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writes:I am totally addicted to porn. I try not to think about it but when im on my own all I do is sit there and stare at my laptop until I get up and look at porn. It's getting annoying but I can't stop it. I don't think it porn is acceptable either but I still do it. Please help. Any advice will be helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): porn addiction is serious, however if you are so young it is probably (hopefully) a passing addiction. i have struggled with porn addiction for a long time- it can ruin relationships, kill your real sex drive, and corrupt your mind. it is terrible. what i do is i just lie down on the ground and breath (my porn watching is triggered by anxiety) and just concentrate on the breath going in and out until the anxiety passes.
sex is healthy, masturbation, especially at your age (in moderation) is healthy, porn is destructive. try to find and sexaholics anonymous meeting in you area (look on the web)- not that you should go regularly- just go once to see what real lifelong porn addicts are struggling with- maybe it will get you to stop...it is an open group and if you just talk about your problem people will listen and offer advice. but don't go regularly- it might actually do you more harm if you went all the time. just go and listen once.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 If you really want to stop I suggest you move your laptop out of your bedroom and into the most public place in your house. You're not going to want to wank in your kitchen / living room. DON'T take the laptop into your bedroom. This has the added advantage that you actually talk to your family ;)
Having said that, at your age it's really hard to think about anything except sex (well it was for me). So, maybe make a rule with yourself. Like only at a certain time or on a certain day. Stopping altogether is going to be really hard! (pun intended).
What the answer below me says is true, but don't be too scared. Yes looking at too much porn can mess up your sex life with 'real' girls, but if you stop looking at porn you can recover. As the memories and images of porn fade from your mind, so do the negative effects.
The most important thing to remember with porn is that it is not 'real'. The best thing about real sex is the emotional connection you have with the person you are with. If you really love and care about someone then sex with them is the most wonderful thing. Porn misses out on showing that... which is the best bit! Porn on the internet also has a lot of very hardcore stuff that you have to remember is extreme. A lot of what you see is not stuff that most girls will want to do: the women in porn are paid a lot of money to do it, and usually have had abusive childhoods which have left them unhappy and using sex to build their self esteem. In other words, most porn stars are unhappy screwed up people doing stuff they'd really not do if they were happy and living the lives they want to live. Trust me, you really don't want to be like 'porn star' (stupid to call them 'stars' too...)
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reader, macboy  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I agree with the user below.
Porn isn't normal.
I got over it by trashing all porn from my hard drive, and pretty much masturbating once a night.
Don't throw away your porn mags, but put them in a box and store them away somewhere difficult to access.
Don't get me wrong, porn isn't all bad.
But it shouldn't become routine or a part of life, only a resort or a treat when you want it.
People will tell you that it is normal, and I would have too a few years ago.
The truth is, is that there are many people out there that were in relationships ruined by porn addictions.
I'm not religious, but in some ways it is morally wrong.
An important part of life is self-discipline.
Too much porn is Too much.
You'll be suprised how easy it is to forget porn when it isn't readily available, or you don't have sexual urges for it.
If you need anymore help, feel free to message me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): To the ignorant before who said that porn is normal. Well if you have studied the matter at least for a few minutes you would find hundreds and hundreds of serious and dangerous porn addiction cases that not only rewires the brain but also destroys the lifes of many couples. Not only people addicted to porn cannot stop masturbating to it but it also totaly destroyes their "real sex life". They do not get aroused and alot of them cannot mantain an erection for very long. Not speaking about their incapability to orgasm (this is what happened to my friend). Porn hacks the brain and can leave many people in some serious trouble. And I mean really really serious. Just look at the internet and start reading the stories, cases and studies. You would be pretty much shocked ;)To the poster. Well to have an addiction in such age is quite rare. But also it's a good age to stop watching it and never use porn as an object of arousal in your life again. It'll be a hard fight but you'll win in the end. Good luck ;)
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 May 2007):
 hey chick, first of all darlin, porn is a normal thing so dont let anyone tell u it isnt, it does sound like you are addicted to porn from what you said but bare in mind, your only 13-15 n u will on4e day find someone who is better. if it is realy bothering you and you wish to stop looking at it, delete everything off your computer -to do with porn- n delete ur history of internet, take everyhing like mags out of your room (if u had any) set your mind on something else, tv (fully clothed -non porn-)and if nothing else works, i would suggest seeing someone professionaly about it, a councellor.. hope i helped, mail me if u wanna chat x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): You're 13-15 I see. So looking at & thinking about sexual situations is totally normal...This is the time in your life when you are most curious & thinking about that kind of thing. But you will grow out of this. When you start having a girlfriend & regular sex, you'll be less obsessed with fake sex. Which is what porn is, it isn't real as I'm sure you know. But if it is too much of a problem, maybe you need to see a counselor.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Try and seek counseling. The first step is telling your parents that you have a problem. It will come as a shock, but if you're genuine, it's their job to try and get you help.
DV1
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