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writes: I have a major dilemma... please any advice would be appreciated.I started seeing a guy a few months ago, I knew he's just split up with his girlfriend and it was just sex between us... but i kinda got emotionally attached.In the end his feeling for his ex (who cheated on him... reason they split) got the btter of him and he got back with her. That hurt!I stupidly got pregnant.. my own fault for not using protection.. anyway im suffering for that anyway and the abortion is coming up... please dont inform me of how silly i am for not using protection.. i rlly do know !After not having heard from him in a month he texts me saying that he's caught clamydia and that he didnt have it last time he was tested so he felt only right for me to know.. kinda insinuating that he caught it from me.Anyway its impossible he got it from me. He was my second ever sexual partner and before him i was tested for clamydia. Ive told him this and he says it must be from you. Im terrified now that he's passed it on to me from his slag of a girl friend (and ive told him this).. but im hoping he caught the infection from her after he stopped seeing me. she obviously got it from the guy she cheated on him with.He says that his girlfriend hasnt got the infection.. but surely she must have it considering that they've been sleeping togther?? Its as though he's in denial that he caught it from this girl and is trying to make me out to be the one to have spread it- which is bollocks!!!He said he wants to meet me for me to do a pregnancy tests, which is no problem.. urgh as if i actually want to be pregnant by him!! I'm really disgusted with this whole situation.He's so besotted with this girl who not only cheated on him.. but gave him an STI and possibly me!God I really duno wot to do know.. I feel like punching his and hers lights out...Any suggestions would be appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Sounds like he caught it from his girlfriend. You should take some pleasure from the knowledge that his girlfriend is still cheating on him.
Don't meet him. Don't have anything more to do with him. He sounds like he's only going to give you cr@p and make you upset.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Firstly get yourself checked out fot std.
His girlfriend probably gave it to him if she had been sleeping around and she isnt likely to accept the blame, you just need to make sure he hasnt passed it on to you.
You dont have to prove to him that you are pregnant, but you could get him round and do the test so that it proves you are, although he sounds like the sort of guy who would tell you it cant be his and accuse you of sleeping with someone else and laying the blame at his door.
You have decided to terminate the pregnancy, you know in your mind that you dont want this baby.
Learn from this, abortion is going to have an affect on whether you want the baby or not.
Forget this guy - he isnt a very nice bloke to have done this to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): First off, don't punch any one's lights out. The first order of business is to get tested for a possible STD and prepare for your upcoming abortion. Usually symptoms if any show up within three weeks of exposure, which is in the timeframe of one month since you have heard from him. The important thing is not to be defensive about this information, he is trying to be responsible and tell you that he may have gotten an STD from you that would harm YOU, so get tested to be sure you don't pass it on, or damage your insides. It is believed that 75% of sexually active teens harbor chylamidia as it rarely produces symptoms in women, thus it is a silent STD.
You do not need to meet up with this guy to pee on a stick to prove you are pregnant. It is your body, you were not in a love relationship with him and you have decided to terminate your pregnancy.
The less involved you get with him and his girlfriend, the better.
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