about a year on and off. He has cheated on her and messed her around numerous times and he was expect...
A. 20 March 2014: Ohhhh man. I would not put up with a guy treating me like that. It is *his* friend causing all of this trouble, and he dealt with that by burying his head in the sand and picking on you.
You have two issues to deal with. One is your friend -... (read in full...)
Boyfriend made fun of me, says I dress to impress other men and then broke up with me!
Q. hello I am Iin desperate need of help! Last night me and my boyfriend got into an argument about him being very critical of everything I wear! He made jokes and basically called me a hoochie!I told him I didnt like Iit and he shouldnt call me that. ...
A. 18 March 2014: First of all, stop crying for him! You stood up for yourself, and he threw a tantrum, verbally and emotionally abused you, and then broke up with you. He did the best thing in the world for your well-being, and that's get himself the hell out of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gone off sex
Q. Me and my partner are both 24, we've been together for 5 years. For the past few months, he wont have sex with me, I try to touch him but he'll push me away, say he's tired, make excuses like 'it's too early' 'later' and he has a headache. I've told ...
A. 18 March 2014: Did you say "A few months"?? He was having sex with you but has now gone off it, so you haven't had sex for a few **months**??
This could be a few things. He could have someone else. He could have developed a porn addiction. Did you two have... (read in full...)
What does he want? He has a girlfriend! I am utterly confused!
Q. We are in 12th grade and both in the same class.We were never close until the start of 12th grade.We aren't close now either but it's better than before.I don't know how it turned like this, but in the past few weeks he acts strangely to say so. Ev...
A. 18 March 2014: The real question is, what if you *were* his girlfriend, and you found out that he was touching another woman, playing with her hair, telling her how beautiful she was and staring at her?? How would you feel if this guy was doing that to someone ... (read in full...)
I didn't want this breakup, how do I get over it with my dignity intact?
Q. I've been dating a man for almost a year. On numerous occasions, over the past year, he has asked for time and space bc he is dealing with something stressful with work or his family. I have respected this and have done my best to give him what he ...
A. 17 March 2014: How do you get over this with your dignity intact?
Very simple: Do the opposite of what you have been doing.
Here's what I mean. Every time he's wanted space or to leave or making some sort of excuse (the neighbor dying was just stupid), yo... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do? Boyfriend seems to have no boundaries and it makes me insecure!
Q. Thank you to everyone taking the time to read this and help. I'm in desperate need of advice about my insecurity issues. I'm having these issues with my boyfriend of one year. These are some examples of what has been making me feel this way. H...
A. 17 March 2014: This has nothing to do with your insecurity. Guys who are taken don't give other girls their phone number. That is being unfaithful and disloyal. Does he tell these girls he gives his phone number to that he is single? That's not flirting, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend got rough and said I made him do it! Am I being used?
Q. Help!!! Boyfriend got a little violet i make him do it. Will men please answer did i? Ok this day was bad i messed up so much. First good sex n blow job so i was thinking we gonna have great day. But right he texted a friend saying he board. Hurt my ...
A. 17 March 2014: 11 years is too long. He's been violent with you for a long time. If you're afraid of him, then you need to call the police. Get away from him. If he threatens you, then you need to file for a restraining order against him. Do you have family, ... (read in full...)
Is he asking because he wants to scrounge or because he really wants to live with me?
Q. Why is my boyfriend pressuring me to live with him?. My boyfriend is going to be evicted from his house in a couple of months, if he hasn't found another place by then. he said either he will go and live with one of his friends, before the eviction ...
A. 17 March 2014: RUN! RUN! RUN!! Break up with him RIGHT NOW!!!!!
You're how old??? By your age, you know better than to take this crap from a guy. He sucks with money, so he's getting evicted. He threatened you with breaking up if you don't let him use you ... (read in full...)
My first reaction was to lie, and it's causing problems now
Q. I’m 32 and my boyfriend is 37. We’ve been together for 8 months, and he moved in with me about 2 months ago. I know it sounds like it happened fast, but it feels right and we’re definitely in love. Here’s the problem: sometimes he goes through my ...
A. 17 March 2014: Whose idea was it to move in after 6 months of dating?
I see some serious red flags here, and I'm guessing his intrusion into your private life and the fact that you're more focused on the crime of lying to him than the crime of his betrayin... (read in full...)
I want my lazy husband to leave my house but he wont go!
Q. hey I'm 39 years old married to a man who is 36 years old we been married for 10 years and have to children together I had two children's from my own things were good until my husband lost his job since tat he become different he don't wanna find a ...
A. 16 March 2014: First of all, with the vagina thing, that's a symptom of heavy porn use. You aren't "big", he's just getting used to his hand grip while you're away at work.
How long has he been out of work? It sounds like he's going into extreme depressi... (read in full...)
My husband wont discuss our problems because I might get upset!
