I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 14 July 2014: Like others have pointed out, there's no changing the OP's mind, so the "advice" part for me has passed all usefulness.
I'm curious as to why the OP HASN'T already done it. The last contact was back in March, and 4 months is more than enough t... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: Oh my god.
You *are* emotionally unstable if you do NOT leave him.
He deliberately lied about his age.
He disowned his own son in order to have sex with you.
How the hell would you feel if your father said you weren't important? Could yo... (read in full...)
It's late now, isn't it? We'll never get married, will we?
Q. I've been living with my so-called fiancé for 10 years. We have 2 kids. Originally we planned to get married right away and went so far as to fill out all the paperwork but never ended up having a ceremony because of my student loan debt. Flash ...
A. 11 March 2014: He's been putting you off for 10 years. Your debts were an excuse, and now he's made it clear that he never wants to marry you.
However, what state do you live in now? After 10 years, there are a number of states that observe common law marriage... (read in full...)
How should I go about this without seeming needy or desperate?
Q. Hi folks! Background: I met a girl about a month ago(someone new to my University). I immediately obtained her number and her Facebook, and on the very same day I walked her home after class. A bit over a week ago I took her out to lunch, which ...
A. 11 March 2014: I agree with Honeypie - you're not sounding "needy or desperate". You're sounding, at least to me, cowardly when it comes to love. A sure thing??? There *are* no sure things! You need to show confidence, which means that you don't text ... (read in full...)
At 15 why is it so wrong to flirt with guys if I only want it to stay at the friend level? And why is it difficult to make friends with guys?
Q. I've seen a few posts in here about people who were taken the wrong way or who accidentally led guys on. It seems like most of you aunts and uncles think that flirting/hanging out one-on-one is leading a guy on (this happens to me ALL the time!) ...
A. 11 March 2014: Here's the problem with the logic that you should be able to flirt even though you just want to stay friends, and that's because platonic friends DO NOT flirt with each other. Let me be clear about this point. Platonic friends don't flirt, because ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to delete pictures of my ex's on Facebook... Is she overreacting or am I being unreasonable?
Q. Hi, I'm sorry to say that this problem is due to Facebook, you probably get lots of these! My girlfriend wants me to delete photos of me and my ex-girlfriends from Facebook. She doesn't seem to like the idea of them being on my page and she say...
A. 11 March 2014: Really?? She had a fit over that?? What can you do about pictures on other people's computers? NOTHING!
You did the right thing, and she did the wrong thing. I was understanding the whole "displaying the ex" request, but her saying "bye" li... (read in full...)
My heart knows that I need to leave! But I don't want another failed relationship! Advice?
Q. I am engaged to a man that I have been dating for over 3 years. We have been engaged for 6 months and the wedding is fast approaching. I am finding myself very unhappy. We don't see each other very much because of his overly busy schedule and ...
A. 10 March 2014: Don't think of the relationship's end in terms of "failing". Remember the real reason relationships (and engagements) exist - to help couples get to know each other.
You have found out things about him that aren't compatible with your life, an... (read in full...)
I've never had a bj to completion, should I try with this guy?
Q. I am a 30 year old straight/bi curious man and I have never gotten a blowjob to completion. The woman has always stopped before I orgasm. I have the oppportunity to let another man give me a bj to completion. He wants to in the worst way and I am ...
A. 10 March 2014: If you are in a committed relationship, then do not cheat. If you are not in a committed relationship, then why wouldn't you be sure if you should??... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to delete pictures of my ex's on Facebook... Is she overreacting or am I being unreasonable?
Q. Hi, I'm sorry to say that this problem is due to Facebook, you probably get lots of these! My girlfriend wants me to delete photos of me and my ex-girlfriends from Facebook. She doesn't seem to like the idea of them being on my page and she say...
A. 10 March 2014: Oh! To do that, go to the photo in question, edit it, and change the privacy setting to "only me". Everybody wins then.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to delete pictures of my ex's on Facebook... Is she overreacting or am I being unreasonable?
Q. Hi, I'm sorry to say that this problem is due to Facebook, you probably get lots of these! My girlfriend wants me to delete photos of me and my ex-girlfriends from Facebook. She doesn't seem to like the idea of them being on my page and she say...
A. 10 March 2014: I understand that you use your Facebook as a diary, and many other people do. However, if you looked ahead and became serious in a relationship with her, how would you feel to know she was publicly displaying pictures showing her affection towards ... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 9 March 2014: If her reason for wanting sex with you is that you're a kind and respectful person, and you both are unattached, then why isn't she interested in more of a traditional relationship where you date outside the office and get to know each other??
... (read in full...)
Am I just her guy on the side?
