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This question has 33 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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27 August 2009: After recently seeing a large number of posts on this site from men asking how to deal with a woman’s sexual past, I wondered why men were so concerned with something that at the end of the day, cannot be changed. So I entered into a conversation ...
For all those teenagers worried if they may be pregnant/got their girlfriend pregnant...!
This question has 3 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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27 February 2009: After reading many posts on this website recently from worried teens about whether or not they are pregnant, I would like to offer some advice to you all. 1. If you have had a period after the incident then it is highly unlikely you are pregnant...
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Funk on the chunk
Q. I'm supposed to go down on my boyfriend tonight and I don't want to. The first and only time I did it, I decided it should be the last. I've had other boyfriends and had no problem doing it, actually I liked it. But my boyfriend is uncut and there ...
A. 24 April 2009: He cant be washing properly if there is still a smell after he showers, I think all you can do is talk to him I'm afraid!
Think about it carefully before you do talk to him if he is pretty sensitive, plan exactly what you are going to say and find... (read in full...)
He's just talking the "tall talk" isn't he?
Q. I do not get this situation someone give me some advice its driving me mad! I was with my boyfriend two years on/off we broke up mainly cos he cant give me the commitment dont live in the same town he put his mates first is selfish and he dont ...
A. 24 April 2009: It is all definately him, he is treating you like a doormat, someone to fall back on when he gets lonely. If he cannot put you first over a game of football then he is not worth you giving him the time of day!
If he was really serious about ge... (read in full...)
I like a boy at my school, but I'm sure my parents will not approve
Q. Okay... Here's my isue: there is this guy in my some of my classe that is attracted to me.... He's black but he is really nice be smart.... I'm not sure if I like him but one of my friends who sits at my lunch table told be that he like me buy idk ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well until he does actually ask you out you have nothing to worry about. At the moment, you have no idea if he likes you (only some gossip from someone who is known to lie) and you dont know if he likes you. So you are thinking about this whole ... (read in full...)
Effectiveness on Implanon contraceptive?
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm on the implanon contraceptive (rod in my arm) when i went on to this type of birth control the doctor told me it was completely effective and the risk of getting pregnant was something like 0.05% however im getting worri...
A. 23 April 2009: If you have missed 4 periods then something is seriously wrong - you need to go to see your doctor now!
You really should have taken a test after you missed the first period, if it is the worst case scenario and you are pregnant then you could be... (read in full...)
I don't like my body and this is killing me
Q. Hiya everyone! (I've asked a similar question to this before, but I think this one is more focused to the point.) I'm "at risk of becoming overweight" and I'm not comfortable with my weight at all. I'm a serious athlete and I'm losing fat fast....
A. 23 April 2009: Well stop thinking he is overweight is a good start! If you think he is overweight/at risk of being overweight then clearly this will be rubbing off on him therefore he will feel that you dont find him attractive.
You are too young to be worrying... (read in full...)
Somehow I got pregnant and I'm just not sure what to do!
Q. I'm 17, and i've just found out i'm pregnant. I really can't understand how, as I was on the pill, and even the doctor said it just doesn't add up. But after not having my bleed after day 21, I knew there must be something wrong, and so took 3 ...
A. 22 April 2009: I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it seems that you are just one of the unlucky ones where the pill fails.
With regards to your decision, at the end of the day it is your decision. While your boyfriend should have a say, it is your body and... (read in full...)
He wants to put our baby plans on hold for another year and I'm so upset about this.
Q. I am 37 years old, I have always dedicated my life to a successful career. For the last 6 years I have been prepared to travel the world and live in a suitcase. This may seem glamorous, but I always felt alone. Even though I had a busy life, my ...
A. 22 April 2009: This is a very difficult situation but I actually agree with your partner, it is sensible to wait until the financial crisis is over because right now, no-one's job is safe.
I can totally understand where you are coming from - you have given up... (read in full...)
What to do for the best? He says he wants to marry me but he's ALREADY married!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 5 years, but the problem is that he is already married and he says he wants to marry me but I don't want to because I can't share him with anyone but he is not trying to understand. He has ...
A. 22 April 2009: You cannot marry him as it is illegal to marry someone else whilst already married - he would be punished for this i.e. he would be put in prison.
You sound like you already have tried to end the relationship - but you need to try harder. ... (read in full...)
