I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 11 August 2007: A quote from a former porn actress, Shelley Lubben:
"It’s safe to say most women who turn to porn acting as a money-making enterprise, probably didn’t grow up in healthy childhoods either. Indeed, many actresses admit they’ve experienced sexual a... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 10 August 2007: "In the end women control porn. That can not be argued. If women don't participate in porn....it dies."
Sorry Eddie, but that's absurd. Utterly.
That's like saying the indonesian child worker controls the sneaker industry and the chinese 120 ... (read in full...)
I would be interested in hearing peoples views on the inconsistancy that seems to be EVERYWHERE through the bible!
Q. This question is not so much about relationships but I am studying religious studies in college and I'm finding it fascinating! My friend is part of a pentacostal church and it's ridiculous. If anyone has seen that church scene in Borat it is just ...
A. 10 August 2007: Not so sure about that Pete ;)
The objective of science is to look for, find, and then eradicate those inconsistencies.
Religion on the other hand tells us to accept those inconsistencies 'on faith'.
Polar opposites if you ask me.... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 10 August 2007: I suggest watching the film Sexy Beast (not a porn movie, it stars Ray Winstone and Ben Kingsley). The main character's wife is a former porn-model. How they treat her past in their marriage is done very well. It's also a great film.... (read in full...)
I would be interested in hearing peoples views on the inconsistancy that seems to be EVERYWHERE through the bible!
Q. This question is not so much about relationships but I am studying religious studies in college and I'm finding it fascinating! My friend is part of a pentacostal church and it's ridiculous. If anyone has seen that church scene in Borat it is just ...
A. 10 August 2007: Absolutely there must be more. But the chance that it takes the form outlined in the Bible or the Koran is, lets face it, wildly improbable.
I read a lot of science in many forms, and I find the description of the universe emerging through ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time for my past, and it makes me miserable!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am writing with tears on my eyes 'cause devastated. I will try to make my story short. I met my bf while in college and while in college I acted a little crazy and mess around with a couple of guys. My bf and I were not together...
A. 9 August 2007: to the anonymous poster below who agrees with me.
The real reasons for this double standard are neither societal or rational. They are emotional, driven by genetics. And have an incredibly simple explanation.
Women carry a much higher 'risk' wi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time for my past, and it makes me miserable!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am writing with tears on my eyes 'cause devastated. I will try to make my story short. I met my bf while in college and while in college I acted a little crazy and mess around with a couple of guys. My bf and I were not together...
A. 8 August 2007: I've been in your boyfriends situation, its not uncommon. The emotions he is experiencing can be overpowering, hence his extreme reactions.
Understand that he's probably very conflicted about this. His rational mind is telling him to get over thi... (read in full...)
Tried to find my g-spot..was this a weird thing to do?
Q. I recently tried to find my g-spot. Is this so wierd? I'm sure many of you know what finding the male g-spot involves. I didn't really get a lot of pleasure out of it, so I'm not sure that I actually found it, but doing what I was trying to do was a ...
A. 30 July 2007: It's a turn on for a lot more men than most would admit. And if you do find it it can be very effective.
It's not strange. I suggest you look online for more information, there's lots out there.
Also, I suggest you do tell your girlfriend.... (read in full...)
I would be interested in hearing peoples views on the inconsistancy that seems to be EVERYWHERE through the bible!
Q. This question is not so much about relationships but I am studying religious studies in college and I'm finding it fascinating! My friend is part of a pentacostal church and it's ridiculous. If anyone has seen that church scene in Borat it is just ...
A. 15 July 2007: I recommend a book called 'The God Delusion' by Richard Dawkins. It is a very interesting discussion on the reasons why people are religious. So you know, he's arguing for atheism, see it as the counter-argument book to the Bible. But, like they ... (read in full...)
I love my guy but when we are away from each other over summer break I feel its ok to have sex with other guys.
Q. ok so been with my man for almost 3yrs and we have gone our seperate ways on holiday for the summer i am completely in love with him and would never wanna lose him but wen ppl go away im a believer in the theory that different rules apply!i met a ...
A. 13 July 2007: If you are honest and open about this with your boyfriend and he can handle it, then it is ok. It might work, a few couples do manage it, but it's unusual. Usually jealousy gets the better of one or the other person and things turn ugly.
Somet... (read in full...)
I cannot get my girlfriends number of sex partners out of my mind
Q. Well, firstly this is a great forum. Hi, My problem is that I cannot get my girlfriends number of sex partners out of my mind..:( I Try though.. I would appreciate very much answers from women and don't be ruff on me. I know I shouldn't care,...
A. 9 July 2007: xSarax this site is for giving advice to people, not abuse. Don't take your anger out on people anonymously online.
You are putting words into his mouth, accusing him of things he hasn't said. In particular, you accuse him of promoting a double s... (read in full...)
