Do I ask him about the condoms in his trash?
Q. I feel like a complete idiot for even asking this, but would you ask your boyfriend why he had a couple of used condoms in his rubbish bin when you have been away for a few days and you don't even use condoms?! I went away for a five day mini br...
A. 28 September 2014: Heh, sorry Cindy! ;)
One other thing - going with my plan - if he pulls the "it was a friend's condom" trick, just get a q-tip and a small sandwich bag and tell him you want a cheek swab of his DNA so the lab can typecast it to the semen inside t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money! How can I change his opinion of me?
Q. My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money and I don't know how to change how to change his mind. He is 22 and I'm 21. I think I'm ok at handling money. Not great but ok. I constantly have not much money because I'm living on a student loan but I ...
A. 28 September 2014: Okay, now that I'm done shouting at you because your post really had me scared for you, and truly, I really care about people like you who are wanting good financial management. Here's what you do:
First of all, I misread your national flag and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money! How can I change his opinion of me?
Q. My boyfriend thinks I'm bad at handling money and I don't know how to change how to change his mind. He is 22 and I'm 21. I think I'm ok at handling money. Not great but ok. I constantly have not much money because I'm living on a student loan but I ...
A. 28 September 2014: NO NO NO NOOOOOOOO DO NOT JOIN ACCOUNTS WITH HIM!!!!!!
I know it's in bad form to shout in all caps and stuff, but SERIOUSLY DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT! Do not show him your financial stuff! Do not! You do not prove to him ANYTHING! Your fin... (read in full...)
My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...
A. 28 September 2014: What??? Fight for a cheater? No. Him breaking up with you because you're not happy with cheating is hysterical. I would say that he's wanted to break up with you for a long time, and just now, he's set you up so that not only can he ditch you, ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him about the condoms in his trash?
Q. I feel like a complete idiot for even asking this, but would you ask your boyfriend why he had a couple of used condoms in his rubbish bin when you have been away for a few days and you don't even use condoms?! I went away for a five day mini br...
A. 28 September 2014: You say that you've been with him for nearly two years? You'd know by now if he used condoms for masturbation, right? Some people do, you know, and it's typically to avoid a mess. That would be unlikely unless your boyfriend is a complete and ... (read in full...)
Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??
Q. I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...
A. 28 September 2014: You said that you're married??
There *is* no such thing as "friends" with an ex, doesn't matter how long ago you and he were together. It is by every account an act of disloyalty towards your husband.
And that's telling me something, when ... (read in full...)
After cheating, does he really want our relationship to work?
Q. Hi everyone, just a quick question. I want your views on cheating. Not a one night stand, a full on affair over a period of weeks. The affair was called off before I found out, apparently they mutually agreed that this was not fair and could n...
A. 28 September 2014: The only time I believe the whole "I never knew how much I loved you until I cheated.." story is when the guy breaks off the affair AND comes completely clean about the affair before the girlfriend so much as suspected anything.
What I mean is ... (read in full...)
He thought I was clingy; can he ever change his opinion?
Q. I am talking to a guy and things were going well. We see each other a lot but I would text him a lot too. He told me that he thought I might be kinda clingy. It wasn't my intention but I may have over done it with the texting. We seemed to have ...
A. 27 September 2014: Clinginess is more than just excessive texting, even though that is a sign of it. Clinginess is needing to know everything about what your partner is doing, needing constant reassurances of his love for you, or having a problem if he wanted to ... (read in full...)
Recently saw my Mum, when she was younger, in a commercial film, where she was topless. It has grossed me out. How do I get over this?
Q. I'm grossed out after knowing my Mum did a cameo topless scene in a film? Recently, I saw my Mum topless in an old movie. It was a cameo appearance but it shocked the hell out of me and disgusted me. I don't know how to deal to with it. ...
A. 27 September 2014: I don't know if you're into the HBO miniseries Game of Thrones or not, but I happen to be a HUGE fan of it. Needless to say, there's plenty of nudity going on in there.
