I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 14 July 2014: Like others have pointed out, there's no changing the OP's mind, so the "advice" part for me has passed all usefulness.
I'm curious as to why the OP HASN'T already done it. The last contact was back in March, and 4 months is more than enough t... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: OH - forgot to mention - you lose your virginity in the program.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Have you ever heard of Surrogate Partner Therapy?? It's "hands on" therapy designed specifically for people like you with social issues who are virgins. You actually have several sessions designed to break down all of the hangups like what you ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to give me a break! I am NOT looking at other women!
Q. My problem is this; that every time we go out, be it the mall, supermarket, wherever, she will accuse me of looking at another women, even though I most certainly am not, and most of the time don't even know who she is referring to until I really do ...
A. 20 February 2014: Have you cheated on her in the past? That's the biggest question I have for you. Because this is 100% her insecurity, and it either has no cause, or it has one.
If you have cheated on her before, then this is part of the healing process and the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for disliking my sister?
Q. Am I wrong for this? I'm starting to not like my sister. She is always gossiping about someone and she has nothing positive to say about anything. I hate it when people clean other people's closet and not their's. I'm college student looking to go ...
A. 20 February 2014: There's nothing wrong with you feeling the way you do. Sounds like she's a negative person, and while you weren't bothered by it when it was about someone else, it's no fun when it's you specifically.
I would caution you before you decide y... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him respect me?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and we have talked about marriage. Initially when we went out together in public his eyes were on me, but for the past year he has had a wandering eye and will look women up and down (with his sungla...
A. 20 February 2014: You're right. It's not just "like" an addiction, It *is* an addiction. He has a porn/sex addiction plus bad manners besides. None of us are stupid - guys are visually triggered, and a beautiful woman catches the eye. However, most men are good ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him? I'd like to forgive and forget but I'm pregnant by him!
Q. I reconnected with an old family friend this past summer. we began talking a lot and became really close. eventually he asked me to be his gf. we live in different states so he flew me out to visit for a few weeks. when I returned, we hardly lasted ...
A. 20 February 2014: Oh boy. Well, he softened you up, got you to visit, had sex with you, and then dropped you after getting what he wanted. That's why he didn't care about you getting mad about his FB comments. He was never serious about you and after the sex, he ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has profiles on swingers' sites!
Q. I found out my boyfriend has a profile (or three!) up on swingers sex sites "looking for fun" and stating that he's single. Now he swears they are from years ago when he was single and in fairness to him, it was 2009 when the accounts were created. ...
A. 20 February 2014: I think he's telling the truth as well, but I have a question for you:
When you say "I went to log into an old email address", are you telling me that you're going onto HIS computer and logging onto one of HIS old email addresses?? If that's t... (read in full...)
If she isn't hiding anything, why the secrecy? Why the distance?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. Our relationship has been great and really seems to have a potential future, but my girlfriends behavior troubles me... Yesterday she mentioned that she was out with a friend. I'm not one to pry, ...
A. 20 February 2014: Oh! One more thing - you have friends, don't you? Doesn't matter what happened at the beginning with your ex...if she's being evasive, that goes double. You may want to tell her that re-establishing trust means an equal flow of information. If ... (read in full...)
If she isn't hiding anything, why the secrecy? Why the distance?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. Our relationship has been great and really seems to have a potential future, but my girlfriends behavior troubles me... Yesterday she mentioned that she was out with a friend. I'm not one to pry, ...
A. 20 February 2014: This is definitely cause for concern. If she normally is open with you and this is a sudden development, then I suspect a bit of revenge going on here. Was she really upset about you at your ex's house when it happened? She may be carrying a ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex? It's 6 months since I finished the relationship, and this would have been our 6 year anniversary.
Q. Hi aunts, I'm feeling a little low. I was in a relationship for 5 and a half years. We were childhood sweethearts and got to together at the age of 17. I loved him to pieces but the relationship fizzled out after around the 4th year. We stayed ...
A. 20 February 2014: You ended it. Don't be cruel and start toying with him if you don't know what you want. There is no more anniversary. The 6-year mark wasn't reached, and the relationship is now dead. You need to get on with getting over him, not dwelling in the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to kiss my BF because of his bad breath! What should I do?
Q. So when me and my bf got together, there were no problems, 'cos we hadn't kissed until three days ago. When we kissed, I couldn't help gagging at how horrible his breath tasted. I didn't tell him, though. So I played along. We kissed regularly and ...
A. 20 February 2014: By 16, he should have that down pat. I decided not to date a smoker when I was your age for the same reason - his breath! You would be doing him a huge favor by being honest with him. Gentle, but honest. Tell him that he needs to do something ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 20 February 2014: "These are things I just cannot grab overnight like I can do with a escort. Escort I just make in-call go see her (at her place) for the hour and then leave."