Q. Hi, my name is Daniel. About 10 months ago i started dating this girl, i always knew her since kindergarden i just never talked to her until the very end of highschool. So we spent the whole summer together, litterally almost every day, i lost my ...
A. 8 March 2014: Yikes! I don't know the laws in Canada, but in the US, it varies from state to state, with only a couple of states having outdated laws about marriage and first cousins, but it's illegal in almost every state. I looked it up, and they are legal in ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 6 March 2014: I'm going to make this short and sweet. If you're fighting like this at only a month, it's not going to get any better. He is a text addict and a gross person for soliciting nude pictures and loose women.
Cut your losses and find someone ... (read in full...)
My face goes red every time I speak! Help?
Q. Hi Not sure how this site works, but will give it a go anyway! I am 20 years old. I am so so shy - my face goes red everytime I speak even in front of my family! I am a quiet person- has anyone got any advice of how to overcome this? I have ...
A. 6 March 2014: Don't say anything! I've known people who are just like you where their face got red when they spoke and more red when they spoke in public or to strangers. Just pretend it's not happening, and if someone points it out, just say that the blood ... (read in full...)
Should I try to make our marriage work or just end it?
Q. I am torn on what I should do. Here is some background information first. I am active duty military, my wife and I are both 24, we have been together for 8 years and married for 4. We don't have any kids and I am currently deployed. Recently my wife ...
A. 6 March 2014: First of all, thank you for your service.
She may have come clean about sleeping with this guy, but she was not honest with you. She asked for a separation specifically to sleep with the guy. There was no working things out with you, and in m... (read in full...)
Husband won't have sex with me until I lose more weight, but because I'm not begging him for intimacy he thinks I must be cheating!
Q. Hope someone can help. Here goes: I am currently on a weight loss journey. Though I have already lost 20 lbs, I am still pretty obese. My husband told me that he loves me but doesn't want to have sex with me until I reach my goal weight. Ok, fine , ...
A. 2 March 2014: No more blow jobs.
And, I don't get it. He tells you no more sex, yet he's begging for sex?? Sex shouldn't be used as a manipulative tool. He has cut off his nose to spite his face.
I understand that gaining weight may make someone less phy... (read in full...)
Do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? And how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being needy?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I wonder if someone can help? I have a mixture of two problems in one. Firstly, do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? Secondly, how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being, for want ...
A. 1 March 2014: This question is in danger of "double standard" syndrome.
If a guy ignored a girl to go running around with his friends, off by himself a lot, most weekends taken up by his kid (but mostly his buddies because honestly, how much time is taken up... (read in full...)
Do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? And how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being needy?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I wonder if someone can help? I have a mixture of two problems in one. Firstly, do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? Secondly, how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being, for want ...
A. 28 February 2014: Wait a second here! If you bought your own house at age 18 to take care of your daughter after her father left, isn't your daughter now 18 years old if you're 36?? Your daughter's either senior high age or college age now, so we're not dealing ... (read in full...)
My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral
Q. Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral whi...
A. 28 February 2014: If this guy makes ZERO effort to please you and thinks that "sticking it in" is the beginning and end of any sexual interaction with you, then he deserves to be celibate. That is grade A horse crap.
What a selfish loser he is. If he was 16, I'd ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about kissing a guy when I was 22?
Q. I have been married for a little less than a year to a man I love. I could never imagine betraying our marriage ever- I am completely and happily devoted to him. Before we got married, we dated for about 10 years since I was 18- long distance. ...
A. 28 February 2014: I'm curious as to why this is an issue now, and why this guilt and low feeling didn't compel you before you were married to him. What is the change??
What you did with other guys while you two were broken up is your business. Break up means br... (read in full...)
Should I tell my FWB I'm talking to someone else?
Q. Should I tell my FWB that I'm taking to somebody else? It's not sexual with the other person, but it is something I see turning into a relationship with....
A. 28 February 2014: I agree with the others. If this guy you're talking to is relationship material, then you need to end the arrangement with the FWB, and then end contact with the FWB before your first official date with this guy you're talking to.
Do not keep the... (read in full...)
Why is it a big deal for my boyfriend and I to be 7 years apart?
Q. im 14 turning 15 and my lover has just turned 23 and we are pretty far apart in age but does it really matter? we do not have a sexual relationship and nobody except a close adult friend of mine knows, I feel the urge to tell my mother that im in ...
A. 28 February 2014: A 23 year old with a 14 year old is statutary rape. Neither of you are in the same place in life, and he's taking advantage of you if you're calling him "lover" and it's gotten physical.. There is no reason why a guy who is 23 should do anything ... (read in full...)
Lying LDR boyfriend is having dreams of me cheating?
