I've been dating him for 2 years and he won't show me where he lives?
Q. I have been dating a man for two years but he refuses to show me where he lives.he took me to visit jis family out of state; but he can't show me where he live in state.he tells me he lives with a family member.he get many excuses about the ...
A. 7 November 2014: Definitely married, especially if when you date, it's on a several day stretch. All he has to tell his wife is that he's out on a business trip, and voila - he's yours.
I'm also guessing he has more than one cell phone to throw his wife off the ... (read in full...)
My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?
Q. I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...
A. 28 October 2014: So you don't live with your dad? You live with your mom?
I see fault on both sides, to be honest. I agree that your dad is unstable and needs medication for sure, and he does sound controlling especially with you being 19 years old, you shouldn'... (read in full...)
I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?
Q. On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...
A. 28 October 2014: This happened last Wednesday?
I'm confused - you mentioned last Wednesday's betrayal, but what is this all on top of? You said that she has been mistreating you for 2 years, and that you basically had to put the relationship under threat, ... (read in full...)
Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?
Q. Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...
A. 28 October 2014: If you want to know what "love" means to the guy, all you have to do is see how he treats his wife. The one he promised to love until death, the one he pledged his life to, who had his kids, who devoted herself to the marriage.
THAT is what he ... (read in full...)
My parents need me to get in contact with my ex?
Q. I have an issue. My mom and dad need me to get in contact with my ex. My ex and I dated last year, and it was a horrible, horrible relationship. He broke my heart, and made my life miserable. By far, the worst relationship I ever had. He left me ...
A. 27 October 2014: OH - one more thing - this was in June??? It's November almost!! What an intimidating person this ex's dad must be if he lets a car sit for 5 months. Please. Your dad would have a counter-case of vehicular abandonment and storage cost. Tell him ... (read in full...)
My parents need me to get in contact with my ex?
Q. I have an issue. My mom and dad need me to get in contact with my ex. My ex and I dated last year, and it was a horrible, horrible relationship. He broke my heart, and made my life miserable. By far, the worst relationship I ever had. He left me ...
A. 27 October 2014: This is between your dad and your ex's dad. It is neither your business, nor should your dad use any perceived ties you once had with your ex to try to smooth over his mess. It's actually a pretty spineless thing for your dad to be expecting from ... (read in full...)
Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?
Q. It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...
A. 27 October 2014: You did the right thing by ending it with this guy.
If wearing his sister's dirty underwear and he says it "turned him on" is what he TOLD you, then he's having sex with her, no doubt about it. If THAT is the lie he told, I guarantee that the... (read in full...)
My ex chose to become engaged 6 days after we broke up. Should I even listen to her explanation?
Q. My ex left me for another man who is fat, creepy old, and has a 19yr old daughter. The next day after breaking up, shes in a relationship. 6 days after, they are engaged. She is 23, he is 36. She Is a model and gorgeous, and he is disgusting. I su...
A. 27 October 2014: Listen to me very closely, because to not listen to reason will be to really screw up in your life.
This woman is really toxic. Do not seek "closure". Do not listen to her or "hear her out". Do not look for her, call her, talk to her parents,... (read in full...)
My fiancé has been hiding our engagement because he's afraid of what his friends will think!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just got engaged about 2 months ago. Since becoming engaged, he has told me that he thinks the word "fiancé" is stupid and he's not going to say it…so he continues to call me his girlfriend instead. He is also ...
A. 27 October 2014: Your man is spineless. He needs to not worry so much about the ribbing of others. What's going to happen when you marry? Is he going to introduce you as his sister??
He needs to realize that your opinion is the one that should matter most. "... (read in full...)
He's lied to me multiple times. And Cheated. Should I be 'over it' as he claims?
Q. I have a question that I need both male and female point of views on: My fiancé in the beginning of our relationship went around my back and began to be unfaithful. He had a second phone to do all his "dirty work" on. I noticed a change in his pe...