42 different posts on here and you haven't learned a thing. You might as well call tha... (read in full...)
Tarot reader told me to end my relationship. Should i?
Q. Laat night I went to a tarort reader, she pulled out a card involving my partner.. she said he wasnt any gd for more and I need to make the descision to tell him its not working anymore as he wouldnt tell me hinself he moved away in November to work ...
A. 15 February 2014: I've always been a huge cynic of the paranormal, supernatural, occult, and medium activities. I was raised that there were spirits controlling everything, and I think out of a resistance to that, I developed a very rational and maybe even ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable with female coworker and husband
Q. I'm extremly uncomfortable with my husband and his female coworker/friend. I think she crosses to many boundries and doesn't see it. I'm constantly accusing him of cheating and its causing a wedge between us. He has other female friends that I'm ...
A. 14 February 2014: For me, there's not enough info to give you good advice, so I'll ask some questions and hopefully you'll answer in the follow-up. Otherwise, I'll give you advice on what you have said up until now.
First, the questions:
1. Have you accused... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 14 February 2014: Heh, I think men do more judging towards women who *are* prostitutes/sex workers/porn starts than women do to men hiring them. To me, buying sex is a cop out. What will be accomplished?? You'll still not know what the hell you're doing, and so ... (read in full...)
Is it strange when a man doesn't have a picture of you in his office at work?
Q. I've been engaged for a couple of years. My fiance is a department head and he works with all women and very few men. The girl he dated before, he had a picture of them together on his office desk and word love was on the picture frame. ...
A. 13 February 2014: All relationships are different. Don't make the mistake of comparing your relationship with him to his ex's. Maybe he doesn't have your picture up because he doesn't want to be reminded of her. Yes, it would remind him of her, even if it's you on ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 February 2014: I was thinking similar along those lines. A sex doll would have about the same level of emotion when it comes to you. The GFE takes much more than one hour, and I don't know about you, but I'd miss that kind of money. And not to burst your ... (read in full...)
College peer said something which hit a nerve. How should I react to this considering the issues I have?
Q. Slight problem, but this ones getting to me. I am at college at the moment, and i'm doing some GCSE retakes because I decided it would be better than going straight on to A-levels. My GCSE cl...
A. 12 February 2014: This kid's comment should be secondary to the real issue here:
If you have such extreme self-esteem, confidence, body issues, and image problems, that is what you need to deal with.
If you do not deal with it, then everything everyone says is... (read in full...)
How do I find a woman who is serious?
Q. Why do women flirt pointlessly? I have had many situations where I meet a woman at her work and she is friendly and flirty. She will tell me things about her son/school/friends/whatever and after awhile I give her my number so we can talk some more ...
A. 12 February 2014: I'm going to be direct with you here, because to be otherwise would not be helpful.
Always when someone sees a pattern of behavior in the women/men they date, the pattern is with them. In this case, the pattern is you. You're either attracte... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being rushed into marriage by my boyfriend, my parents and even my friends
Q. I feel like I'm being rushed into marriage by my boyfriend, my parents and even my friends to a point. Last week, during a family meal my boyfriend proposed to me in front of his family(Mum,dad and two brothers and their partners and kids.) I...
A. 12 February 2014: Him being angry?? *I* would have been really pissed if someone proposed to me in front of everyone, putting me on the spot like that. I would have most likely gently told him in front of everyone that I loved him, but I'm not quite ready yet, and ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is telling people I cheated on him! Help!
Q. My ex-boyfriend is telling people I cheated on him. I never cheated on him. When we broke up, I dated a couple people but we were broken up for about 4 months. It is so devastating because my ex best friend hangs with him and his friends and they ...
A. 11 February 2014: You could always say that he's lying to keep me from telling people the real truth about why you broke up with him - his tiny penis and the way he grunted like an injured pig during the big O.
Heh.
Seriously, don't crawl into the mud with him... (read in full...)
Has anyone had experience of a lump in the breast and found out later that it was not cancer? Just need some calming and reassuring please?
Q. Just wanted to say first, I have already been to the doctor and I am having tests run. Has anyone had any experience with finding a lump or something abnormal in their breast? I have found a lump recently and I am waiting on some test results ...
A. 11 February 2014: Yay! You're one of those who are a follow-upper!
Try to sleep these next couple of days. Listen to good music, enjoy the company of your friends and family, and no matter what, savor life. You have people who love you!... (read in full...)
Has anyone had experience of a lump in the breast and found out later that it was not cancer? Just need some calming and reassuring please?