Q. I recently found out that my LDR boyfriend have been pretending to be single. The girl he was talking to (I don't know her) messaged me out of the blue and sent me screenshots of texts where my boyfriend is claiming to be single and asking her out. ...
A. 28 February 2014: Oh I'm sure he did cheat on you. If he was pretending to be single and meeting up with her and they've hooked up in the past, come on. He's a horrible liar. He's also an LDR - those are hard enough even with 100% faithfulness. The guy is a ... (read in full...)
My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral
Q. Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral whi...
A. 28 February 2014: Well, you do have some choices here. However, "getting satisfaction elsewhere" should never cross your mind, because that is cheating. A partner's unwillingness or discomfort to perform a specific sex act is not an excuse for cheating, ever. If ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a separated person?
Q. I'm divorced and met a woman through friends who's married but living separated lives with her husband for financial reasons. Long story short, she invited me out for a date. Is it wrong to date a separated woman who's husband is already out there ...
A. 27 February 2014: Never get involved with anyone who has an unresolved prior relationship. All of the nonsense of "living separate lives" means absolutely nothing. Married is still married, especially if they are still living together.
There are plenty of peopl... (read in full...)
Banned at work! Romantic relationships, what to do?
Q. I work at a place where romantic relationships between employees are banned. I know this woman there, we've both been there for many many years, been friends all this time. I know she has a romantic attraction for me and I am attracted as well. We ...
A. 27 February 2014: Even if it weren't banned, there are many reasons why workplace relationships are at best a hindrance to performance or advancement and at worst a potentially career-ending conflict of interest.
When they are lateral (among peers of the same lev... (read in full...)
Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 26 February 2014: If it's a pattern in your relationships, then that says something.
Let me use logic for a second here - why does your sex drive remain high in these relationships? Would you want sex as much if you didn't achieve orgasm in it the majority... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any idea how I can feel less fragile in the mornings?
Q. Does anyone have any idea how I can feel less fragile in the mornings? It sounds daft at my age - mid forties - but having brought up a child alone and got up early each morning to sort her out and go to work, I am only now realising that I am NOT ...
A. 26 February 2014: The best thing to do is visit your doctor, because your fatigue could be anything from a need to change your diet to an early warning sign of a potentially serious health issue.
So, assuming that you *will* go get checked out by your doctor, ... (read in full...)
First one night stand has me wondering why boys are like this!
Q. On Friday I had my first ever one night stabd! But I really havebt taken it well I didn't know the guy I had met him that night And had spent most of the night with him we had got to talking and he took me back to his. Obviously everything happened ...
A. 25 February 2014: I say this to many people on here who are exploring their sexuality at your age, and the question "Why are boys like this?" is actually not the most important question to you.
The most important question is "What are you like sexually... (read in full...)
I am being shut out by his language!
Q. Hi! I need advice on a relationship with language differences. When I met my boyfriend he didnt know any English, but he insisted on being with me. He worked hard to learn English and did well. Now his daughter came to live with us full time and he ...
A. 24 February 2014: So he *does* want you to learn Spanish.
You need an immersive way to learn it, because if you have a learning disability, then reading it as written. You know English, and you don't write on here as if you have a disability, which is why I sugges... (read in full...)
3 month anniversary post on girlfriend's wall. What do I say?
Q. My three month anniversary with my girlfriend is today. She has asked me to post a long post on her wall. We have been through alot together and really are thinking about the future together. What do I say. Please help.. I need help fast I am ...
A. 24 February 2014: Well, it was yesterday, so what did you end up doing??
How could you have been through a lot together in 3 months?? That is quite impossible unless you both had some mutual near-death experience.
She asked you to post a long post on your wal... (read in full...)
After four years of dating he still avoids talking about committment.
Q. Hi cupids, I'm looking for some advice because I'm really upset and I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, and we've been having some issues lately because he has been avoiding th...
A. 24 February 2014: If your goal is family, financial success, your career, and marriage, then yes, you will have to break up with him now because there isn't a lot more time for you. 4 1/2 years is long enough to decide whether marriage is on the table, and if his ... (read in full...)
I am being shut out by his language!
Q. Hi! I need advice on a relationship with language differences. When I met my boyfriend he didnt know any English, but he insisted on being with me. He worked hard to learn English and did well. Now his daughter came to live with us full time and he ...
A. 24 February 2014: Ahh geeze, I forget that here in the US, we tend to fall back on the "everyone should speak English" mentality here.
You said that when you met him, he worked hard to learn English to be with you? You should reciprocate because now his daughter... (read in full...)
My crush says she doesn't trust men, but I really like her!
Q. now being a freshan in high school, dating is fairly useless. I like this girl and we are great friends, so i decided i wanted to date her. i have given her gifts, hugged her, and put my arm around her all in order to get her to like me a little ...
