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writes: There's this guy that I really liked and we started going out but now we've split up. Then he's began going out with this other girl. Who's not my best friend but a friend of mine who's also the most popular girl in the school. But now they've split up too, I want to ask him out but i'm scared she'll get everyone in school to turn against me and besides i'm really nervous about talking to guys i like and now the guy has asked one of my best mates out and she said no but said she'll go to the party with him as friends and im scared they'll turn more than friends and i don't want to talk to my friend about it because i'm afraid she'll tell the guy that i love him and he'll realy hate me!!Help!!!I love him!!!
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reader, sweet and sour +, writes (20 June 2006):
 hunny why on earth do you want to get back with this guy. you've been there before dont forget and things didnt work out so who's saying that it wont go exactly the same way this time.and the fact that he asked out your best friend. can you really say that if you did get back together you wouldnt feel any insecurities about him liking your best friend, especially knowing his past behaviour. my advice is steer clear yes you may really like him but do you really want to be treated as a go between until he decides he fancies another one of your mates. Find a new guy. i know it's easier said then done but you deserve who truly wants to be with you and someone who wouldn't even dream about getting with one of your friends.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 If you love him then you need to tell him. You've been out with him before, so he knows you and should listen to you. If you can't tell him face to face then write him a letter or message. Just make sure he knows how you feel and then if he feels the same way he will make a move. After you have told him, if doesn't act then you'll know he doesn't want to be with you.
One other thing. Has this guy had a lot of girlfriends? It's possible that he's just looking to mess around and isn't looking for a serious relationship. In fact its very possible (many young guys wouldn't know a serious relationship if it smacked them in the face). Make sure that you are both looking for the same thing, otherwise he'll only end up leaving you again and you'll feel even worse than you do now.
And hiddenspace is right about the gossip: don't worry about his ex and what she says. They've split up so she'll should be busy with others anyway. Just worry about what you want to do, and let her worry about herself. And if she ever gets really bad, just remember that its usually the popular people in school that are unpopular later in life (don't ask me why, but it just always seems to work out that way).
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reader, hiddenspace  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 I think you're quite insecure as you obviously lack in confidence. You have to go just for it, if you love him no amount of gossip will stop you.
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