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*ou lou
writes:My bf and i have been together for 3 years now. We hardly have sex. He has a habit of watching porn and getting off in the morning. Could that be one of the reason why we hardly have sex? We had talked about this matter.His answer was because he is overweight and has low sex drive. He is away in Japan for a business trip now and i found tons of Escorts website in our bookmark located on our computer. He has this on the computer before but there are some new one which is escorts in Tokyo. I think he is going to hire a escort while he is there. Does it means he only has low sex drive over me? I am a fit and pretty girl. I have been told i am good in bed as well. Why is this happening to me? I love my bf very very much. I will do whatever i can to safe this relationship. Please help. I really need your advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): I watch porn once or twice a day and I get off. At the end of the day I still want to nut in my girl. Of course the escort thing is fucked up. If I were him, I would talk to you about it. That's not fair when you start doing shit behind their back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): If i was you i would dump him and go for someone a bit more sexualy vialated like me!!!!!! Rob Carr
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reader, DV1  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Either way, my answer remains the same. You deserve someone who desires you, as well as loves you.
DV1
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reader, lou lou +, writes (31 May 2007):
lou lou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe situation has been going on for 1 years now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): You dont say what the relationship was like at the beggining love? but going on what your saying now i would get my arse right out of there, you are worth so much more than this, It has nothing to do with you its his problem and insecurities and like you say you are pretty and could quite easily get someone else who will appreciate you for who you are. I no you say you would do anything for him I BET THAT SUITS HIM DOWN TO THE GROUND!!! He has no problem worrying about you now does he. So he is of to japan and you have found escort websites in your bookmark eh! well if i were you id make sure i wasnt there when he got back!!!! SHOCK HIM! dont put up with this crap. its not easy i no but whats to like about the man think about it. If someone else told you that there bloke was doing this say a good friend of yours how would you feel for her, darling take care and good luck
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reader, DV1 +, writes (30 May 2007):
I think that the truth is that he's really not attracted to you. You deserve better! I think that he sounds like a sleazebag. He's addicted to porn and women who he doesn't have to ever see again.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 If he's jerking off to porn in the morning, it's no surprise he doesn't feel like sex in the evening. Nothing to do with his sex drive... its just that he's already satisfied himself. You should consider asking him to stop. His using porn is definitely not OK if its impacting the quality of your sex life and relationship. Most men look at porn occasionally, but its when it becomes a frequent occurrence that the problems can really start to happen.
The escorts thing is serious. It could be that he's just looking at the sites and not using them, more of just a fantasy thing, so don't automatically assume the worst. I suggest asking him about it directly when he gets back. Just say you found the bookmarks on your PC and want to know why they are there. Trust your instincts when he answers, he'll likely lie if he has been using them. You'll know in your heart whether he's telling you the truth or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): Yes love this is definitely why he doesn't have sex with you. It is not anything that you have done at all, it is not your fault, the fault lies with him, they get so used to the feel of the hand that the normal way just doesn't do it for them anymore and it can also cause erection problems, and they get so lazy, they can't be bothered anymore. I am living this nightmare at the moment, tell him straight you want things to change if he loves you then he will be willing to get help with you, but watch out for empty promises, he will wait till he thinks your off his case and revert back to his bad habits, hope you can work it out, I am still trying, but one thing I would say, if I caught my partner listed on a dating site or looking for escorts no matter how much I love him it would be over, seriously ask yourself is this the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, you already have a lack of trust going on. All the best.
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