A. 24 February 2014: You're not doing anything wrong! However, her "I don't trust men" may be her 13-15 year old way of telling you that she doesn't have feelings for you like that, which goes hand in hand with saying you're her "best friend", which reinforces you in ... (read in full...)
Now then ...what about sexual fantasies in committed relationships?
Q. Hello, I have a strict question about sexuality/fantasies in relationships. First off, I have come to a point with my girlfriend where I'm pretty certain everything can be put in the open if asked correctly, that is, it works generally with...
A. 24 February 2014: I think you're overthinking things here. You watch porn, so you're seeing anonymous sexual imagery. It's the same with her fantasy about multiple penetration. It's anonymous sexual imagery. When you watch porn, you may say that your mind sees ... (read in full...)
His breakup excuse has confused me!
Q. My boyfriend broke things off with me after 3 years saying that I am an "amazing" person but his "taste" has changed over the years since we have been together. What does that even mean?? I feel awful. I am a beautiful girl and was nothing but ...
A. 24 February 2014: Some relationships just run their course. People grow apart, and it's possible that he became interested in someone else and isn't a cheater. Either way, I'm sorry it didn't work out with you, and it's going to be tough. Get some of your friends ... (read in full...)
When my girlfriend gets mad, she doesn't scream, she doesn't shout, she just shuts down!
Q. Hey guys. I'll go ahead and jump right in. I'm a 30 year old male. I've been seeing my gf for just over a year now. We have talked about moving in together within the next year or so and marriage, but her behaviors are totally destroying our r...
A. 24 February 2014: You need to stand up for yourself. She's using the threat of a breakup as a bully tactic because it works. A breakup is a Nuclear Event in a relationship, meaning when it's on the table, it's like a bullet or a nuclear bomb or a scrambled egg. ... (read in full...)
He lied to me about being married and now I feel wrecked!
Q. Hi, I met this guy who seemed to b really nice he treated me pretty well I don't know he was a married man, we had sex a couple of times but within 3 months he felt like he needed some space to study about a month, I felt hurt like i was gonna a ...
A. 24 February 2014: You found out that he lied and tried to pick up your friend, and you STILL had sex with him after knowing this???
Now he's a student, officer, accountant, a Pastor (God help us all) and a butler? I'm guessing he's unemployed.
At what point... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I am cheating because I am 'too loose".
Q. Help, my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years and he thinks I'm cheating because I feel "loose", and I feel it to. We used to have sex everyday, but it began to lessen. Now we have sex once every two weeks, and even then I still feel loose, I ...
A. 24 February 2014: It's not that you're "loose", it's that your boyfriend's getting too used to the grip his hand gives, which is a common ailment of porn users or frequent masturbators. Kegels are designed to improve your orgasmic response, but you are made the way ... (read in full...)
How do I break off this affair with an engaged colleague?
Q. Hello, 6 months ago I fell deeply for a man who is 16 years older than me who works in the same building and department as me. He began speaking to me online while I was on holiday from work and we got close chatting and joking and staying up a...
A. 22 February 2014: You're worried *he's* going to talk? He has so much more to lose than you. He's the dirty cheater, and if he starts flapping his gums at work, it could get back to his fiancee at home. You could tell her too, especially how he hid the fact that ... (read in full...)
How do I break off this affair with an engaged colleague?
Q. Hello, 6 months ago I fell deeply for a man who is 16 years older than me who works in the same building and department as me. He began speaking to me online while I was on holiday from work and we got close chatting and joking and staying up a...
A. 22 February 2014: Any time a guy wants something kept secret, and there isn't an obvious reason, it means he's cheating. The reason the sex was so good at first was because it was illicit. Stolen apples taste sweeter.
He is a user of women. He used you and knew... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: OH - forgot to mention - you lose your virginity in the program.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Have you ever heard of Surrogate Partner Therapy?? It's "hands on" therapy designed specifically for people like you with social issues who are virgins. You actually have several sessions designed to break down all of the hangups like what you ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 20 February 2014: "These are things I just cannot grab overnight like I can do with a escort. Escort I just make in-call go see her (at her place) for the hour and then leave."
42 different posts on here and you haven't learned a thing. You might as well call tha... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 14 February 2014: Heh, I think men do more judging towards women who *are* prostitutes/sex workers/porn starts than women do to men hiring them. To me, buying sex is a cop out. What will be accomplished?? You'll still not know what the hell you're doing, and so ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 February 2014: I was thinking similar along those lines. A sex doll would have about the same level of emotion when it comes to you. The GFE takes much more than one hour, and I don't know about you, but I'd miss that kind of money. And not to burst your ... (read in full...)
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