24 yr old virgin with very experienced guy! Afraid he'll tell everybody on a drunken night out!
Q. I am a 24 yr old virgin, and recently met a (very experienced) guy through mutual friends. I'm not embarrassed to tell him I'm a virgin, but I am embarrassed about our friends finding out. On a drunken boys' nights out, he sometimes lets slip with ...
A. 12 June 2006: There's nothing to be ashamed of being a virgin. In fact, in some ways you can take pride in it. I was with a group of people this weekend and a girl (probably nearly 30 years old) stated she was a virgin and was waiting for her marriage (she's ... (read in full...)
GF cheated but I just can't seem to forgive her but I really want to!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly 2 years. She went to uni and we have been trying to keep things together. She cheated on me (just kissing) with someone I considered to be a threat from the day I met him. She says she instantly ...
A. 12 June 2006: You are in a difficult position, it is very hard for men to cope with infidelity (even minor) by their partners. Women find it generally not so difficult to forgive, which can make it even harder, since your girlfriend will find it difficult to ... (read in full...)
I have been dared to have a gang bang at 13!
Q. hi am a jade and i am quite young still i am 13 years and 11 months and i am quite average i like to wear girly clothes and do social thigns but yesterday i went bowling with 5 of my guy mates that i get along with really well. i enjoyed it and we ...
A. 6 June 2006: DO NOT DO THIS!!
It doesn't matter if they have dared you 100 times
I promise that after you have done it you will feel very bad indeed, and really wish you hadn't.
On top of that, you will find that the boys will probably start treating ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Did you really mean it when you said you would sleep with them if you had the chance? If thats true then you have to ask yourself if you should be married?
If it wasn't true, then you can go back to your wife, apologize profusely, and tell her... (read in full...)
He used to be a little wild, dated lots of girls,but hes calmed down now, but I cant get his past out of my head, how do I handle this relationship ?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend going on 4 mos. and I have recently been having some issues about how I am so less experienced than he is. I have been a religious girl all my life, but have recently dissented from my religion. He is a virgin, ...
A. 2 June 2006: I agree with Camille, I think her advice is very good.
You said:
"...but I know that I don't want to have a serious relationship with someone until I get and explore my own sexuality"
This is a suprising thing to say! Many people will te... (read in full...)
Worried that the love for my girl may be fading... !
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and to begin with it was all a big change for me etc and was extremely exiting....Now I keep having worries in my head that I am 'slowly going off' my girlfriend for some reason....Whenever I am ...
A. 2 June 2006: You'll probably get many different opinions on this, but here is my advice.
6 months into a relationship is around the time you might be 'taking it to the next level'. What do I mean by this? I mean that after 6 months together you will be getti... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was late home knowing I am jealous!
Q. I have been seeing a counsellor for my anger and jealousy problems. I used to get mad at my boyfriend a lot, but because of my counselling, I haven't really got mad at him in the last couple months. I've been real proud of myself. On Tuesday my ...
A. 2 June 2006: "How can you guys say that if your partner said they'd be home at a certain time, but they didn't and you called and they didn't answer, that you would be fine with this?"
The reason I gave the advice I did is because I've been in exactly that sit... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was late home knowing I am jealous!
Q. I have been seeing a counsellor for my anger and jealousy problems. I used to get mad at my boyfriend a lot, but because of my counselling, I haven't really got mad at him in the last couple months. I've been real proud of myself. On Tuesday my ...
A. 2 June 2006: You have fallen into one of the classic jealousy traps. Although you are acknowledging that it is your problem, you are still projecting that onto him, making it his fault in the end. For instance you say "He said one thing and did another, which to ... (read in full...)
How can I satisfy my guy better?
Q. hi, i gave my bf a blow job but i felt like it wasnt satisfying enough. He got me going faster and all that which was fine but then he wanted more of deep throating, and i just couldnt do it. I almost gagged once, and that was a little embarrassing ...
A. 2 June 2006: If you have to deep-throat your boyfriend a lot every time it is going to be very hard work for you. If he's insisting on deep-throat then he's probably just seen it in porn and wants what he has seen. What you (and he) should remember is that porn ... (read in full...)
I am having cybersex with my boyfriend but I don't know what to say!
Q. i m 17+.my boyfriend and i dont really have sex as we are not at the same country.or this is not the time to do so.but still when we chat in the net,he asks me what will i do to make him more romantic and to love him more.both of us starts from head ...
A. 1 June 2006: If you want some inspiration you could try reading www.literotica.com. There are thousands of free stories written by site visitors about every (sexual) subject under the sun. The site says you have to be 18, so just pretend you haven't visited ... (read in full...)
Her past involved drugs and orgy's, How do i get over this?
