Boyfriend wont leave porn alone, Whats the best action to take??
Q. My boyfriend lies to me all the time about his internet porn and chats. We've been together off and on for about 4 years and we have a son together. What can I do to make him realize this is a NO NO for this relationship to work? Both the lying and ...
A. 3 May 2006: Porn can be very addictive, he may want to stop but be unable to. Meanwhile the lies could be because he's ashamed, addicts frequently lie about their activities out of shame. If this is the case, he needs your help, not anger and accusations (not ... (read in full...)
I seem very emotionally over wrought at times...so unlike me. What's going on?
Q. Why am i so emotional all of a sudden? Hi, im 19, and have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now. The last 4 months of my life have been the most emotional ever, i've had some highs, and some very low, low's too. Sometimes i can...
A. 30 April 2006: It's not a weird question at all.
As men we are taught by society to be unemotional, to supress our emotions. To go through life with the volume control turned down.
A real relationship forces us to open ourselves up. We become vulnerabl... (read in full...)
Half-way through sex I go soft, what can the problem be??
Q. I have sex with my girlfriend we start doing it then half way through it i get soft what can be the problem?...
A. 28 April 2006: Drugs and / or alchohol can also be a cause. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything when I have sex!
Q. i am a 18 year old female and i dont get a feeling when i have sex, is this heard of and is there somthing wrong with me?...
A. 28 April 2006: It's very common, you are not in an unusual situation at all. It's very possible that for you to feel something you need to be both emotionally secure with the person you are with, and physically relaxed. I was in a similar situation with my ... (read in full...)
Can you give me advice on meeting a guy who finds me more than a good lay??
Q. Lately, I've had time to think about my love life or lack thereof. I'm 18 and I can't find a relationship when it seems like everybody has a surplus of them. I date all the time, but I can't seem to be anything but a sex object. All the guys I meet ...
A. 28 April 2006: I recommend dating but holding off on the sex. You'll find out if the guy sees you as more than a sex object if dating you doesn't entail sex. If he is only into you for sex then he'll lose patience quickly. If he stays around and you have fun ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my fear of orgasming with my partner??
Q. I'm quite embarrassed by this but i have problems with having an orgasm. When I am with my boyfriend and when I am alone I often come to the brink of orgasm to the point when i am trembling but then have to pull away as the feeling gets too much. Is ...
A. 28 April 2006: I would suggest working on being able to bring yourself to orgasm alone. Once you can do that, it gets easier to do it with your boyfriend. My girlfriend was in a similar situation when we met, we went out and bought a vibrator and 'The Story of O'. ... (read in full...)
Am I too adventurous? I ask this, because my bf dumped me after making me feel like a used rag.
Q. I was seeing this guy over Xmas and we stopped it because I was going through a messy marriage break up at the time. Recently he got in touch again and we started seeing each other which involved lots of good sex. Now he tells me he doesnt want to ...
A. 26 April 2006: It sounds like he just doesn't want a relationship with you, but that has nothing to do with you being adventurous. Most men like a woman who is adventurous in bed, so stick to your ways, just find a man who will appreciate you.... (read in full...)
I'm so shy..give me advice on how to get the courage to talk to this boy I like.
Q. Im so shy around this boy i really like him and i just cant get the courage to talk to him can some one give me advice how can i get the courage to talk to him....
A. 26 April 2006: You could leave him a note, or send him a message if you are struggling to tell him how you feel face to face... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of my bf's friend?
Q. How can you get a friend of your boyfriend you don't like much out of the picture? How can you get him to stop being the third wheel? I don't care if he ends up thinking i am a bitch, i just want him to go bye bye...
A. 25 April 2006: You have to ask yourself if you are being fair in wanting this. If this person is a good friend of your boyfriend then maybe you just have to accept him being around.
However, if the two of you really don't get on, then I suggest you talk to your ... (read in full...)
How can I stay in my ex's life, just in case for the future?
Q. My ex broke things off with me. Does anyone have stories of reconciliation after being broken up for a while, and the either one or both parties saw differnet people? I love my ex girlfriend more than anything, but she's seeing someone else at ...
A. 25 April 2006: Yes people sometimes do get back together after a situation like the one you describe. But it is rare.
However, waiting around for her to 'hopefully' change her mind is a recipe for misery for you, since the most likely thing is that it won't ha... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but he's telling everyone we had sex!
Q. I am 14 years old and my ex boyfriend is telling all his friends that I had sex with him but I didn't!!! I am still a virgin and planning on being one for a long time because I think losing your virignity is a big thing. But everyone thinks I'm a ...