He says he finds other girls attractive, and he's feeling confined
Q. So, I'm happily in love with a very sweet guy and we've been dating for 6 months. I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him, and there's nothing that I want more than that. Despite all of the good times we have, there is this on...
A. 22 April 2009: Well the problem here is that you started this whole thing off by having a problem with the strip club, therefore from that moment he will have felt that you dont trust him and are trying to control his life.
Now I know this is not true and I gu... (read in full...)
Should I pursue my ex who I love? I need my new g/f for money matters.
Q. so i am unemployed and live with my gf of 2 years almost and been thinking. And i have come up with the conclusion that i am in love with my ex she is who i dated when i was 17-18 and i now 20 and she i still heart broke over me and i have not seen ...
A. 22 April 2009: How are you sure that you love your ex when you havent seen her for 2 years? You are in love with the memory of her - the reality will be very different. The love you have for someone when you are at that age (still a teenager) is very intense and ... (read in full...)
How can I motivate myself to become more organised?
Q. I'm 15 and have been having a lot of stress. Here are things that stress me out. -Overload of school work -Courswork -Exams -Exam Revision -Having time to myself -Not doing any piece of homework stresses me out and I worry a lot What ...
A. 21 April 2009: Make a list of things that are critical i.e. what pieces of homework/coursework have to be handed in the soonest. If you can identify the next few pieces of work that have to be handed in the coming days then at least you will have a better idea of ... (read in full...)
Please can you help me make sense of him here.
Q. Hi everyone, I just wanted to ask you all a question: I told a guy I liked him, but he said it's not possible because of the age difference and the fact that he has a girlfriend. Although we are very close still, as friends and have talked about ...
A. 21 April 2009: Well there is no real way of knowing why he has been like this with you unless you ask him! I guess the best thing to do here is maybe drop him an email or send a text just saying that you feel like you are making an effort to be friends and there ... (read in full...)
I'm not on birth control. Can I get pregnant?
Q. I'm not on birth control but when I have sex with my boyfriend he doesn't ejaculate inside my vagina. He normally ejaculates on my stomach but last weekend he was a bit slow pulling out and some of his sperm went in me. It was mostly outside but ...
A. 21 April 2009: Yes you can get pregnant - any contact with sperm can cause pregnancy. Men have a thing called pre-cum, where a little semen comes out of the penis before ejaculation (up to a couple of minutes before ejaculation) and this contains a huge amount of ... (read in full...)
Do women get more turned on by men taking the lead in the bedroom?
Q. I think the title says it all really, but is it true? Provided us men do the right thing and ask what the woman wants obviously, is it hotter and more of a turn on for women when men take control and lead when it comes to sex?...
A. 21 April 2009: Well this is all down to personal taste - some women like the man to take the lead whereas other women like to dominate the man and have her way with him!
I personally perfer to man to take the lead, it turns me on much more than if I were to ... (read in full...)
Should I try and pursue this relationship through University?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship for almost a year and a half with my girlfriend. We Were/are both in love with each other but a couple months ago we broke up briefly when she was questioning our relationship and kissed another guy due to this. D...
A. 21 April 2009: This is a really difficult question and I think only you will know what is right to do. However, I think you are right in your concerns. It seems that if she did try and pursue a relationship with another guy but came back to you then maybe she ... (read in full...)
Shall I ask to be friends with my ex?
Q. I am still very fond of an ex who cheated on me, It was sometime ago and I know things haven’t worked out for her with him and they never would. She has played games with me and I have I guess played games with her. I know now we can never b...
A. 21 April 2009: I dont think that you would seem weak by sending her an email - you are work colleagues therefore it is important for you to try and maintain a friendly relationship so that you can work together without tension.
Seen as she has done a job for ... (read in full...)
We think I might be pregnant
Q. Hello. I'm New and Well... I'm sorta worried. I've know my friend for a WHILE~ and We just hooked up. We are SO~ much A like! Clones maybe. Ha! Well, one day we hung out and just enjoyed our selfs. and when we came back we watched tv and well... ...
A. 21 April 2009: I think what you actually have here is the early symptoms of an eating disorder rather than pregnancy. You say you you dont want to eat for a whole day - why is this? Are you trying to lose weight? Are you unhappy with your body? You havent made it ... (read in full...)
I want him to not use b/c but he won't
Q. I really want my new boyfriend to cum in me. I'm not back on birth control, but the way i feel is if we have a baby, then htat's God's plan. If we don't that's even better! I just don't know how to get him to loosen up since he already has a kid and ...