Q. Just wanted to say first, I have already been to the doctor and I am having tests run. Has anyone had any experience with finding a lump or something abnormal in their breast? I have found a lump recently and I am waiting on some test results ...
A. 10 February 2014: First of all, hang in there. I'm so sorry you're having to endure this stress. I've been where you are with a different health issue, and it's no fun.
But let me reassure you, according to everydayhealth and other ststistics, between 80%-85% ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to give him an ultimatum during a fight over our one-year anniversary?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend one year and five months - exclusive for a year. At about 9 months, I asked him about the "next step" and he said he cannot even talk about it until its a year and not to "pressure him". So i let it go - until now. L...
A. 9 February 2014: Normally, I'd tell you that one year is too soon to whip out commitment ultimatums. However, I think you're deflecting because you don't want to know the real truth.
He's showing you signals that he's not as into you as you are to him. Wanting ... (read in full...)
Finally stood up to my mother after years of her belittling, but am worried I went too far!
Q. My mom is very controlling..and today, I finally stood up for myself. But i don't know if i took things too far. Over the years, she has constantly harassed me about my weight (always calling me fat, despite me being 5'9 and 160 lbs, and work ou...
A. 9 February 2014: You didn't go too far unless you told her you hated her, cursed her out or hit her/put your hands on her.
She may not be talking to you now, but let her process what you've said. That's what is going on now - she's thinking about what you said... (read in full...)
Awkward ending to a night out with the guy I used to date. Should I contact him or did I blow it?
Q. Have I blown it with this man, and should I contact him or wait and see if I bump into him? I briefly went out with this man last year. I wouldn't exactly call him an ex, we didn't date for long, and we didn't have sex.He still contacts me from...
A. 8 February 2014: If you're thinking about apologizing, you should start with your boyfriend. He deserves the apology for you cheating on him. The fact that the relationship is on the rocks doesn't make it alright to go behind his back. You end relationships ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell people my engagement ring is fake!
Q. I dont want to tell people my engagement ring is a fake "diamond". It's actually cubic zirconia. But apparently according to the jeweler who charged my fiance $700-800 USD , there are two levels of cz, the drug store $12-40.00 and the "better" tier. ...
A. 7 February 2014: There is no shame in what your ring is made of. It's a real ring, isn't it? If someone asks you if it's real (a rude question to begin with), tell them it's a real ring and a real engagement. If you have rude friends who press you for the makeup ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell people my engagement ring is fake!
Q. I dont want to tell people my engagement ring is a fake "diamond". It's actually cubic zirconia. But apparently according to the jeweler who charged my fiance $700-800 USD , there are two levels of cz, the drug store $12-40.00 and the "better" tier. ...
A. 7 February 2014: My dad gave my mom a CZ when he proposed to her. he paid $50 for it and promised that when he got the money, he'd replace it with a real one. At the time, $50 for him was a fortune, and he proposed the night before he shipped off for his second ... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 6 February 2014: Let's rule "weird" out right now, because you're far from weird. Weird would be if you had included "Watering your toenail collection" as part of your schedule or something along those lines.
Now, let's focus on "boring". I won't sugarcoa... (read in full...)
Why do all women judge me by my weight and looks?
Q. Why do all women immediately judge me by how overweight and ugly I am and give me disgusted looks? No matter where I go in public women look down upon me. The constant glares female strangers give me is really becoming bothersome. I try and smil...
A. 6 February 2014: From the way you posted on here, I imagined some 500 pound smelly grease-haired creepmonger who smelled like a cross between dirty feet, stale Fritos, and urine.
Even at your maximum weight and height before you lost weight, you wouldn't have got... (read in full...)
Everyone has accepted us as a couple, except my dad! How do I get him to come around?
Q. hey guys, just need some advice. so, me and my boyfriend have been going out for some time now, and earlier this year in january we decided we wanted to tell our families. so we did. er1ryone accepted it. but there's just one person who didnt and ...
A. 5 February 2014: C. Grant is absolutely right. It's *because* you and your dad are close, and no matter how evolved or sexually open-minded we become, dads don't want some guy prowling around his daughter and treating her badly or after just getting laid. They ... (read in full...)
He cheated with a girl who is still his friend
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently he confessed to having a one night stand with a friend after we'd been together about a month. I feel terrible and betrayed and I don't know whether I can forgive him. I know he really ...
A. 5 February 2014: Even if it wasn't technically cheating and you two were not exclusive, not sexual, and just starting to date at the 1-month mark, he shouldn't be hanging out with her now that the two of you ARE exclusive. You've been together for a year, and if ... (read in full...)
Why do all women judge me by my weight and looks?