During an interview on a talk show here in America, one of the starring... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but want the woman I am infatuated with at work!
Q. Ok ladies AND gents. This is a long one but please bare (bear?) with me. I have put myself in such a terrible situation and even though I know this I do not stop my actions probably due to my selfish, pig, insecurities and attitude. I don't k...
A. 27 September 2014: The answer to every question you asked on here is NO!
Did your parents celebrate every poop you made in the potty and show it off to all of their friends and relatives? Because you say "told u I was a pig" like you're proud of that fact.
... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for apologizing?
Q. I was recently at a high school sporting event and my spouse was going berserk! Shouting, pacing back and forth, yelling at the opposing team parents. He wouldn't settle down and I got upset and yelled GD SIT DOWN!. The next day on facebook, oh ...
A. 26 September 2014: Stop walking on eggshells around him! He's "not talking" to you as a result of this?? After how many days, this is all emotional abuse, which is what the silent treatment is.
I'd have told him to knock off the emotional punishment and pull his... (read in full...)
If it's FWB why does he care who I date?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a sexual relationship with a colleague of mine for almost a year now. Prior to anything sexual, he made it clear that he did not want any emotions or attachments to form once we had sex. He also stated that we w...
A. 26 September 2014: I agree with everyone else on here - he's wanting the Girl Friend Experience. He wants the benefits of a girlfriend without any sort of string attached.
As for the crying and talking, that's the number one observation that call girls/es... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for apologizing?
Q. I was recently at a high school sporting event and my spouse was going berserk! Shouting, pacing back and forth, yelling at the opposing team parents. He wouldn't settle down and I got upset and yelled GD SIT DOWN!. The next day on facebook, oh ...
A. 26 September 2014: I think you should have talked to him in private before posting that on Facebook. He was the one who made a jackass of himself in public, and the words were HIS to say, not yours. You should have had it out with him for embarrassing you in ... (read in full...)
My cheating married lover has grown cold
Q. I got involved with a married man and quickly felt like we had incredibly chemistry. He kept telling me that he feels so connected to me. We met twice , had sex. That part was understood. But now the chase is over. After the second time, he seems ...
A. 26 September 2014: So what is your question here?? I didn't see any plea for advice, and given your last sentence, it's almost like you NEED a straight talk and you're wanting the onslaught of hate.
I won't hate you, though I despise cheaters. However, unless y... (read in full...)
I don't want him to be friends with women he used to sleep with
Q. Question I'm in love with my boyfriend (of a year and a half)and we have have a great relationship besides the fact that he is really close to some female friends of his and one he is really close with that he use to date(sleep with)! He has a lot ...
A. 26 September 2014: You're not crazy at all. That's a complete dealbreaker for me if a guy wants to remain close friends with exes or women he's had intimate relationships with, especially if he's hiding when he sees her like this guy did to you. I wouldn't put up ... (read in full...)
What "red flags" am I missing here and how do I stop them without being an jerk?
Q. I have only had a few girlfriends in my life and the ones I have dump me all the time with no reason other than "I just want to be friends" or "it's not working out" or "I don't want a boyfriend". They say these things after we're already dating or ...
A. 25 September 2014: Heh, I can see your issue plain as day here. You're not dating a woman to fall in love and get to know her. You're hoping for the magic formula, suffering through her telling her life story, and then getting pissy when she doesn't want to have sex ... (read in full...)
My fiance has lied to me and I've lost trust in her. Can this be fixed?
Q. My Fiancée and I have been together for over a decade and have had two kids together. Like most relationships, we've had our ups and downs. A lot brought on by me working away from home and perhaps not doing as much around the house when I get ...
