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writes: My fiancé is the love of my life but lately she has been acting really weird. She has been staying up late (5 am) and she has been falling asleep on the couch lately. I have been getting up and waking her up to go bed with me. She shakes when she is sleeping and I have been hearing her cry a lot. She has been having panic attacks and I don't understand them and what is a panic attack? She is very distant. It's causing us to fight, I admit I can be a jerk when she sleeps on the couch because I want her next to me not down stairs. The other day she wouldn't let me touch her, she was crying like something happened to her!!! I know for a fact she went for a walk that night and she came back all scared. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): It sounds as if she is suffering from severe anxiety. That could be a build up of stress or something has happened to set off the panic attacks. Fighting with her won't help.
You need to speak to her in a non judgmental way and ask what is wrong. Either that or suggest she visit her doctor and talk to him/her if she would prefer. You can Google panic attacks and find out all about them. They are very unpleasant, i have had them myself. I think the point is, you won't get anywhere by being angry with her. Something is wrong and you need to take a softly, softly approach to helping her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 June 2011):
Yes, something has happened. Forget about her not being in bed and talk to her gently. Explain that you've seen there's been a change, and that you are there for her and need to know what is happening.
Here is a link to a UK charity that explains what a panic attack is:
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses_and_conditions/panic_attacks
Read it, and talk to your fiance.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Oh boy. Sounds like something really did happen to her. She needs to talk to someone about it. Stop being a jerk and focusing on her 5am bedtime. Find out what's wrong, because it's serious.
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