A. 27 October 2014: I hate to break it to you, but any guy who tells a girl to "get over it" is still cheating or about to cheat.
You should take it a step further and be "over him", not just "over it". You actually ARE accepting his behavior by staying with him... (read in full...)
I've been dating him for 2 years and he won't show me where he lives?
Q. I have been dating a man for two years but he refuses to show me where he lives.he took me to visit jis family out of state; but he can't show me where he live in state.he tells me he lives with a family member.he get many excuses about the ...
A. 26 October 2014: Oh yeah! You can easily see where he lives at the sites Honeypie listed, as well as zabasearch.com and "reverse phone lookup" on some occasions.
You *do* realize that there are only two reasons he'd hide his address from you, and one of those re... (read in full...)
My ex was friendly but then he sent me a really nasty email and deleted me. Was this the work of his girlfriend?
Q. Slightly confused tonight. My ex and I broke up about 8months ago and we both have new partners. We kept in touch, but hardly spoke really - when he did speak to me he would try and get me to meet him or would he would speak about how much he ...
A. 26 October 2014: I would wager that she caught him emailing you (i.e. his "ex") with all of the sex talk, and he did some elaborate song and dance about how it was all old news and that you led him on...basically all of the worthless things cheaters say when they're ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to handle a Bf who keeps on looking up Ex Gfs ? He makes me feel as if I am not good enough for him.
Q. Hello, I am seeking for some help and advice on a situation that has totally damaged me.. I have a boyfriend that I have been dating for 2 years but we have dated before this two year relationship as well. This 2 year relationship has came ac...
A. 23 October 2014: Unless you caught this guy messaging her and flirting or meeting up with her behind your back, then I think you are overreacting and jumping to conclusions here.
You think that longing and lust are the only reasons someone has to look up an ex? ... (read in full...)
If I'm not wanted why did he put in so much effort?
Q. Thank you in advance for your help. This is a bit wordy, but hopefully, the information will paint a more complete picture of what happened. -December 2013: began e-mail contact with a man who had similar interests; we got along very well. -E...
A. 23 October 2014: If you knew this about him, why did you waste another second with him? That's what makes no sense to me. If he downed his ex by saying something like that, wouldn't that be a DEAL BREAKER? Why drag it out for 10-11 months?
And - if your one... (read in full...)
No one will rent an apartment to me because of my children! Advice?
Q. I've been apartment searching for 3yrs and I have been rejected hundreds of times. I have no criminal back, my credit is decent because I never had credit cards. Its not great but not bad its almost 700. People have been discriminating against me ...
A. 23 October 2014: I don't know which state you live in, so I'm going to post the site of one state's laws plus some links you can look at to file claims against.
Legally, you having children is called a "protected" status, which basically means they can NOT tell... (read in full...)
No one will rent an apartment to me because of my children! Advice?
Q. I've been apartment searching for 3yrs and I have been rejected hundreds of times. I have no criminal back, my credit is decent because I never had credit cards. Its not great but not bad its almost 700. People have been discriminating against me ...
A. 23 October 2014: You need to start suing then. It's against the law to discriminate because of your children. Check the laws in your state and get things going. If you have the credit and the money for the deposits, then there is no reason they shouldn't deny ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is not making an effort to do things for me!
Q. I do a lot for my girlfriend and I don't feel like she is doing much for me. She doesn't really ever surprise me, give gifts, or even just little things. It kinda makes me unsure how much she likes me. Her birthday is in 2 days and I'm not sure how ...
A. 23 October 2014: What do you want her to do for you? In your mind, what do you see the perfect girlfriend doing to show her feelings for you?? ... (read in full...)
I no longer fancy my wife
Q. Hi all, I am in my 50's been married 25 years got two great kids , grown up, mootgage payed blah blah but just hate my life My wife does a lot, cook, wash, iron that's it, a housemaid She is lazy, layback, won't communicate with me. My life is c...
A. 23 October 2014: Uhh, if she's cooking, cleaning, and ironing for you, she is NOT lazy. Do you realize how many guys come on here and just wish that their wives would do that??