A. 25 September 2014: Yes, she is cheating. Cybersex is cheating. You know it and we know it.
You typed some things on here that have my attention though:
"A lot brought on by me working away from home and perhaps not doing as much around the house when I get... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend's pervy behavior makes me question a reconciliation
Q. My ex and I were together for many years. We've been broken up for quite awhile due to various reasons and I've been moving on fairly alright. We're no longer friends on facebook but can see certain recent activity, if we check, and we both do as ...
A. 25 September 2014: Maybe this analogy might help a bit, because I actually see his behavior as a huge red flag and stress in the strongest terms to you that you should NOT reconcile and that you SHOULD block him and be done with him:
We know that all men have pen... (read in full...)
"Just friends" became more, which is a problem since I have a gf
Q. I have so many questions: am I having an affair? Am I doing the right thing? Does she think I'm using her? I should probably start with a bit of background. I've known this girl for years, always fancied her, had a mess about when we were younger ...
A. 25 September 2014: Sometimes, when I read things like this, I think that the obvious will bite people like you in the nose!
Just to understand and I can recap,
1. You knew and liked this girl for years, but it had never actually happened.
2. Two years ago, you... (read in full...)
What do I do with the expensive gifts my ex gave me?
Q. my question is very simple and small that I have broke up with my gf last night in a legal way ....now I don't know what shud I do with the expensive old gifts she gave me....should I through them out so that I cud fully forget her ...
A. 25 September 2014: I would also make exceptions for cars or houses as gifts. Those I'd offer back. But jewelry, trinkets, or blankets or CD's or computers or ipads...eh.... (read in full...)
He Lied About Dating Someone - Should I Not Be Friends With Him?
Q. Last summer, I fancied a male friend (used to flirt with him a bit but nothing more than that) whom I got on with quite well. I told him I liked him, and he turned me down, saying that he was already seeing someone. There was a mutual guy frien...
A. 25 September 2014: "Seeing someone" is actually an extremely broad spectrum, to be honest. The other guy friend who said that this guy had lied to you may not have had all of the facts.
YES, he was trying to spare your ego, because saying "I'm not interest... (read in full...)
What do I do with the expensive gifts my ex gave me?
Q. my question is very simple and small that I have broke up with my gf last night in a legal way ....now I don't know what shud I do with the expensive old gifts she gave me....should I through them out so that I cud fully forget her ...
A. 24 September 2014: Gifts are gifts, unless we're talking about an engagement ring. If she is your ex, and everything is done, then don't have any more contact with her, including giving gifts back, which may hurt her even more.
Don't throw them out if they're ... (read in full...)
He hasn't taken responsibility for his actions but did stop talking to her. And what do I do about my so-called friend?
Q. Hi everyone I'm a female seeking advise on whether it's ok my husband and my best friend have been texting anywhere from 5 to 30x a day while I only get 3 texts a day from both of them over the past couple months.during which time I found out my ...
A. 24 September 2014: Your husband has a lot to answer for, and I agree with Honeypie in that you need to focus 100% on dealing with your husband and not your "friend". It's actually a form of denial to fixate on the friend and not deal with the one who did you the most ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my fiance and my friend that I've fallen for his girlfriend?
Q. I have been feeling ill with a current situation I have got myself into. I have been previously married which ended after she had an affair and got pregnant. I eventually found my current partner. I have a close friend whom I have known all my life. ...
A. 24 September 2014: I'd love to be a fly on the wall both when your fiancee finds out AND when your best friend finds out from his girlfriend. Then, you'll find that all of these flowery kiss-filled secret texts will pale in comparison to the conversations about to ... (read in full...)
I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and can't help worrying he might meet a new girl the same way!
Q. I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and taught the classes in my gym. We got along really well and became friends - started taking a yoga class together. There was a lot of sexual chemistry between us and eventually we gave in. He ...
A. 24 September 2014: Then your worries are founded. Maybe he didn't cheat, but obviously he had a roving eye when he met you.... (read in full...)
Is this an addiction of some kind?
