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writes:I have been dating this guy on and off for about 8 mos. now, we are sexually active, but he never kisses me. He knows it is an issue, I have tried to talk to him about a couple of times. It is depressing. He is a really great guy besides that. I sometimes like looking elsewhere for my needs, but I don't want to be unfaitful. I do smoke, and I know he don't like it. However I believe that if he was attracted to me that wouldn't matter. I kind of feel like I am being played with. He is a cancer rising gemini. Pls help Reply to this Question
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reader, justjess  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 ergh, smokers breath is absolutely horrid horrid horrid to a non smoker.
I can;t even stand my aunty standing next to me and talking/breathing near me when she's been smoking. The sheer thought of kissing someone who smokes is completely replusive to me, and to vast majority of non smokers.
you may think it's not that bad, but you smoke so are desentised to it. trust me, it's minging.
speak to your BF about it, ask him if it's the smoker breath or something else, if it's something else you might be able to work through it, if it's the breath then you're probably going to have to consider breaking up with him or quit smoking (which has so many health benifits you should look into it anyway)
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 I have to agree with YouWish. Have you asked him if it was because he doesn't like the smokers breath? I know i don't kiss my man for a while afters he has smoked a cigarette. It's not that i don't love him or anything because i really do love him, it's just i don't like the taste of the cigarette on his breath or the smell of it.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (12 December 2010):
If it wasn't for the fact that you are a smoker, I would have said that he's just using you for sex. But I think it is probably the smoking thing being an issue. I've kissed guys that smoke before, and it's not pleasant. It feels like I'm suffocating in smoke. It tastes disgusting and then I breathe it into my lungs. It's really not a turn on at all. I know lots of non-smokers have an issue with kissing smokers. So you might want to consider finding someone okay with it, or maybe trying to quit. It really is a problem in the kissing department. And even getting close, since the smell stays on your clothes, etc.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (12 December 2010):
 If he doesn't smoke and you do, the breath is *awful*. Since you smoke, you don't realize how incredibly nasty smoker's breath is. Imagine if he was a heavy garlic eater and you didn't like it. You'd want to gag every time he breathed near you.
If you have no intention of quitting smoking, you might want to consider parting ways with this guy, because as long as you smoke, he's not going to like to kiss you. Don't be unfaithful, as that will devastate your self-esteem.
Trust me, attraction only goes so far. If the best looking guy in the world has rancid breath, no way would I want to be near him.
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