I respect girls and treat them right. So why won't they date me?
Q. Dear Everybody I'm 14 and surrounded by people my age with boy/girlfriends. All the boys in my year group are perverted and simply 'use' these girls to feel them up etc which is highly inaporpriate and In my opinion, very rude! I am one of onl...
A. 5 July 2007: This answer may get me in trouble. But anyway here goes. Bear in mind I'm generalizing a great deal.
Women are attracted to several different traits in men. Broadly speaking these divide into one of two types:
1. 'Good genes'. This means: stro... (read in full...)
Is this online guy stringing me along??
Q. So... i met this guy on myspace a few weeks ago and he then added me on MSN and we spoke at least 4-5 hours a day on it to get to know each other. Ive seen him on webcam and got his number so i know he's real. I'm 14 and he's 15 and we both live ...
A. 2 July 2007: From what you've said I don't think anyone here can tell you the answer to your question. Right now you just don't know whether he is for real or not. The only thing you can do is go into this with your eyes open.
MSN is fun and flirty, but it i... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about losing my virginity but I feel pressured by my friends
Q. Im still a virgin at 14 but recently, all my friends have been losing it and I'm beginning to feel left out. I know you shouldn't give in to peer pressure but they go as far as to say "Put your hand up if your a virgin" and I find only I raise my ...
A. 25 June 2007: A few things:
- I'd bet money that a few of your friends are lying about it and pretending to have had sex, so that they 'look cool' (which they don't by the way).
- You'll be glad you waited. 14 is too young, not for physical reasons, but for... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband about my risque past?
Q. Ok im a 20 year old female and im married and today me and my husband were talkin about how many sex partners weve had over the years and what not, and i told him that ive been with 12 men but that was a lie. you see me and him starting dating when ...
A. 24 June 2007: Tough situation. If you think you can spend the rest of your life not telling him then don't. You are right that he could take it very badly. He probably will to start with. He may even leave you. A lot depends on how much he loves you, and how ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 23 June 2007: I'm in London fairly often :)... (read in full...)
She says she's not ready for anal, but she did it with her ex!
Q. My gf has done anal sex with her ex bf but will not let me. She says she will but is not ready yet ? She clames to love me unconditionaly and has never ever felt about anyone as she feels about me? I really want to do this with her and have tried a ...
A. 23 June 2007: Well, how long have you been together? Anal sex takes a lot of trust. Maybe you need to work on your trust of each other first.
To be honest, it sounds like you're being reasonable. The fact that she's asked you to wait and you keep trying s... (read in full...)
Who loses their virginity to two guys?! I'm finding this hard to deal with.
Q. I've been dating a woman for about 3 months who loves sex, and ours is great. But I just found out that she lost her virginity in a threesome with two guys who she then had multiple threesomes with after that. She was 23 at the time and is just over ...
A. 23 June 2007: Damn. I've been where you are, near enough, I know how tough those images can be to deal with. I'll be honest: it can be a very long very hard road to get past this. You need to ask yourself if you really like her enough to be willing to put in the ... (read in full...)
It takes him ages to ejaculate. Is there something wrong?
Q. I am not sure whether this is a problem but feel that I need some manly advice on it. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and when I met him it seemed to take him ages to ejaculate and often he would not do so for sometimes a week or ...
A. 23 June 2007: It's not as uncommon as you'd think. The most important thing is for you to understand that it's not your fault and not to blame yourself for it.
Here is a good article about it, I suggest you read it and also consider getting him to read it. If i... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight fast!
Q. How could i lose 10-15 pounds in seven days? I want to look good during a family reunion thats coming up soon. please help!...
A. 23 June 2007: Losing that much weight that fast is really bad for you. Crash dieting sets you up for rapid weight loss and gain, and ends up making it much harder to lose weight again in the future. I suggest you take a look at your lifestyle overall:
- Eat... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and unsupported
Q. I am very young and i already loathe my body. i am not only pressured by all the skinny people in the media, but by how all the people in my family are thin and gorgous. i think i have a pretty face but fat thighs and stomich, flat chested and i ...
A. 23 June 2007: Puberty sucks, plain and simple. There's nothing anyone can tell you that's going to make it a lot easier. What puberty really is is you becoming an adult, becoming your own person. For that to work you really do have to go on that journey by ... (read in full...)
I don't bear pressure well and he thinks I'm weak
Q. I just wanted to know if you could possibly help me I am despreate. I can not control my emotions. When my boyfriend and I get into an arguement and I feel I am being pressured I start to cry. He doesnt like that he thinks that is weak. He does not ...
A. 23 June 2007: Crying in an argument isn't a sign of weakness. It's perfectly normal and natural. He's making the classic mistake of thinking that you (a girl) are the same as him (a guy). You are not.
Men are brought up being taught that showing emotions... (read in full...)
