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anonymous
writes:hello, recently iv been doing oral sex with a boy im not going out with. we havnt had sex but people think im easy and a slag. i dont no wht to do i realy like him. please help. do you think what i am doing is wrong?
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reader, Playgroundcops  +, writes (22 June 2007):
This is why you need to wait a lot longer before engaging in this sort of activity.
How did they find out. Were you bragging? Was he? Look up the word discretion. If you did it so that you would have something to tell then you did it for the wrong reasons. As you get older, if you slow your roll a little, these sort of things will become apparent to you. Watch others make these type of mistakes then when you're 18 or 19, out of school and ready to take on the world, go for it.
One more thing. Peer pressure is crap. Be an individual. You'll stand prouder, longer.
Not having sex does not make you anything but safe.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (22 June 2007):
 I guess I'm going to be the old fashioned one here....but I would be waiting for the right guy to be coming along. "Most" guys love to talk, especially at the age you are at. They are not mature and are ONLY looking for fun and pleasure. If that is what you want to become to them, then that is what you will be. If you two want a relationship, then I suggest talking with him. Talk w/him even about you 2 having oral sex and see what he wants out of the relationship. If I were you, I would be the one they would have to wait and long for until I knew it was time. The thing is, which NO ONE likes to hear, in this day and time, there are more transmitted diseases out there and everyone wants to think that it can't happen to "me"....well, it can. It can happen to anyone. I am 41 tomorrow,divorced,and no...I don't have sex with "just" anyone. There will be a bond, a relationship will form and if not...NEXT! There are plenty of fish in the sea, and I don't want to be caught by a shark. Everyone is different..I am not perfect, nor a saint, but I do have standards that I live by.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the advice people i think im just going to c if he wants a relationship if not forget about him.
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reader, love-him +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Hia babii, if you both like each other get together, because the reason people are calling you is a. cos of ur age b. cos you arnt together and c. cos they arnt mature enough yet.. dont continue givin each other pleasure unless you are gonna go out orr dont tell anyone.. because someone has told someone and that was a big mistake.. mail me if u wana talk x x x x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 I would suggest sticking to sex with people you are 'going out with' officially. Not so easy to do, but worth it for lots more reasons than just not being called a slag. You might want to start by asking him out! Or at least giving him the chance to ask you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): hi,
back to boot camp hon. think of ur age and if u really want to be in such an instence relasionship if u think u r ready ask him what his feelings are yh it might be embarrassing but u NEED to get 2 the bottom of things.
think of the conciquences of what might happen and if u r r3eady for all this, if the guy does a runner u r o busted seriously u might need a close adults help just incase it gets out of hand remember at the end of the day its ur choice gd luck
c ya
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reader, bobmcbobbins +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Hi Hun
Well i can't think of anything being 'wrong' unless either of you have partner then I can see why you feel guilty. I would ask him out if you feel so strongly about him (but im a lad so that would be wrong) However it sounds like he's stringing you along and its just a little fun the best thing to do is ask him and talk.
Good Luck whatever you decide to do
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): I think that you should just get with him then people will realise that you have feelings for him and wont think your an easy target.I know what it feels like to be called a slag..i think most lasses do infact and its not nice but as long as you know your not one thats all that matters =) keep your chin up and yal be okay..Im not saying its right though your not 16 yet so i'd wait a bit longer =)
Trust Me xx
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