A. 25 April 2006: To be honest he doesn't sound worth it. If he cared about you he wouldn't say what he said. However, if you do want to give him a chance, tell him he needs to change his story and tell the truth to his friends, otherwise you'll break up with him.
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Her stories about her sex life haunt me... am I overreacting?
Q. I hope some woman can shed some light on this, I am remarried 6 months to a woman that makes me feel so loved and cared for but when she talks about her sexual past, she seems to add more than I want to know. I have told her I dont want the details ...
A. 25 April 2006: You are not overreacting. There are very few men out there that would want to hear the things you are being told. Your phrase 'burned into my mind' describes it well: its easy for these images to come back to haunt you when you least want them ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the "dirty secret" anymore!
Q. Hi I need some serious advice on an incident that has really hurt me. I need the honest blunt truth please My boyfriend is visiting from overseas we've been going out for 2years- oneyr was long distance. we're faithful to one another. but no ...
A. 24 April 2006: You don't mention it but i'm assuming you are gay (the site says you are male, and you are talking about your boyfriend). Is it possible that he doesn't want you to meet his family because he hasn't come out to them? Perhaps they are very ... (read in full...)
Why don't I get wet?
Q. I'm a young vibrant girl, and would like to know what could be some of the reasons for not getting wet while trying to have sex, althought you're really horny?...
A. 24 April 2006: There are lots of reasons. You could be nervous, or feel pressure that you 'should' get wet, or your partner could not be turning you on. You should be wet before you attempt intercourse, so make sure you are getting enough foreplay. Theres' no one ... (read in full...)
Can someone please help me?
Q. can any one give me help im male 24 and everytime i wank and have sex i come to fast ...
A. 24 April 2006: There are lots of web sites that outline techniques for dealing with premature ejaculation. The good news is that you can learn how to deal with this, it just takes a little patience and practice.
The basic technique is to masturbate yourself... (read in full...)
Can't seem to enjoymy sexual encounters, What should I do?
Q. I am a healthy size 12 female aged 21. I lost my verginity when I was 16. I have only ever had 2 sexual partners and with both I have never enjoyed sex or had an orgasm. I have been with my current partner for 4 years, now he says it isn't a problem ...
A. 24 April 2006: My previous girlfriend was like this when we first started our relationship. It turned out that she had never orgasmed, either from sex or masturbation. She also never masturbated, she had only tried it a couple of times, and had got nothing from ... (read in full...)
Is it right to ask my guy friend if hes into another girl??
Q. If i wanted 2 know if my guy friend is dating or interested in this girl i see him with would it be right for me to ask him? Ok ill be honesty. I like my guy friend and it drives me madly crazy when i see her with him. ...
A. 24 April 2006: Of course you can ask him. If he is dating her he should say, if he's interested but hasn't done anything then he might not want to talk about it. Either way though, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't ask.
And if he says 'no', then he might... (read in full...)
Does it turn guys off if girls show interest???
Q. Is it possible that a certain guy shows interest on you or treated you in a very special way just because that youre friends say? Both of us are very conservative type of person and me as gal believe that guy must be the one to make a first move whe...
A. 24 April 2006: No, not necessarily, guys can like it when girls show interest.
However, if he is quite conservative then he might also think that he should be asking you on a date, rather than the other way round. There's lots of reasons why he might not have... (read in full...)
Feel embarrassed about my appearance, How can I accept myself?
Q. This might sound a stupid question to some people but it is really effecting me. Im 16 and i find it hard to look at a girl face to face because one of my eyes turns in and i hate it. Will it bother girls if my eye turns in? because it is really ...
A. 24 April 2006: Some girls will be turned off by it, but there will be some out there that find it distinctive and unique, something that makes you different (and interesting). Remember that girls are much less interested in physical appearance than boys.
Confi... (read in full...)
Should I let her know I have feelings for her?
Q. In a very unhappy relationship with partner, which has more or less come to the end. Have dicovered that a friend from old work place has just split up from her husband as well. I have always had feelings for her, and we meet last week just for a ...
A. 24 April 2006: I would suggest just spending some more platonic time with her to start with. You'll both be a bit sore from your breakups, and could probably do with some relaxed company and friendship. Jumping too quickly from one relationship to another is a ... (read in full...)
My sister in law was seen kissing another man, do I tell my brother?