He broke up with me out of the blue and he's already dating other women
Q. I had a long distance relationship for 6 months. I thought we loved each other very much.he had never been in a committed relationship before. we were getting so close to moving in together. we even started planning for a baby, looked at rings, ...
A. 23 June 2007: It's not unusual behaviour for a guy I'm afraid, in fact it's stereotypical and very common. Men often bottle up negative emotions, so it can seem like everything is fine until suddenly it turns really bad really fast. He may also have been holding ... (read in full...)
I found porn on his computer and I feel betrayed, like he's cheated on me
Q. Yesterday I was on my boyfriend's computer, and clicked on the html drag history box to find the google link, and I saw all these porn links. I do not in any way tolerate porn. I understand that to guys, it's socially acceptable, but I'm not okay ...
A. 23 June 2007: Give him a chance now. Having gotten into this situation I suspect he now really understands what this means to you. If he cares about you enough then he will not do it again.
Porn is a difficult subject. It has become incredibly ubiquito... (read in full...)
Me and my bf had sex and he got angry because I didn't get anything from it. He told me to get out. I dumped him. I'm so upset. What should I do?
Q. I went to my boyfriends today we had sex but he knew i didnt get anything from it all i care about is holding him close not pleasure, he got really annoyed that i didnt and when i got upset saying its not his fault he told me to get out of his house ...
A. 21 June 2007: He got upset because of himself, not because of you. He felt bad that he couldn't give you pleasure (at least how he thought he should). That made him feel like he failed, so he got upset. Men like to see themselves as 'good at sex', what happened ... (read in full...)
I had oral sex with a guy I'm not going out with. Now I'm getting called a slag! What should I do?
Q. hello, recently iv been doing oral sex with a boy im not going out with. we havnt had sex but people think im easy and a slag. i dont no wht to do i realy like him. please help. do you think what i am doing is wrong?...
A. 21 June 2007: I would suggest sticking to sex with people you are 'going out with' officially. Not so easy to do, but worth it for lots more reasons than just not being called a slag. You might want to start by asking him out! Or at least giving him the chance to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out he had Chlamydia and I also had to get treated for it.
Q. Hello, ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. There is quite a big age gap between us and last year sometime he found out he had clymidiea and i also had to get treated for it. I myself havent cheated on him but that got me thinking has ...
A. 21 June 2007: I wouldn't be 100% certain he has cheated on you. It's possible to have the disease for a very long time without any visible symptoms. Having said that, it doesn't look good for his staying faithful! Have you asked him directly about it? Really ... (read in full...)
I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...
A. 14 June 2007: "You say my ego is in control yet it's my insecurities that truly rule me."
Exactly. One's ego is the root of most insecurity.
A way to see your ego is as the spoiled child inside that always wants to look good, blame others, and hates being ... (read in full...)
Why do attractive women have problems finding a man?
Q. So ... I have a good question for everyone. I was going through this question over and over with my good friends, that have the same problem .... Why do actractive women have problems finding a man? I don't think that me or my girlfriends ...
A. 11 June 2007: You unfortunately answered your own question...
"I just should probably be a mean bitch,that will play hard to get,will be always proud and unavailable, not have sex with the guy for weeks and not call him or talk to him ... and than maybe wh... (read in full...)
How do I get a really smoooooooth shave in my genital area?
Q. Im 16 When i shave my vagina it leaves red dots and when i run my hand over my vagina it feels like i havent shaved, its all prickly and hurts.. how can i make it feel and look like there's no hairs there. Also do guys get turned off by a little bit ...
A. 8 June 2007: Can't give you technical advice. But not all guys want shaved pubic hair, I know I don't. Neatly trimmed is good, but thats about it for me.... (read in full...)
He likes kinky stuff--I'm not into that! What should I do?
Q. Hello I am dating a 25 year old man. Sometimes we have great sex but more than the great sex its bad. He will get aroused at first but when we ingage in intercorse he loses it and sometimes he looks akward and laughs. He does masterbate a lot and ...
A. 6 June 2007: It sounds very possible that he's looked at a lot of porn. Side effects like losing your erection can be caused by this: basically he's just not turned on enough without the porn. The same with the taste for kinky stuff: porn tends to desensitize ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality?
Q. How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality? i know its a big part of me but i hate being always referred to as a loser. Oh and I'm 20 and not some teenager in high school....
A. 5 June 2007: You can be a geeky nerd and not a loser. I am very geeky myself, but no one would call me a loser.
Why? It's as I Don't Lie said, it's about confidence. Or more specifically, how confident you appear. Why many geeks are called losers is because ... (read in full...)
Anyone who doesn't grovel at my feet is not worth my time. How do I get over my ego??
Q. I find it joyful to see someone beg down to me and ask for mercy so that I can then decide as to what I should do with that person. Basically I can only relate with someone who can surrender to my ego. If they don't, I just ignore them or can't ...