Q. I am an average 15 year old freshman in high school, with a regular range of problems. But we've all been in that position. Although I've noticed something a bit different. I absolutely LOVE the music I listen to (techno/electron...
A. 24 September 2014: Not a problem, Forge. You can private message me on here if you like. If you're writing music now but haven't yet published it, I can point you to a few places where independents can do some publishing and get serious feedback and exposure. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my fiance and my friend that I've fallen for his girlfriend?
Q. I have been feeling ill with a current situation I have got myself into. I have been previously married which ended after she had an affair and got pregnant. I eventually found my current partner. I have a close friend whom I have known all my life. ...
A. 24 September 2014: All of your feelings are correct, and apparently you learned nothing from your experience with your cheating ex. It's worse because you were the one who was devastated because of what she did to you.
Now you're going to visit it twofold on the t... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend's belly!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and I have a problem with him physically. He is 6 feet tall and has nice big arms, which I like, but he has a huge belly from years of living a sedentary life style. He's 22. He used to be ...
A. 24 September 2014: (Psst Chigirl - the OP's a guy ;) )
OP, that's really shallow. You started dating him 4 months ago. If you didn't like his belly then, why did you start dating him? That's just not cool. You don't start dating a guy and then try to criticiz... (read in full...)
I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and can't help worrying he might meet a new girl the same way!
Q. I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and taught the classes in my gym. We got along really well and became friends - started taking a yoga class together. There was a lot of sexual chemistry between us and eventually we gave in. He ...
A. 24 September 2014: Hey! I think bald is hot!... (read in full...)
I'm scared to commit to my boyfriend
Q. I love my boyfriend, dearly. I pounce on the phone whenever he texts or calls me (we do not live together and live in different cities) and could talk to him all day if I could. I'm alway eager to text him, my parents know about him, etc etc. We've ...
A. 24 September 2014: Actually, your fear is founded. After a year of dating, his parents should know about you by now, so the whole FB relationship status reason would have me on guard. And I say this as a private person.
Here's the thing - if he's actually PRIVATE ... (read in full...)
My FWB guy said I love you..was it just post sex emotion?
Q. 4 years ago I had a brief fling with a guy. It didn't work out but it was good while it lasted. About 6 months ago we bumped into each other after a night out and exchanged numbers. Since then we've had a fwb situation going on. We spoke about it ...
A. 24 September 2014: The first question you should ask is to yourself. The question is - are you interested in taking things to an actual exclusive relationship status?
If the answer is no, then you don't have to clarify or DO anything with his declaration of love.... (read in full...)
I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and can't help worrying he might meet a new girl the same way!
Q. I met my boyfriend when he was my personal trainer and taught the classes in my gym. We got along really well and became friends - started taking a yoga class together. There was a lot of sexual chemistry between us and eventually we gave in. He ...
A. 24 September 2014: The real question is this:
When you met him, was he single, or was he with someone else and cheated on this person with you?? If the answer is that he was with someone else and cheated on her with you, then yes, you should be worried.
However... (read in full...)
Is this an addiction of some kind?
Q. I am an average 15 year old freshman in high school, with a regular range of problems. But we've all been in that position. Although I've noticed something a bit different. I absolutely LOVE the music I listen to (techno/electron...
A. 24 September 2014: Heh, Cindy, I had the same reaction! But they actually let my 14-year old listen with headphones in class during study time! I never had such luck, and music was AND IS oxygen to me!
Forge, I'm a musician as well, and was at your age. Don't br... (read in full...)
I'm not entirely sold on us "getting back together"
Q. I was in a "relationship" (with no labels) with this guy for about a year and 10 months. Last month, things ended when I got really angry and went off on him about all the grievances I'd felt throughout the relationship and especially this summer. ...