Q. I have been thinking about leaving my husband. I was on a business trip recently and enjoyed my time away, however, I missed my husband. It has been a few days since my return and already I can't stand being back. He is unbearable to be around. He ...
A. 16 March 2014: What is his definition of "not contributing", and in what way does he consider you "using" him?? If it were me and my husband leveled accusations of that nature at me, I'd be asking for examples, and especially what exactly he means?
You'r... (read in full...)
He saysI am too emotional and I find him to be a cold fish!
Q. I am not sure about my boyfriend. We have been together a year and see each other often. The next step is moving in. I do find that he's not very good with emotions. He thinks I'm too emotional and I find him cold and dismissive sometimes. I find ...
A. 16 March 2014: The second I read the title, I *knew* that a another guy has entered your attention, and as I read you say this: "One of my male friends is so easy to talk to and I cant help hut compare", my suspicion was confirmed.
You've been together for a ye... (read in full...)
I am not allowed in his best friend's house and have to sit in the car!
Q. Hello everyone I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And we live together. But living together isn’t the problem. The problem is his mom and his best friend don’t like me at all. I’ve met the only once and ...
A. 15 March 2014: I can only think of three reasons why a guy would be this outrageous and mean to their girlfriend by actually banishing them to the CAR during a visit to a best friend:
He has a girlfriend and is cheating with you, and his family and friends ... (read in full...)
My ex has some of things and owes me money, do I wait or just get it over with?
Q. My ex has some of my things and owes me some money but I really miss her and I'm not ready to meet up yet. Can I wait a month or so before seeing her or should I just get it over with now so that she no longer has to think about the things she has ...
A. 15 March 2014: I will spare you the lecture about never loaning money in relationships, and instead tell you very clearly that if there is a debt involved, you do not wait to collect on it, because waiting gives creedence to the argument that you considered it a ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years, was it the wrong thing to do?
Q. Hi, I'm in dire need of help. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now, long distance as of right now, we see each other once every 2 months for a few days or so. I love her, I know I do, but about 5 months ago I broke up with her beca...
A. 14 March 2014: You made the right decision. You're long distance, and you need someone who is local. Also, she's not totally committed with this, as evidenced by her suddenly dropping you to "explore her options", which is flimsy code for having sex with others. ... (read in full...)
Feeling horribly guilty after breaking up with my boyfriend.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, three weeks ago. I genuinely loved him and felt that we had a solid connection. Yet, throughout the course of our relationship, I had to pay for our $1800/month rent, the bills, and the majority of our ...
A. 14 March 2014: Any guy who called his girlfriend who is financially supporting him a "wretched piece of sh*t" deserves to spend the rest of his life in the car.
You feel guilty because you're used to his abuse. In this case, the best way to stop feeling ... (read in full...)
Has he been leading me on, and if so, what should I do now?
Q. I have been talking to a guy I really like for about 2 months now. He always texts me first every single day and calls me a lot, and we talk for hours. He has taken me on a couple dates and he says he really likes me, and he compliments me a lot. I ...
A. 14 March 2014: Yeah, I'm confused. I wondered if it was song lyrics as well, so I did a search, and other than the 2 other advice columns you copied and pasted your question to at the same time you submitted on here, I didn't find anything.
Did he post this in ... (read in full...)
Has he been leading me on, and if so, what should I do now?
Q. I have been talking to a guy I really like for about 2 months now. He always texts me first every single day and calls me a lot, and we talk for hours. He has taken me on a couple dates and he says he really likes me, and he compliments me a lot. I ...
A. 14 March 2014: Yeah, I'm confused. I wondered if it was song lyrics as well, so I did a search, and other than the 2 other advice columns you copied and pasted your question to at the same time you submitted on here, I didn't find anything.
Did he post this in ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with what he calls his dry sense of humour
Q. I love my boyfriend who is 40 of 7 months but don't like aspects of his personality. He can be very sarcastic and make derogatory comments about my weight. I'm a size 12 Uk and run and ramble, bike on the Downs etc. He makes comments about women ...
A. 13 March 2014: I wonder if he would celebrate your "dry" humor if you started making derogatory comments about the inadequacy and small size of his penis, or if you commented that he's so bad in bed that even a prostitute couldn't be paid to pretend to like it.
... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: Oh my god.
You *are* emotionally unstable if you do NOT leave him.
He deliberately lied about his age.
He disowned his own son in order to have sex with you.
How the hell would you feel if your father said you weren't important? Could yo... (read in full...)
When I told him "no" he sent all our correspondence to my husband! Why would he do such a thing?
Q. He Was All I Ever Wanted.. Okay this is really long story I really need advice not commended for my actions or thus confession. It started 3 years ago I began work and myself and a colleague started to develop feelings but never acted on them. W...
