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writes: Theres this guy i like a lot means he's my friend i just asked him casually would you want to be my boyfriend but his reply was i am busy and haven't thought about it.i know that he is busy but just that i love him and want to know if he feels the same.we dont meet as often but usually talk on the phone usually during the night,these days he's trying to be naughty with me, means he says double meaning things and im afraid if i think the opposite of what he's saying.he usually asks for my advives and tries to make me laugh if he's made me cry and doesnt like it when i stop talking to him but he will do so.its usually me who says sorry even if its not my fault.does he like me.what maybe the possible signs he's giving to show taht he loves me if he does???/ Reply to this Question
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (20 June 2006):
 Darlin, he may not be ready to commit himself to a reltionship! It is heartbreaking especially if you love him and your feelings are not being recipricated. At least he knows know how you feel and it is up to him to make that crucial step from just being real good friends to more. Maybe he is being a little unfair by being a bit naughty with you when he knows how you feel. I wish you all the best, and hope he sees sense! Take care. x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 First thing: stop apologizing when its not your fault. If the guy can't accept responsibility for something and apologize to you when he should, then you really don't want to be in a relationship with him. It'll just slowly sap your self confidence and make you feel worse and worse over time. One of the most important parts of ANY relationship is that you stand up for yourself. If you give in too easily to the other person its impossible for you two to be balanced, and balance is an important ingredient of harmony.
You need to decide what you want from him if he was to be your boyfriend. It sounds a little like he might be looking for 'friends with benefits' rather than a girlfriend. Is that what you want? If you want a real boyfriend who will be there for you and treat you as a proper girlfriend, then make sure he understands that and is very clear. Otherwise you could end up having sex with the guy but not getting the other things you want. If you want only that, then perhaps thats ok, although it sounds like you want more, and I don't recommend settling for less: you'll end up heartbroken.
Once you know what YOU want, then you can talk to your friend about whether you two want to be in a relationship. The kind of relationship you want. Just remember that guys have a tendency to say whatever they need to say to get sex, and worry about the consequences (like whether they really meant what they said) afterwards...
And remember one other thing before you decide to get involved: once a friend becomes a boyfriend, its almost impossible to go back to just being friends again if it goes wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): Have you tried meeting new people through a club or evening class.
Try talking to a doctor who keep any problems confidential.
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