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writes: hi i am so not confident and its really gettin me down cos im so jelous of other girls. if i look at a girl an shes pretty or wearin nice clothes then i am SO jelous of her! when i look in the mirror i just think, i want to be pretty even though i am quite pretty, i just dont really think anything of me. its weird cos i wanna be the most beautiful girl in the World but why do i? how can i become more confident and like the way i look? also whenever i hear someone say 'shes so pretty' about another girl i get so jelous, but why????
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 What you are feeling is quite normal. I guarantee that a lot of those pretty girls you see that you are jealous of feel the same way: when they see you they think 'I wish I could be pretty like her'.
It's likely to do with your self esteem and your body image. It is important that we value ourselves, irrespective of our sucesses or how we look, but its a hard thing to do. How you were brought up, what your parents are like, what experiences you had when you were young, they all combine to give us a feeling of self-confidence. But for many we come out with doubts about ourselves.
It's especially difficult for girls, you are bombarded with millions of images on TV and in magazines of 'beautiful' women that you are 'supposed to look like'. What they don't tell you is all of those women have been retouched using a computer, have a big team of stylists and makeup artists, and they shoot hundreds of photos and chose only the best few. If you ever were to meet any of those models in person you would realize they look nothing like they do in the magazines!
You should take some time to find out where your feelings about your appearance are coming from. Maybe you can do this by yourself, maybe with friends, you could also consider a therapist or councillor. Look up 'low self esteem' on google and read about it to see if it fits with how you are feeling and behaving. There is lots of good information out there about what you can do to help yourself. You may not be able to make the feeling go away completely, but if you understand why you are feeling it and where it is coming from you will find that helps a lot! and over time the feeling will get less and less.
One other thing. Because you feel unconfident about the way you look, don't feel that boys can treat you however they feel like. It's common for girls who feel unattractive to end up with lots of bad boyfriends because they feel that they don't deserve any better, or can't get any better. But its not true, and really not a good idea! Know that you are worth it and deserve to be treated well by any boy lucky enough to go out with you. Good luck :)
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reader, toritor567 +, writes (20 June 2006):
Maybe your jealousy is make you be insecure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): just teenage life im afraid, dont worry about it. you are who you are, be confident in yourself
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