A. 12 March 2014: As you probably have figured out, emotional affairs can be just as damaging as actual affairs. You have to face the consequences of your actions now with your husband.
As for this guy, he did such a thing because this is the real him. Everythi... (read in full...)
My friend is offended by her work colleages, was she right to be?
Q. A good friend of mine has recently been on 2 wks vacation from work, she didn't go anywhere, she stayed in our city and relaxed, saw friend etc. She went back to work on Monday, when I met up with her yesterday (for a coffee after work) she c...
A. 12 March 2014: There could be a number of reasons why that's happened to her. You never mentioned whether or not she is close to her co-workers or not or whether any of them hang out after work or after hours. It may be that none of them are very close, or the ... (read in full...)
I'm a wounded warrior with a broken heart. Advice, please!
Q. I been married 3yrs this September, im a wounded warrior i have some medical and mental issues. The wife and i had an argument i left at 2am to stay with my brother a week or two goes by and she claims she gonna start to see other people. Bout two ...
A. 12 March 2014: First of all, thank you for your service. I can't imagine what you have gone through.
There are two things you need to address because though they seem like the same problem, and these problems affect each other, they are two separate issues. ... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 11 March 2014: Don't move in with her. If he is there constantly and you were living there, it would get old. He would never start paying rest or expenses unless he filed a change of address and no longer lived with his father. ... (read in full...)
Family standards and Norms: I feel uncomfortable with how my husband's female teenage cousins behave around him. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I know lots of families have different "norms" for clothing so I'm wondering if I'm over reacting. My husbands teenage cousins seem to have no shame even when he's around. They will walk around in just a bra or braless (with a shirt so their ...
A. 11 March 2014: I'm confused - does he live with these cousins, or does he stop in and they don't cover up because they're used to all women?
They may have an upbringing of not mattering about what they wear that differs from yours. My best friend and I had diff... (read in full...)
Was he falling for me or was I just a distraction?
Q. I made contact with an old childhood friend on Facebook...we are both in our 40s now and it was nice to catch up on what had happened in our lives.We are both married and we would chat everyday....he said he suffered from depression, I felt sorry ...
A. 11 March 2014: You're married, right?? Did your husband know you were seeing this guy? Did you text, call, or have any conversation with this guy that you would NOT want your husband to see??
You were cheating on your husband in an emotional affair with thi... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I don't feel like it's over
Q. I have recently been dumped my commitment phobic boyfriend. We were together for over 2 years, lived together, travelled a lot and I knew from day one he had a lot of emotional baggage. Now he's left me, but he still texts every morning and even...
A. 11 March 2014: You need to cut contact with him now. If he broke up with you, you need the contact to end so that you can put a period on the relationship and get a chance to move forward without him.
Since he is your ex, the fact that he is lonely or depresse... (read in full...)
The man I'm dating says he's not ready for a relationship
Q. I've been dating this man for over a month and I must say, it has been great. We got on really well and there is chemistry. But the problem is, last year he got out of a long term relationship and told me he's not ready to date (despite him tel...
A. 11 March 2014: I agree with Honeypie - if he's still not over his ex, how much trouble did he have in making the decision to have sex with you?
I would take his words as a breakup. Move on and find a guy who isn't wanting a no-strings thing using a distant ... (read in full...)
He wants me to sell my home and buy a bigger house but his drinking concerns me
Q. Hello there - Am after some advice. I am 40 years old and am living with my partner and our 6 month old baby. To cut things short my partner has always struggled with alcohol but is a loving partner and a wonderful Dad and never drinks at ...
A. 11 March 2014: THIS - right here:
"Can I just say that we had the bailiffs turn up twice last year due to unpaid debts he owed from previous years prior to me. He said it was fine and that we would discuss it another time."
You do realize that this means ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said I was over committing and broke up with me
Q. I kissed my girlfriend on the lips for the first time 1 1/2 months after we started dating. Two days later She dumped me. She said I was over committing. She said she felt I was over committing and she became uncomfortable. What does...
A. 11 March 2014: She has a couple of screws loose. You did more than kiss. She put your hand on her chest, she grinded up against you, you and she were both lying together, this is a month in, and already you're professing love to her?
Telling someone you love... (read in full...)
It's late now, isn't it? We'll never get married, will we?
Q. I've been living with my so-called fiancé for 10 years. We have 2 kids. Originally we planned to get married right away and went so far as to fill out all the paperwork but never ended up having a ceremony because of my student loan debt. Flash ...
A. 11 March 2014: He's been putting you off for 10 years. Your debts were an excuse, and now he's made it clear that he never wants to marry you.
However, what state do you live in now? After 10 years, there are a number of states that observe common law marriage... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 6 March 2014: I'm going to make this short and sweet. If you're fighting like this at only a month, it's not going to get any better. He is a text addict and a gross person for soliciting nude pictures and loose women.
Cut your losses and find someone ... (read in full...)
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