And Jannie is right - if your kids are grown and your mortgage is paid, why are you ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal part of aging for men?
Q. My spouse is a few years older. We have an active sex life, but however, there are times that he has a hard time reaching an orgasm. Is this a normal part of aging for men? Is there any lubricant or any recommendation that will assist him in ...
A. 23 October 2014: Guys love vibrators too! Getting a vibrating fleshlight for sex play between the two of you, or getting a magic wand or anything like that (vibrating rings are wonderful!) will send his senses through the roof!
You're right in that oral isn't a ... (read in full...)
If I'm not wanted why did he put in so much effort?
Q. Thank you in advance for your help. This is a bit wordy, but hopefully, the information will paint a more complete picture of what happened. -December 2013: began e-mail contact with a man who had similar interests; we got along very well. -E...
A. 23 October 2014: Your timeline is very telling here.
You said that March of 2014, you put the brakes on any relationship, including kissing, hugging, everything. This is 5 months after you first started seeing each other.
He started seeing this other woman... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went away on a trip and I am upset it was not a long, romantic good bye like I expected.
Q. My boyfriend went away with his family for a couple of weeks on a holiday. Before he left, he kissed me on the lips. That was it. We talked for 45 minutes first. He was joking and playful with me. Generally seemed happy to be with me. He kissed me...
A. 21 October 2014: He left for a couple of weeks! He didn't die or get shipped off to a war zone.
His goodbye was appropriate! Now, DO NOT contact him while he is away. Let him spend time with his family, and if he contacts you, be warm and fond and happy to... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend known each other for 10 years but have been together romantically for the last year. A few weeks ago I noticed he had been sending sexual messages to another girl over skype; when I called him up on it he broke down in tears, ...
A. 21 October 2014: You should dump him and scrape him off of your heart like you'd scrape gum off of your shoe. He can't even be imaginative enough to revert to the old, stupid "you're a psycho for catching me for the pathetic ego-weaning sex addict I really am" ... (read in full...)
Am I trying too hard to get this girl?
Q. Hi there. Quick recap: Met a girl at a bar and we hung out the entire night. Danced, laughed, etc. I drove her home and we kissed outside her door. Made out up the staircase almost to her main door entrance. Not only made out but she let me put m...
A. 21 October 2014: TrancedRhythmEar, living in the USA doesn't make all women trashy here. Location is a factor, and while women at a bar may not be ready for a relationship, there are plenty of classy women here as well.
OP, you need confidence. Once you've a... (read in full...)
He said he liked me and was going to ask me out but then asked out another girl instead!
Q. So I have been talking to this guy, and he was honest about liking me and this other girl, he told me I was the one he chose and how it was going to be me, and then he asks out the other girl and I really started to fall for him and his been my ...
A. 21 October 2014: Hmm, it doesn't sound like he's been your "best friend" forever if he lets gossip and innuendo override what he knows about you. I'm guessing he heard it from the girl he eventually asked out, which is stupid.
You're young. And, you have 10 ... (read in full...)
Am I trying too hard to get this girl?
Q. Hi there. Quick recap: Met a girl at a bar and we hung out the entire night. Danced, laughed, etc. I drove her home and we kissed outside her door. Made out up the staircase almost to her main door entrance. Not only made out but she let me put m...
A. 21 October 2014: It's not about you trying too hard. In fact, your approach is way too hands off. If you're looking to secure a first date after a great chance bar meeting, relying on texting is a very poor way to go about it. It actually conveys the message that ... (read in full...)
My man isn't good at expressing himself. What can I do to keep from feeling neglected?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 year. He’s 27 and I’m 26. My bf is a good man; responsible, hardworking and a very driven individual. On the other hand, he is not very romantic and he is not good with expressing himself. I have a few issu...