A. 20 April 2009: If he does not want another child then you cannot force him into this, he is your boyfriend therefore you should respect his wishes just as he should respect yours.
While you may be ok with having a child, you are still too young and probably... (read in full...)
Can someone console me please? Why do guys not seem to fancy me?
Q. Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and so far I have never been in a relationship with a guy. My (girl) friends say that I'm pretty and sometimes I believe them, sometimes I disagree. No guys have said that to me though. It does hurt a little that guys...
A. 17 April 2009: I dont think it is a question of guys not fancying you, its just you havent really met any guys yet! You said it yourself, you dont know that many boys therefore how can a guy fancy you if you dont know him?!
Men like girls that are attracti... (read in full...)
Is that a sign of interest?
Q. Dear Cupid, im 20 years young and i've not had a boyfriend in a long time!!! i've like guys don't get me wrong but things never pan out and i don't deserve that to be honest i'm a nice enough girl but i always meet the wrong guys!! so anyways i b...
A. 17 April 2009: You shouldnt be getting rude comments on this site because all answers posted are moderated first by the site moderators - so if you are unhappy with the answers you recieve then make a complaint to the site. The moderators are here to make sure ... (read in full...)
Torn between two really nice, decent guys! Whom do I pick?
Q. im torn between two really nice, decent guys and im unsure which to choose: i think i need to make a decision or at least do something about the situation pretty soon otherwise its unfair for everyone involved. guy 1 I haven’t known him long. ...
A. 17 April 2009: Well it is pretty simple really; you have feelings for your friend and you enjoy spending time with him so choose him!
Your relationship with the other guy seems to be fading and you are not sure of how you feel for him - this is a clear sign tha... (read in full...)
Should or or should I not, travel with him this summer?
Q. Ok, I know I may sound superficial, but in my culture, IMAGE is all that matters for a woman; the way she dresses, she talks, her actions and who she goes out with. I would like you to bare this in mind. My reputation is very important for so...
A. 17 April 2009: I think talking to him is the only way to solve this problem - you need to know if he is 100% committed to making the LDR work! LDR's are very hard and unless both parties are completely committed one person will end up wasting their time.
It so... (read in full...)
Double standards?
Q. how come if a women has slept with lots of men people see her as a slapper but if a man has slept with lots of women everyone sees him as 'cool'?...
A. 16 April 2009: This is just society I'm afraid - men and women have never had true equality and it also applies to sex. When a man has sex he is thought of as a "stud" because he can get girls into bed. This stems back from evolution - the most attractive, strong ... (read in full...)
Incestuous thoughts from a 30 y.o. virgin male
Q. hello im allen 33 year old male from west virginia im unemployed and am living with my parents for last year my thing is i have always viewed porn and stuff. im a virgin but for last 10 to 11 months i have secretly lust for my mom from looking up f...
A. 15 April 2009: Your behaviour is absolutely not normal and if this goes any further it will become illegal. You need to stop this now - this is damaging to your mind. The only reason you fantasise about your mum in this way is because she is the only woman in your ... (read in full...)
I want things to go back to the way they used to be!
Q. Right here goes.. It has been 2 years since I broke up with my Ex. Oh I loved him so much, he was the best boyfriend I could ever ask for. We were 2gether for 2 years. He wasnt the sort of person I would usually go for. Where to start! he was roug...
A. 14 April 2009: What you need to realise is that you DO NOT NEED HIM! What you are feeling is the need to have a loving and happy relationship, it is not about your ex! You had a great relationship with this guy and you want that feeling back - but you dont want ... (read in full...)
Self conscious about bikini & men on the beach
Q. i going on holiday i feel very strange wearing a g-string bikini. i am feeling very self conscience but some girls arent .i saw in swim suit competition on foreign tv and she was a g-string bikini there was group of young guys were watching and the ...
A. 14 April 2009: I think its fine if either a) you are a stripper or b) you are in a bikini competition (like this woman you saw on TV).
In real life, not many girls wear g-string bikinis. In fact, it will be very unlikely you will see any women in g-string... (read in full...)
How do I ask whether he likes shaven girls or not?
Q. Hello, Just a general question in case my boyfriend wants to touch me up or anything, how do I ask whether he likes shaven girls or not? I don't think we'll be doing anything yet as I'm not ready to have sex but it would be nice to think that if...
