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writes: My best friend's brother and I started a relationship, we got on really well and enjoyed each others company. Now he's told me we are just two people having sex and will never be a couple. I told him I thought abit more about him than that and now he wont speak to me. What did I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): hey, sorry to say but I think all he wanted to do was get you into bed I think you really need to talk to him and tell him you're not going to act like his personal sex slave! He's definetly not treating you right here also explain to him if this is all he thinks of you then why did he keep letting you believe that you were a couple?
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reader, camille  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 As he is your best friend's brother, it's possible that because you already knew him through her that things went too far too fast. I'm sorry to say it does sounds as though he just wanted to get you into bed. There's nothing in this for you as casual sex with someone you really care about doesn't work and you'll get hurt even further. Try seeing your friend away from his presence because that will just complicate matters for you. Just stay well clear of him. Again, there are questions floating round my head, like his age (and yours), how long was it before you moved from friend to what you thought was relationship, how long before sex. I don't need to know the answers, but they may paint a clearer picture for you to see where you went 'wrong'. But as I said, easy to do, so try to put it down to a bad experience and don't be hard on yourself. After all, his loss eh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): Yes it's the old commitment issue. Loads of guys have this problem as soon as the girl gets misty eyed and loved up they run a mile. Not only that, guys can have sex with a woman and not feel the emotions that we feel. Which is difficult for us girls to understand. He's not worth the worry anyway, cos he obviously didn't feel the same way about you as you did for him. I bet it hurts like mad and is making you so angry, cos you may feel a little used? Remember for next time, really get to know a guy well before you sleep with him, find out what he wants from you first, whether it's casual, relationship etc. For women, sex is so more emotional and bonding than it is for men (that's why we have the babies, cos of our more caring, loving natures) so just bear that in mind in the future.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (28 June 2006):
 He's using you. Stop having sex IMMEDIATELY. Do not under any circumstances sleep with him. Make it very clear to him that if he wants you he's going to have to work at it, and that you're only interested if he wants a serious relationship. Do not compromise on this. Do not give in. You are worth it.
If he doesn't chase you, then he's not worth it. You'll have to forget about him and remember your lesson (which camille describes clearly below).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): do u realy wnt 2 be used lyke dat? he is using u 4 wt e cn gt n i no it mite b hard 2 let go of him bt u cn du alot beter dan dat! also u didnt do anytin rong u bth took da relationship da rong way n nw he doesnt no hw 2 handle ure fellins towards him so he iz blanking u. dnt stoop 2 his level find a new lad and try n stay mates wiv him! gd luk! xxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had known him for long time before we started a relationshhip. Yes we went out on dates and people saw us out together
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reader, camille +, writes (28 June 2006):
You slept with him before establishing what it was you 'had'. Simple mistake, but I'm afraid all too common. You say you started a relationship, what makes you say that? Did you stay in or did you go out on dates? Hold hands in public? People saw you out together as a couple? I can't elaborate without finding out more. Sorry.
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