A. 19 October 2014: Uhh, if you haven't seen him for 3 1/2 months and you live locally, then you don't have a relationship with him. Neglected would be an understatement. He's not at a place to have a girlfriend, and things aren't changing any time soon. He's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me an idiot more than he calls me babe!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half, we have a beautiful 7 month old daughter together. But we've been having a lot of problems lately. Well to start off, we work together..and there's this girl he seems to notice a lot. He always ...
A. 19 October 2014: Drop the guy. Name-calling is verbal abuse and you should show zero-tolerance for it in the relationship (it applies to you as well...no one should call anyone names!).
As for this other woman, why does he want to include her and go out with jus... (read in full...)
Advice for dating someone who has children when you've never had any?
Q. Hi I was wondering if someone could share their experience dating with kids. My boyfriend has two children, 14 and 9 and I have none. I have never been a kid person and never really wanted any of my own. The 14 year old boy is ok because he is very ...
A. 19 October 2014: He had you meet his kids after you've dated for only two months??? YIKES! I wouldn't have recommended anything like that at all...it takes a lot of time and sensitivity to introduce someone new into a kid's life, and that's true even if the someone ... (read in full...)
I need to smoke weed for medicinal purposes but my boyfriend doesn't like this!
Q. I have a problem because i fell in love with a guy who thinks weed is bad and i need to smoke because i have nervous problems and severe depression and fibromyalgia pain all over my body. and when i smoke weed i dont feel sick or nervous i can eat ...
A. 19 October 2014: First of all, even though I don't personally smoke it, I am sympathetic to your situation.
You may be incompatible in that area. First of all, do you come from a state that legalizes MJ for that purpose? And if so, have you been to the doctor a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex is contacting him and he's stopped telling me and is deleting texts. Why??
Q. Hello, Ive asked a question about this situation before but there has since been developments therefore i need further advice. My boyfriend of 2 years met up with a friend back in august. This friend wasnt just a friend it was some who he live...
A. 19 October 2014: I would be beyond done with this guy. You're with him for 2 years without the title? That means the default title is "Friend with benefits", which translates to "Waste of time".
Then you say that he tells her that you ARE his girlfrie... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to the photo of his ex?
Q. I have been with my partner for two years and his ex girlfriend has been an issue for a lot of that time. This isn't a recent ex, if it were I could maybe understand, but a woman he split up with 10 years ago, they don't have children or never ...
A. 19 October 2014: He needs to be single?? Umm, he needs to be arrested for assault! The guy hit you in the face?! That is reason enough for you to never talk to him again. Don't talk to him, don't contact, text, or anything with him. He is abusive, and that is ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can be done to increase the friction when my wife and I have sex?
Q. I am a married male in my early 40s. When my wife and I have sex she gets so wet and slippery that after a while there is almost no friction. The other night I couldn't even feel anything to the extent that I lost my erection. I had to pull out ...
A. 19 October 2014: One other thing - what you're describing also happens because of masturbation desensitivity. This means your penis gets too used to the sensation of a handgrip. Many guys, even teenagers, find that after too much porn and/or hand jobs, an aroused ... (read in full...)
Lost virginity..should it hurt to go pee after sex?
Q. So, recently I started my sexual life with my boyfriend. The first abd second time we did it it hurt but I thought it was related to losing my virginity. But recently after we had sex it still hurt a bit in the beginning but the pain faded away. ...
A. 17 October 2014: If you're within the first week, that's perfectly natural, and means you should be using lubricant. However, if it continues or it's been more than 2 weeks since your first sex, then you should see your doctor because that could be an infection.... (read in full...)
Was a wrong to contact a women to see if her baby was my boyfriends ?
Q. I recently found out that a few months before my boyfriend met me he had an affair with a married women . I found old text messages he still had on his iPhone with nude pics they sent each other. he admitted he slept with her but didn't know she was ...
A. 17 October 2014: I have a lot of issues here with this whole situation, so I'm going to number them to keep my thoughts straight on this.
1. How did you "find" old text messages on his iphone? What gave you the right to snoop on his phone and invade his privacy?... (read in full...)