A. 4 June 2007: Start by considering the nature of ego. An oversized ego is fundamentally driven by insecurity. If you are secure then your ego has nothing to prove. Behind a dominant ego lies weakness, not strength.
Ponder that for a while.... (read in full...)
He watches porn and 'gets off', every morning! Is this why we don't have sex?
Q. My bf and i have been together for 3 years now. We hardly have sex. He has a habit of watching porn and getting off in the morning. Could that be one of the reason why we hardly have sex? We had talked about this matter.His answer was because he is ...
A. 30 May 2007: If he's jerking off to porn in the morning, it's no surprise he doesn't feel like sex in the evening. Nothing to do with his sex drive... its just that he's already satisfied himself. You should consider asking him to stop. His using porn is ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend ask me if I had f***ed him?
Q. OK...I'm a bit confused at the moment. Today, just a little bit ago, my boyfriend was making a comment about a guy's truck and I noticed that I knew him, so I stated that I thought I knew that guy. He then asked me if I f***ed him....I personally ...
A. 30 May 2007: Unfortunately many guys do think it is their business what you did (and with whom) in the past. It's just the way some of us are made. And some deal with it better than others. It's not really a matter of right or wrong, it's just the way some ... (read in full...)
After two years together I just don't feel the same way. What should I do?
Q. well me and my gf have been living together for 2 years no im 20 and shes 18 we live in my mums house. the problem is she loves me more than any thing but i just dont feel the same way wot should i do??...
A. 30 May 2007: Intense love doesn't last for most people. The initial 'rush' you feel early on in a relationship is replaced by a more quiet feelings of connection, appreciation and of feeling comfortable and safe with someone. Do think about whether it is this ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend ask me if I had f***ed him?
Q. OK...I'm a bit confused at the moment. Today, just a little bit ago, my boyfriend was making a comment about a guy's truck and I noticed that I knew him, so I stated that I thought I knew that guy. He then asked me if I f***ed him....I personally ...
A. 30 May 2007: It sounds like he had an attack of jealousy. And your answer made him think the worst (ie that you had had sex with him), because jealousy always makes us see the worst case scenario.
Jealousy is hard to deal with. Maybe the best way to respond ... (read in full...)
How can I stop? I am TOTALLY addicted to porn!
Q. I am totally addicted to porn. I try not to think about it but when im on my own all I do is sit there and stare at my laptop until I get up and look at porn. It's getting annoying but I can't stop it. I don't think it porn is acceptable either but ...
A. 30 May 2007: If you really want to stop I suggest you move your laptop out of your bedroom and into the most public place in your house. You're not going to want to wank in your kitchen / living room. DON'T take the laptop into your bedroom. This has the added ... (read in full...)
My 'sex buddy' guy got me pregnant-then he accused of giving him chlamydia! Any advice for me?
Q. I have a major dilemma... please any advice would be appreciated. I started seeing a guy a few months ago, I knew he's just split up with his girlfriend and it was just sex between us... but i kinda got emotionally attached. In the end his ...
A. 30 May 2007: Sounds like he caught it from his girlfriend. You should take some pleasure from the knowledge that his girlfriend is still cheating on him.
Don't meet him. Don't have anything more to do with him. He sounds like he's only going to give you cr@p... (read in full...)
I 'm interested in BDSM-how do I introduce it to my bf of 2 years?
Q. Help! This is a very strange question... And I feel strange asking it. I am interested in BDSM (male domination) and am in a really secure relationship with my boyfriend. I just don't know how to introduce a Dom/Sub relationship, since it all seems ...
A. 30 May 2007: I suggest you send him a link to this article and see how he handles it. Ask him what he thinks about it after he has read it:
http://www.sub-dom.com/d-s-article.htm... (read in full...)
Had a threesome with my bf and his best friend. Trouble is-I've fallen for the best friend! Help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have had a 3sum i am a nymphomaniac and have had many so its not the first time we have currently had a bunch with his best friend who i dated for 1 month over the phone when i was away me and my boyfriend have been together ...
A. 30 May 2007: I'm afraid I agree with rhythmandblues. It sounds like you are using sex to compensate for deeper issues. The path you are on will not lead you to good places. I suggest you take her advice and seek professional therapy. The sooner the better. Best ... (read in full...)
I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...
A. 30 May 2007: I think you are letting yourself off the hook by using excuses like 'temporary insanity' and that it was her 'blow' to you that caused it. You need to take direct accountability for your own actions, you are responsible for your actions, and no one ... (read in full...)
I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...
A. 25 May 2007: Who are you really helping by telling her? Are you helping her? Or are you helping yourself by unburdening your guilt?
You have to ask yourself if the relief you'll (perhaps) find will be worth the pain she has to endure. The 'moral' choice i... (read in full...)
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