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writes:I met a guy last night, went back to his place, and then he said he didn't want to have sex because he had only recently broken up with his ex-girlfriend and wasn't ready. I said that was fine, and we had a really nice time together afterwards.I would like to see him again, but I'm unsure as to whether its a good idea, as he is obviously still hung up on his ex.What should I do?
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reader, harleygirl2010  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Just be his friend and get to know him and help him to overcome the break up with his ex-gf. If he goes back to her then just be friends but if he doesn't than you can try to be his new gf. I give him credit for not wanting sex to get over his ex. But, the best advice i could give you is to follow your gut. If it tells you to try to be his gf then do it. Listen to your gut not your heart. Your got won't lead you down the wrong path. Good luck and i hope you two can be together. Let me know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): You can see him again. You met him only last night. Don't expect him to get serious with any girls he's just barely met, especially as he's said his feelings for his ex still linger.
-Tante Vic
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Definitely be his friend. He's a guy of good caliber to not have used you for rebound sex.
Unfortunately, he is hung up on his ex, so it's possible you'll be left out in the cold if he goes back to her.
I think your chances depend on why he and she broke up in the first place. If there was cheating involved by her, you stand a good chance as soon as he gets himself sorted.
Otherwise, it's 50/50. I say be his friend, but keep your options open!
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reader, babii_boo24 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Well maybe it is just because you had only just met him. There is a possibility that he is one of those guys that dont like to have sex on the first date. And even if it was truly because he had recently broken up with his girlfriend I wouldnt automatically classify him as being hung on her. He just might not be emotionally ready. Get to know him better and see if things hit off better. If not slowly break away from it. You dont want to hurt him after he was hurt by his break up. That could just make it worse. So yeah, just give it another try.
Hope this helps(:
sincerely Miranda XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Don't do it! It will only end in heartbreak if he's still hung up on his ex. Not necessarily about the sex but emotionally he's not ready. Remain friends but move along.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (12 December 2010):
 be his friend for now. The best way for him to get over her is to realize how great you are without being pressured.
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