Is this really a ''Guy thing,'' as my fiance implies? His remarks upset me.
Q. My question is for guys. When you're in a serious relationship do you look at girls and think in your head if you could get with them, or not, if you were single? My fiance and I have a baby together and we went out to lunch near his work and he s...
A. 16 October 2014: That's not a "guy" thing. That is a RED FLAG in your relationship...one you cannot ignore. Truly, I'm not abusive, but any time a guy dismisses misogynistic behavior as a "guy thing", I wish a big fuzzy bumblebee would come and sting him in the ... (read in full...)
How do you ask your boyfriend, who is a recent IV drug user, to get tested?
Q. How do you ask your boyfriend, who is a recent IV drug user, to get tested? We are reaching the point in our relationship where we are going to be taking things to the next level physically, but I am terrified of putting myself at risk for StDs...
A. 14 October 2014: Honeypie has the answer. You tell him that you want to be careful, so you want to schedule a dual appointment for BOTH of you to get tested. Tell him you never take chances.... (read in full...)
She never got rid of the explicit pictures of her ex! Do I just throw them away or confront her?
Q. I have a question. My wife and I are together 7 years married for 5. When we moved in together she had some pictures of an ex boyfriend. I was fine with some of them but there was 1 where they were kissing and a few of him in various states o...
A. 14 October 2014: This one takes a bit of finesse to get through. While normally, I think having pictures of exes in an album put away is acceptable, I do think that exes in states of undress is unacceptable and there is no reason to keep them.
Even if you thro... (read in full...)
Should I just get over the fact he kissed another girl while in a relationship with me?
Q. Things between my boyfriend and I haven't been the same since he admitted to kissing another girl while he was on a night out earlier in the year. He kissed her in April and told me in June. To be honest, I couldn't truly believe it was just a kiss ...
A. 12 October 2014: I need to know a very important fact you left out of your question...
What caused him to confess? Did you catch him or question him? Did this girl pursue him wanting to continue? Did he just do it on his own because it was killing him not to b... (read in full...)
This dream has me feeling so hurt! Why would I dream this?
Q. hi. i had a dream that my boyfriend wants to sleep with his ex girlfriend while in relationship with me.we have been together for about 6 years now. he tells me in the dream that it will be healthy for our relationship to explore in that way and he ...
A. 10 October 2014: I can help you with the meanings of dreams. No, I'm not some mystic, but there is a sort of universal truth when it comes to dreams...
Dreams are your subconscious way of working out issues. They are also manifest of your secret fears and inse... (read in full...)
I've discovered what he and his mother think about me and it's very hurtful! I don't know what to do next!
Q. My bf of 4yrs and I are currently on a sort of "break". It has been about a month now. The reason for the break is something very minor and working towards repairing our relationship. Today I logged into my other laptop and I realised that he...
A. 9 October 2014: There are no such things as "breaks". If you need to take breaks, then your relationship is done. Now, you've truly slammed the nail in the coffin because of the saying, "Don't ever try to unearth a secret, because it will change your life ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends more time with his ex than he does with me!
Q. My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time with his ex girlfriend. This has been going on since they split up a year ago. I tried to be tolerant of the situation as I didn't want to control his life. I did however bring it up with him once an...
A. 7 October 2014: Heh, there's nothing EX about this woman. He is disqualified from accusing you of insecurity when it comes to female friends who once had a relationship. Had this woman been completely platonic (i.e. a childhood family friend that used to be a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend breaks up with me, over and over and over again!
Q. okay I'm really confused on this one. I am 47 my girlfriend 45. Will be going out for 6 months and ever since day one she continually breaks up with me.I mean literally she can break up with me more than once in a week and then she comes running ...
A. 7 October 2014: There is no reason her ex-husband of 8 years should still be in her life in any capacity, and her constant breakups are a manipulation tactic used by her to avoid being accountable in your relationship. Any time there is conflict, or you call her ... (read in full...)
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