A. 23 September 2014: I mean this in your best interest, but you *do* know that you're insane for even considering going back with him, right? The guy constantly cheats on you throughout your relationship, neglects you and mistreats you, yet you're considering jumping ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me having a sex toy
Q. Hi, so I recently brought some sex toys for myself because my boyfriend and I were too busy to have sex. It was one of the artificial butt toys and I like it a lot. I made the mistake of telling him and now he's very upset about. There are some thi...
A. 23 September 2014: Get another toy. Your solo sexuality is yours alone. He is insecure because of it. Talk to him and tell him that you want it, that it doesn't replace him, and that like jerking off, or porn, or whatever, it's your way of release on your own.
... (read in full...)
Dating is difficult because I'm too picky and lose interest too quickly
Q. I seem to find dating rather difficult as I tend to be rather picky and not find connections with ppl straight away and I am finding it hard to get a partner. I have only been out on like 1 date a year for the past 3 years, and out of them 2 of...
A. 23 September 2014: You need to recognize the baggage in your emotional life. Even before I read your post, the title and your first sentence alone told me all about what you are about.
It's not that you're picky...it's that you're partially terrified about subjecti... (read in full...)
What is the difference (for you guys) if she swallows?
Q. Guys, can you explain this to me? Is it important to you that when a woman goes down on you, she lets you cum in her mouth and swallows it? What is the difference if she doesn't swallow? Is that a mind thing or something physical? A male friend once ...
A. 20 September 2014: I don't think you can get a better answer than Honeypie's.
I wanted to comment on the guy friend who said that he's be "deeply hurt" if she didn't swallow. For him, it's all about ego. He considers his semen as his expression of manhood,... (read in full...)
He throws the word pregnant at me umpteen times......
Q. Dear Aunts, There is a guy who I like and who likes me but we are just friends. He shares his dreams, his personal goals and encourages me to try to get the best in life. However lately, he has mentioned that he would like to have kids when he is ...
A. 20 September 2014: Actually, I think he just wants to have sex with you, especially if he's calling you "baby" and such. It's also possible that he's quietly testing your compatibility with him as well. If he's interested in you for a relationship and he wants kids, ... (read in full...)
After everything I did for him, LDR guy breaks off with me through a text!
Q. I met this man over this past summer in June that I thought was amazing. He was here for a 3 month internship and was going to leave to go back and finish his last year of school in a town 6 hours away (45 min plane ride). I met him through my ...
A. 20 September 2014: You did *WAY* too much for him and went really overboard with the stuff you did for him. You can't *do* enough to buy or gain someone's love for you. You were there doing all of these things, spending so much time, etc. I read that and thought ... (read in full...)
He slept with 2 other women while we weren't official and I can't get past it!
Q. I met this guy in the states this winter whom i started dating. He is from Australia and we hit it off and had a thing for about 3 months then he left back to Australia. We discussed that it would be dumb for us to be together because were in two ...
A. 19 September 2014: You've never been "official". You both made an agreement to see other people, and the reasoning is that you knew that an exclusive LDR wasn't something either of you were interested in.
You guys had a holiday fling. The fact that both of you were... (read in full...)
Which one of these places is more likely to be my g spot?
Q. I've been trying to find my g spot for years. I'm aware that the g spot is not a magical button and it takes practice but I'm willing to be patient! When I lie on my back and enter in my fingers i have found TWO areas which feel a bit different from ...
A. 19 September 2014: It's about an inch or two inside. If someone else is touching you, they would hold their hand palms up in the air, insert their finger a couple of inches in, and then they'd move their fingers in a "come here" motion. The feeling of the G spot is ... (read in full...)
How do I lose this desperation vibe?
Q. I need to stop obsessing over girls. I'm still a virgin, even though I've been in a relationship and dated a handful of girls. Despite having a lot going on in my life and confidence in many things I do, I dont seem to have it with girls. I have ...
A. 19 September 2014: First of all, congratulations on becoming fit and improving yourself! That's actually one way to connect if you like it...many people have met at various fitness or sports activities because staying fit is a common and celebrated goal.
Secon... (read in full...)
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