Q. My stepdaughter saw my sister in law romantically kissing a man at a local bar. My question is do i tell my brother or do i let him figure it out himself...
A. 24 April 2006: The ethics of this situation are complex. I was once in a similar situation, this is how we (I and a friend who also knew) handled it:
You should talk to your sister in law first. Tell her what your stepdaughter saw. There may be a legitima... (read in full...)
I can't control my urges, especially when we're having sex!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 34 year old guy who has a very loving young woman as a partner. She is the first partner that I have ever had. The problem is that when we make love, I have serious problems ejaculating and have never been able to do this when ...
A. 24 April 2006: Its possible that because you masturbate frequently you need a lot of pressure to get you to orgasm: more than you get through intercourse with your girlfriend. If that is the case, then laying off the masturbation for a while will help.
Howev... (read in full...)
She has been with over 100 men and I can't get this image out of my head!
Q. My girlfriend just told me of her past, consisting of a couple of hundred men. I am having a hard time accepting this number and find myself thinking of her with her former partners rather than myself. How do I get over this?...
A. 22 April 2006: This can really eat away at you. You need to find a way to put it out of your head, or it can cause problems in the long run. The first thing you need to decide is whether you 'rationally' can accept it, ie, do you think what she did is ok? If you ... (read in full...)
He'd rather choke the chicken than make love to me. Why?
Q. i am have been married for 15 years and love my hubby very much. but know him for 22 years. i was a virgin when i go married and as the years got on we had a very health sex live but in the past 5 years it just seem to have gone down hill. i have ...
A. 22 April 2006: Masturbation in a relationship is normal, there's nothing wrong with him doing it.
However, if you feel your sex life is not going well and you're feeling unloved or ignored, that is a problem. Don't get it mixed up with the masturba... (read in full...)
Why am I going limp inside of her?
Q. I seem to have developed erection problems, I cant understand. sometimes I am fine but other times I cant even bring my self off. when my wife gives me oral its perfect but when it comes to intercourse, I can get it in but it goes limp. as if I ...
A. 22 April 2006: As Jadzia says, it could be one of many things. Since you can get hard / orgasm via oral, that suggests that its not a physical issue but is something else. Talk to your doctor and consider that it may be also be a psychological issue that talking ... (read in full...)
What do you think of girls who sleep with lots of men?
Q. i am extremly horny and sleep with plenty of men does this make me a whore...
A. 20 April 2006: No you are not a whore, but you can have future problems because of this. A lot men, whilst they are happy to have sex with a girl that has had many partners, will find it very hard to commit to a longer term relationship with you (if they know). ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my bf's past sexual history. Do I get over this problem or do I get out of this relationship?
Q. How do I get over my boyfriends past? I'm not going to go into details, let's just say it's very colourful with regards to girls. Now, I know he's changed since he met me and wants to settle down but I just can't get over his past, seeing the...
A. 20 April 2006: I am going through the same thing, I know how horrible it feels. What has worked for me is to try positive visualization. You can almost get addicted to the horrible images of your partners' previous sexial experiences, and end up obsessing over t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to do stuff with him I'm not comfortable with... What can I say!?
Q. i have just got a boyfriend and he wants me to do things to him i dont want to say no coz ill look like a wuss and i dont want to say yes coz i dont want to what shall i do...
A. 20 April 2006: If he really cares about you then he won't force you to do what you don't want. If he tries to force you, it shows he is only thinking of himself and not you. And you don't want to be forced to do somethng you don't want by someone who does... (read in full...)
We broke up over men at my workplace but while we were apart I replied to an email and my bf found out and is mad!!!
Q. My serious boyfriend and I broke up briefly for a week, he was somewhat jealous and had a hard time with me working around other men. When we were together I had an e-mail from another guy business related. I didn't respond to the e-mail and told...
A. 20 April 2006: Emailing him back was 100% ok, especially since you were so open with your boyfriend about the original email you received. Explaining to him clearly will probably help. A lot of reassurance; that you love him, and not anyone else, and want to be ... (read in full...)
Where can i meet that special guy??
Q. Where is a good place to meet guys, ones who aren't just after sex? I am 30 years old, am told I am beautiful and intelligent (by my unavailable male friends - typical!), and yet only seem to meet guys who are only after one thing. I am despairi...
A. 25 February 2006: The unfortunate irony is, there are guys out there who hate to try to meet girls in pubs and clubs, and don't want to be sleasy (ie just jump on you the first chance they get). They're sitting around thinking 'how can I meet someone like you'. My ... (read in full...)
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