Q. I've been dating a girl for a few months now and it's gotten fairly serious. I know she's special cuz it's been over 8 years since I've felt so strongly about somone. I was single and loving it for years but she changed all that. And it's cool. ...
A. 1 June 2006: I have been in a similar situation, and fortunately the final outcome was good. Based on my experience I have a few tips, although your situation may be different and they may not work for you:
- Understand that this is YOUR ISSUE and ONLY you... (read in full...)
What's making these guys fall for their booty calls?
Q. It seems that more and more girls are controling bootycall situations.Girls are taking control of the bedroom with a new sexual independence. I have noticed a trend in the forum where the boys are falling in love with their bootycalls ,where as the ...
A. 1 June 2006: I have to question that you think men are being 'wimps' for falling for someone. You make it sound rather negative!
Women have been fed role models from shows such as Sex in the City that promote sexual independence and more acceptibility of promi... (read in full...)
I got frisky with my friend, how do I get him to talk about it?
Q. I've been friends with a guy for about a year and 8 months now. We don't get to see each other too often anymore, what with university and everything. But 10 months ago, we were at picnic/party thing with some other friends we don't really see that...
A. 1 June 2006: My advice is very simple. Tell him directly that you want to talk about 'it'. Arrange a time, a place, just the two of you, and make sure that he is aware that you are going to discuss this. Then bite the bullet and start talking. ... (read in full...)
I cheated by mistake with my Ex, now my man cant forgive me, please help!
Q. Hello all, I ruined my life the other day by cheating on my boyfriend of 2 years. Ive never done anything like it before. Not that this is an excuse but I didnt consciously choose to cheat. I slept at my exes and woke up to him having sex with me....
A. 31 May 2006: I hate to say this, but for most men what you did really is something that can't be forgiven. Men are pretty much genetically programmed to permanently not trust a woman that cheats on them. It's to do with avoiding the ultimate trap for men (one ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my bfs nightmares?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and we've had our shares of ups and downs. Now we are looking for a flat together..however every night(or there abouts) he has nightmares about the mistakes that I have made. He doesn't let it affect h...
A. 31 May 2006: He is having nightmares about your mistakes? It's hard to know what to say without knowing a little about what these are, what you told him and how he reacted.
There are many reasons that these nightmares could be being triggered: perhaps he is je... (read in full...)
I've had sex 6 times and I can't orgasm! Is this a psychological problem?
Q. I'm just going to come right out and ask my question... I'v had sex about 6 times and haven't cum once... The last time she felt so bad that she gave me a handjob after intercourse and i didn't cum then. I don't know what to do or think. I feel ...
A. 31 May 2006: There's lots of reasons this could be happening, see if any of them sound like they could be what you are experiencing:
- Being nervous about performance: meaning you can't fuly relax and are worried about how 'good' the sex is, or worrying... (read in full...)
Trousers: better tight or loose?
Q. Do teenage boys prefer girls in tight trousers or not tight trousers? I don't wear tight trousers. Will boys still think I am 'fit' even if I don't wear tight trousers?...
A. 31 May 2006: It really depends on what the girl looks good in, and what the boy likes. No two people are exactly the same and no two people like exactly the same look.
The best you can do is find clothes that you like, and that you think make you look goo... (read in full...)
I had a booty call, I got a new booty-call... Now I have a boyfriend but booty #2 tells me he loves me!
Q. Hi,I had a booty call(Mike) for the past 2 years.I met his friend at a party and his friend(Todd) started coming on to me,i wasnt really interested but he calls me 2 days later.My bootycall(mike) gave him my number,Todd offered me a part time job ...
A. 30 May 2006: I'm glad you found the replies useful. Yes, guys are vulnerable to falling in love too (despite our pretending otherwise). Personally I don't do booty-calls as I just can't separate sex and love. It's not fair on the other person, and not really fun ... (read in full...)
His ex's bits and pieces are still round his flat!
Q. Dear cupid I have started seeing a new man. He seems really nice but there is one problem. I went round his flat and he still has her shampoo and other bits in his bathroom and Her exercise and weight chart on the fridge. Is it something to wor...
A. 30 May 2006: Only a month? Don't worry too much about it. If he's a typical guy then he's probably just not gotten round to doing anything about it yet, and besides, he'll probably end up using the shampoo for himself.
If it drags on months and months then you... (read in full...)
I forgot to get his phone number, what can I do?
Q. heya i reasently went on holiday (camping)wiv my family and i met this boy there and i fancy him a lot and he told me he fancies me a lot. but we forgot to get eachothers mobile numbers! he really really likes me and so do i and i know he will be ...
A. 30 May 2006: Not easy. Did he give you any other information that might help you track him down? Like what school or college he goes / went to, or maybe any clubs or groups he's a member of? Or maybe any website communities he's on a lot? His name + these and ... (read in full...)
