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writes:Long time no see. I'll get straight to it.Alright, so last year a friend from my past sprang up and started talking to me again. To clarify, I had spent some time with her boyfriend and she must have been curious or thought I was dead or something. I'll never know why it took this for her to text my phone. I was happy to see she cared enough to restart our friendship and suggested we hang out.Now the first time it was quite normal. We went to lunch, reminisced about things including my failed attempts to woo her. She had admitted to having a huge crush on me (downplayed at first), but her mentioning it lead me to question why she rejected me. She had no answers. It didn't ruin the conversation and we carried on. I still had the ability to entertain her with ease.The second time wasn't so normal. She invited me over her house (for the first time ever) to watch the BET awards and maybe that would be that.Dark room. Hot pocket snacks and soda. Normal stuff. But then when that went off, she inquired about watching Walking Dead. Sure, I had nothing important to do.Blankets. Couch. Opposite ends (I assumed it was right). Weird, but awesome.She doesn't exactly hit my phone often and rarely suggests hanging out even when she does for the next few months.Recently I contacted her about some stuff I was doing and she randomly informs me that she and her boyfriend are no more. I don't know how to react, but a lady friend tells me "the vagueness of it suggests that she wants you to ask". I did, she deflected and asks about me.Eventually she rattles on about how i should visit her at work, us getting blazed together and watching season 1 of Walking Dead on Netflix (which puzzles me, knowing her Xbox is broken and her brother hogs the PS3. Are we to use her desktop?).Not only that, but her texts are more frequent. I used to have to initiate a conversation, but now it's like we've talked every day since.I just wanna know: does she want my penis or am I being sought for simple comforting, being her only male friend (which I'm not even sure is true)? Either way I'll be there, but what are your thoughts, forum?
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reader, Doobie +, writes (17 March 2012):
Doobie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo revelations in the latest conversation. *sigh*
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reader, Doobie +, writes (17 March 2012):
Doobie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the thoughts. So we finally hung out today.I walked to her car and we went to a burger joint. She insisted on paying (even though I told her I had my own). We rode back to my house to eat and talk about random stuff. She had lied on my bed as I sat up and spoke to her. It made me kinda tired, so I grabbed my other pillow and joined in. We continued talking like this and I noticed her eyes on me. Not sure what to think of it.She noted my attention to details (pulling a table toward her so she didn't have to reach, offering a drink, grabbing her a plate, etc.) saying her ex lacked the intuition to do such things (I had inquired about their breakin up). In general, it seemed like she appreciated me for it and my understanding her issues. I just explained that I just happened to have money and drinks this week and thus proceeded to offer. Still, she was appreciative on a high level.We talked about music and I challenged her to make some. She took it and made a (rudimentary) production before me.Afterward, she got up from my mattress and proceeded to leave. It was odd because she didn't even give me a hug. I was super disappointed.We're talking about it now; she sent a text asking if she left weird.Stay tuned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): Hard to tell on this. She might not. But if you don't want to get in the Friend Zone for life with her then you had better at least let her know you would do more with her.
If she turns you down then you can let it drop and continue to play friends with her. But don't let it go unsaid if you have any of those feelings. You are getting too close to her to recover if she puts you there just because she doesn't know you have any interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): "I just wanna know: does she want my penis or am I being sought for simple comforting, being her only male friend (which I'm not even sure is true)? Either way I'll be there, but what are your thoughts, forum?"
Agree with danielpew that we can't know, but if you and I were betting men I don't think we'd lose any money wagering on your penis (metaphorically speaking). If you're cool with that, fine, just make damned sure you don't conceive a kid you don't want to co-parent with her for eighteen years and put a hat on your helmet.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 March 2012):
 I think it's friendship for now. She didn't get sexual with you before, and she's not talking a lot about her breakup (makes me wonder if he got mad that she spent time in your house while they were together).
By the way, it's extremely rare that a girl would ever think along the lines of "I want his penis". Her behavior doesn't support her wanting sex from you either.
If you're still interested, she might be too. But interest doesn't equal having sex as her ultimate goal.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 March 2012):
 I guess time will tell, relax and see what develops.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 March 2012):
 I'm afraid we can't know.
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