Q. Why do all women immediately judge me by how overweight and ugly I am and give me disgusted looks? No matter where I go in public women look down upon me. The constant glares female strangers give me is really becoming bothersome. I try and smil...
A. 5 February 2014: Well, the first obvious question is - are you overweight and ugly?? If the answer is yes, then my second question is - why are you concentrating on what you don't have??
I won't waste space on here talking about how you being overweight is very ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend has had a bad accident but I can't visit him. Any advice?
Q. I'm currently completely my last semester of college (just two classes) and interning at a great company. I hope to work for them full-time after graduation. My boyfriend is in the middle of his MBA program in Shanghai. I'm from the States and he's ...
A. 5 February 2014: You have Skype, right? Phones, texting, video chat? He didn't talk to you for 3 weeks when he got hurt. I think your relationship has run its course if he didn't tell you he had had an accident for 3 weeks and you had to chase him down for the ... (read in full...)
If he could be so convincingly romantic then, how can I trust his sincerity now?
Q. How can I trust my fiance when he's already lied to me? My fiance and I have been together for two and a half years. We're getting married in early May, but I am having trouble trusting him. For me it was love at first sight. Well, not exactl...
A. 5 February 2014: So you're emotionally punishing him because his emotions didn't travel the same exact trajectory that yours did??
If his intentions were a lie, you wouldn't be his fiance right now! Guys don't ask girls to MARRY them if it's all a ruse. Who *car... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I only climax occasionally. How do I fix his pride?
Q. I've been with my bf for over a year, and he's very experienced in bed. I am not. I've only had been with two others before him. He has a very large package and I have always either enjoyed it or have been intimidated by it. He is very thoughtf...
A. 4 February 2014: NEVER fake an orgasm. Sometimes it just doesn't happen, and his experience with other women is meaningless because everyone is different. If he reacts by being upset and thinking something is wrong with you, then he is a bad lover.
He is selfi... (read in full...)
I'm still struggling with what happened the night after we broke up!
Q. Hey guys. I'm having a hard time and could really use some guidance. A little background. I'm a gay female and have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. I'm struggling with some resentment that I seem to be harboring and it's ...
A. 4 February 2014: The big thing here is that the whole "right to have friends" thing gets used the wrong way. Usually, someone having the right to have friends involves platonic relationships, not past lovers. You had the right to insist that your relationship with ... (read in full...)
How do I get more affection from my girlfriend?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to get more physical with me? Before you decide I'm an ass, please hear me out. She goes to school with me but she is two years older and she sits by me at lunch and behind me in Algebra II. I helped her with math when she ...
A. 4 February 2014: As I was reading your question and your description of her, alarm bells were going off in my head. She sounds like the type who would call in a false rape charge or something, because needing a boyfriend because she's single is an unhealthy ... (read in full...)
He did a search on "how to cheat on your girlfriend"!
Q. I think I know what a lot of the answers will be from this, however I'd love to get some different opinions. I have been cheated on in my one other past relationship and that had seriously caused me some trust issues. I have been with my man now ...
A. 4 February 2014: It says a lot about someone who "shamelessly" invades another's privacy in a relationship. In working out your trust issues, you destroyed the trust in your relationship. You don't get to look through his stuff while he's in the shower, and the ... (read in full...)
I suffer from premature climaxing, any advice?
Q. I am a married women in my 30's and I suffer from premature climaxing... My husband and I don't have sex that often (once a week) due to family commitments and work and because of this I'm all pent up with desire, as soon as my husband enters ...
A. 3 February 2014: I was gonna say the same thing as Honeypie! We girls don't have a forced refractory period like guys do. Have you ever tried multiples?? You can either have them over and over in rapid succession, or within mere minutes after an initial ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive again? Can I trust him again?
Q. I am trying to gain clarity on my relationship and figure out what to do... I have asked many friends for their advice, but realize that they all have some kind of biased opinions (they are, after all, close friends), so I need an objective and ...
A. 3 February 2014: Cerberus was right in that I'll be the first to disagree with his opinion, though I respect it. However, I have spent a lot of volunteer time in homeless shelters and have seen the effects of hard drug usage in people, including a once-millionaire ... (read in full...)
Would it be best to keep my sexuality to myself for now?
Q. I've finally come to terms with my own sexuality as being gay, and I feel as if my parents already have an idea however they're always making a joke of it and have made it quite known that it's not something they agree with! Is it wrong to not tel...
A. 3 February 2014: Society loves labels. However, most people when it comes to sexuality tend to be fluid and changing. Especially in adolescence and early college, it's the time to explore individual sexuality. I believe you when you say you're gay, and most ... (read in full...)
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