I like this girl and would like to be with her again, what should I do?
Q. do you think i may be in love??? a few years ago i went out with this girl at my school for 6 months but we broke up due to harrasment from other people. her friend asked me if i still liked her. i lied by saying no because ever since i have gone ...
A. 30 May 2006: It's hard to do, but one of the best things you can do is go right up to her and ask her out on a date. Given that you were together 6 months in the past, you know she finds you attractive, hold that thought as you summon up the courage to ask her. ... (read in full...)
I would like to initiate more from him, how should I do this?
Q. my boyfriend and i makeout A LOT! and we both def. enjoy it but i feel like we could be doing more (but NOT sex) if we both wanted to, i feel like we're both ready but how do i or does he go about initiating something more.....if possible i would ...
A. 30 May 2006: The simplest and best way is to talk openly with him about it. Tell him what you are looking for, and why.
Most importantly, talk about it in a positive, non-critical way. It's easy to start an argument when talking about these things. If you c... (read in full...)
I had a booty call, I got a new booty-call... Now I have a boyfriend but booty #2 tells me he loves me!
Q. Hi,I had a booty call(Mike) for the past 2 years.I met his friend at a party and his friend(Todd) started coming on to me,i wasnt really interested but he calls me 2 days later.My bootycall(mike) gave him my number,Todd offered me a part time job ...
A. 30 May 2006: Because a 'booty call' rarely stays just a 'booty call', at least for one person involved. Despite the (currently) popular idea that we can have casual sex without becoming emotionally engaged, the reality is usually not like that. It sounds like ... (read in full...)
I don't understand what is going on in his head
Q. I have been casually seeing a freind of mine for a three months now. We had been freinds for a while and kissed one night when we were out drinking. We are both single and happy to be single. We kissed the following weekend have been kissing and ...
A. 30 May 2006: To me it appears you have two options:
1 - 'Break up' with him, meaning cease having a sexual relationship. You may or may not remain friends.
2 - Have a 'real' relationship with him. This means going to see him and telling him how you feel, an... (read in full...)
My girlfriend confessed all about her past abuse... How can I make her feel secure?
Q. My girlfriend who I have dated throughout College (2 years now) recently revealed to me that she was sexually molested in her early teens. I've had my suspisions since the beginning, and done my best to show my concern but never probe figuring that ...
A. 29 May 2006: It's very significant thing that she has revealed to you. By your writing, its clear that you are a very good boyfriend for her to have.
I suggest just telling her what you wrote here, and confessing your hopes and fears to her. After what she... (read in full...)
I need to know...What is love?
Q. What is the difference between love for a friend and a lover? If you're in love with someone but there's no lust then is it still the 'romantic' type of love?...
A. 29 May 2006: A simple definition I like is:
"Love is letting go of fear"... (read in full...)
Shouldn't there be more to our relationship..?
Q. All my boyfriend wants to do is make out all the time. what should I do? ...
A. 24 May 2006: Come up with some fun things for you to do together. Things that both of you will enjoy. Maybe go see a movie, or exhibition, or museum, or gallery. Or maybe you are near a good funfair, or a fun town or city to visit, or the beach? Or just go ... (read in full...)
He says that sex with me is rubbish
Q. ive only slept with one guy my boyfriend and he has always said how good the sex is really good but then he just says its got rubbish and used to be good but ive got big (if u get what i mean) but then he will come back to me still and want to have ...
A. 22 May 2006: First you should make it clear that he is out of line for saying that to you. It's disrespectful and is really not going to help your self esteem. He's also talking nonsense by the way. If he keeps doing it you should probably leave him.
If yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks about sex with other people
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and he no longers wants sex with me. When he masturbates he thinks about sex with other people. Does this mean our relationship is dead and i should move on? Or does it mean sex is boring and if so ...
A. 22 May 2006: I just noticed you are male. My post below was written thinking you are female. But I think it applies equally to a male couple also.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks about sex with other people
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and he no longers wants sex with me. When he masturbates he thinks about sex with other people. Does this mean our relationship is dead and i should move on? Or does it mean sex is boring and if so ...
A. 22 May 2006: This is a tricky subject. I have a particular set of views on this, not all may agree. I also think you should consider trying my advice before you consider anything as drastic as leaving him. A 4 year relationship is something worthwhile, and you ... (read in full...)
Getting over my exgirlfriend
Q. My g/f of about 3 years and I broke up about 4 months ago b/c she said she was unhappy out of the blue..I had just bought a house near her parents, my whole life turned around and i was so happy..she is 23 and i am 30..i suspected something might be ...
A. 18 May 2006: Three years is a long relationship. 4 months after a breakup its perfectly normal to still be very upset about it.
