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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I am currently 15 in high school. Right now I like this girl and she likes me too but for a couple of days I have been thinking that she is lying to me and probably never liked me. So I ask her if she had every lied to me and she says she doesn't. But I am also becoming suspicous of her sexual orientation. I think she is either gay or bi, as I been told by people who know her. So I ask her if she was into girls and she says she isn't into girls and she told me she does like me but she says she doesn't want us to talk again. What can I do to fix our friendship? Also, I have this feeling that she is still lying to me... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): whatever you do, don't ask her or anyone else that question again. If the person you ask is truly a liar, then they will lie about this as well...and...if they are not liars, they will be insulted by your question and probably not want to be your friend anymore. Do you see how this is a loose/loose situation?I don't know if you can salvage your frindship with this girl since she has told you not to talk to her again. The only thing you can do is watch for an opportunity to be kind to her or help her out in a situation if one presents itself. Fo you have any classes together? Try to get involved in an activity or class that she is in...without her knowing that you are there because of her. Try to be kind with your words, they can never be taken taken back once spoken.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 You're going to half to approach her and be nice, you can't keep accusing her of lying if you want to be with her. Take the time to talk to her and trust what she says otherwise without that trust there will never be a friendship or anything else.
When you do approach her apologize for all the acusations and show a drive to be her friend and have that trust. Then the friendship should come back slowly.
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