The fact that she never 'explained' is doubly hurtful. I recently wrote an email to my ex-girlfriend. We separated 9 months a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been hanging out with other girls
Q. Hi, My BF went to a bike rally for a week. He went out one night as did i. I call him at 2 am at the hotel and he was just getting in. He said tonight wasn't anything great. And i said you were with the guys? He said there was a group of us. But...
A. 18 May 2006: It sounds to me like he was trying to say something nice.
It's not practically possible for him to avoid all contact with women when he's not with you. The world is full of women, and he's inevitably going to bump into some of them! You have to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had 6 lovers and I am a virgin
Q. I've been seeing my 22 year old boyfriend for almost 3 months, and last night I learned that he has slept with 6 girls in his past. I'm a 21 year old virgin, and knew that he had had sex before, but I feel so differently now that I know his ...
A. 18 May 2006: This is a difficult decision indeed.
I suggest voicing your feelings and concerns to your boyfriend. You might find that if he makes a big effort to make your feel special then these feelings subside. How he reacts is important: if he belittle... (read in full...)
Is saying "I love you" really that important?
Q. im a guy whos with my girlfriend over 6 mts. do i need to tell her i love her as i feel i show it enough. i dont usually talk that soppy. chances are she knows i love her by my actions?...
A. 18 May 2006: Men and women show love in different ways. Men tend to demonstrate love through their actions (eg fixing her broken kitchen cabinet). Women show love through intimacy, affection and communication.
If you do love her, you should tell it to her o... (read in full...)
Want more than to just be a rebound... how can I know?
Q. Ive met this man who ive met twice now, I really do like him but ive been hurt so many times by men off internet dating sites and all I want is a relationship but nothing ever develops. This particular man who does seem very interested in me,he ...
A. 18 May 2006: It sounds like you both want a relationship, but you are also both very cautious about it since you've both been hurt so much. This is very normal: failed relationships are painful, and we fear opening ourselves up to that kind of pain in the ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my cousin, but how do we tell the family?
Q. well, me and my boyfriend, who is also my 1st cousin, have been together well over a year now, totally in love - the full works. At first I was sceptical; hmm hes my cousin, but then i realised, I love him, I want to spend the rest of my life with ...
A. 17 May 2006: As first cousins, you share the same grandparents. This means that if you have kids, they have a much higher chance of genetic defects than 'normal' kids. However, you won't know if a child is ok until you have them... meaning it is then too late to ... (read in full...)
Sex whilst on a period... what do you think?
Q. do all guys hate/dont mind sleeping with a girl when she has her period? im always extra horny at this time and although i try to not let anything happen i cant resist my boyfriends roaming hands at this time, i even forget its that time off the ...
A. 17 May 2006: Every guy probably has his own boundaries when it comes to sex and periods. But if he's not up for intercourse then some kind of masturbation, either with fingers or a vibrator, might be a decent compromise.
Anal sex does not damage you if you d... (read in full...)
Caught him chatting to an ex and looking at teenage porn...
Q. ive been with my partner a very long time and we have 3 children together.recently i caught him lookking at teenage porn on the web.he denied it then admitted it.hes also been chatting up an ex of his.were each others first.im 21 hes 27 what do i ...
A. 17 May 2006: I wouldn't interpret his looking at porn as serious. Most men look at porn at least occassionally, it's only really an issue if you have an issue with it (which you might?), or if it gets out of hand to the degree where it effects your sex lives. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you've found the right partner?
Q. How do you know if you've found the right partner? Ages ago I went out with this girl (my first girlfriend) and to begin with we kept texting each other but after half term when we didn't see each other for a week as she went back home, I felt it ...
A. 17 May 2006: Groundhog day relationships: the fear that we are doomed to repeat our mistakes and failures in relationships over and over.
I think to a greater or lesser degree all of us share these fears. How do we know (even after being married for 20 years... (read in full...)
A rollercoaster ride in my relationship... he is great but there seem to be so many problems...
Q. Hi, I have been with my b-friend for almost 4.5 years now. It's certainly been a rollercoaster ride. I really don't know where to start without sounding as though I'm trying to blame my b-friend over I. He's very strong-willed, competitive, bri...
A. 16 May 2006: Dr Pete has good advice. Your boyfriend clearly has some issues, and it appears these may be resulting in a degree of emotional abuse in your relationship. The fact that he is deliberately having a fling to 'because you did' is a sign that he ... (read in full...)
How long will it take to mend a broken heart?
Q. I need to ask all the people out there who ever been dumped by the person they thought they were going to spend the rest of their life with does it really, truely get easier? I thought my partner of 6 years was considering proposing to me but ...
A. 16 May 2006: Poor you, that really sucks! I've experienced similar (well, a failed marriage) and it took me a year to really get over it.
Perhaps you can spend time thinking about what you learned from the relationship? These are the things positive things y... (read in full...)
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