A. 9 April 2009: I dont think you need to even bring this up, you should keep your hair down there however you want. You need to be comfortable with it therefore dont change it just for a guy!
I suggest you just keep it trimmed and tidy the sides (bikini line). T... (read in full...)
On the pill, on my period, test negative. But could I still be pregnant?
Q. Okay, I'm taking birth control pills and I take them everyday on time.. never missed 1 in 2 months. Me and my boyfriend had sex, and the condom broke. I took a pregnancy test and it was negitave and I'm on my period right now. However, my friend t...
A. 9 April 2009: First of all let me say congratulations for being the only sensible teenager on this site! Finally someone who uses condoms and the pill! It is nice to see someone with common sense so well done to you and your boyfriend!
I would say it is highl... (read in full...)
Age and appearance.
Q. Do guys like girls with fat round faces and who are short and heavy because I am short, fat round face and heavy. Up on my 30s and I never had boyfriend, I wouldn't know how to get one. I am sick of liking guys who don't like me. A guy of nice ...
A. 9 April 2009: Seen as you keep on asking this question hopefully I will be able to give you an answer that might help!
Basically your standards are too high - if you are looking for a man who is great looking and who has a great personality then you will nev... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits now before his feelings for me get stronger or should I work at trying to like him more!
Q. I have been hanging out with a guy i met at college for about 3 months and we just started kissing and cuddling and getting comfortable. He likes me but hes still kinda hard to read on how much he does and what exactly he wants but he has said he ...
A. 9 April 2009: I think it is clear that you dont really like this guy more than as a friend and he is starting to develop feelings for you - the kindest thing you can do is just tell him you only like him as a friend and stop seeing him as much (and when you do ... (read in full...)
Being too harsh on my ex girlfriend?
Q. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer size 12. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry...
A. 9 April 2009: I cant believe you have been with this woman for over 6 years and would leave her over something so superficial as her dress size! Going from a size 12 to a size 14-16 isnt even that much of a weight gain, you should love her no matter what her ... (read in full...)
Tips on how not to gag when giving BJ?
Q. Dear Cupid I don't enjoy giving BJ's but my boyfriend (obviously) likes them. I feel bad because he gives me head all the time and for nothing in return, but I know that he wants to get them more... Does anyone have any advice on how to give a re...
A. 8 April 2009: I used to be the same as you - I couldnt do it because I would be gagging all the time (even the thought of it used to make me gag!). But I found that the more I did it, the more I would get used to it! So practice does make perfect!
Try breating... (read in full...)
I left him, after he hit me (and other problems). Did I do the right thing?
Q. im a 21year old girl im very confused.my past is very hard, i had a baby 2 years ago with the guy i loved and shortly after my baby was born she passed away due to an illness. since then me and my partner have been helping each other get through ...
A. 8 April 2009: You absolutely did the right thing and I hope you can stick to your decision. This guy is not a nice guy, he has treated you so badly and he doesnt deserve you.
I know it seems really hard at the moment but you are just going through a break-up... (read in full...)
I want out of the relationship but she's so depressed I'm afraid to leave!
Q. I feel more like my girlfriend's mental health carer than her boyfriend. I never relised she would need to go to cousoling and take anti-depressents. I spend most days trying to cheer her up for one reason or another and it's bringing me down. I've ...
A. 8 April 2009: Well of course she will be devastated, regardless of whether she has mental health problems or not any normal person is devastated when a long term relationship ends. I think your main concern is not that she will be devastated, more that you are ... (read in full...)
What should I do to lose weight and look good this summer?
Q. Hey,I'm 14,probably over 10 stone,5ft5! i have huuge legs! im really conscious about my thunder thighs and they wont go away! i exercise.eat healthy,drink water,i hardly ever have sugar or fattening things.im overweight and i don't understand why!im ...
A. 7 April 2009: You mention you go horseriding - this is the reason your thighs are so big! I used to ride myself (for 8 years) and when I rode, I had the biggest thighs because of the muscle riding builds in the legs! So you are not fat, and all that weight will ... (read in full...)
His hand curled into a fist..is this a sign that he may be abusive?
Q. My boyfriend has been pretty good overall I guess. He asked me to be his gf on the second date, but I waited until 2 mos later to say yes.Before I said yes he would alway ask if I was talking to other dudes and he checked my phone once. But now h...
A. 7 April 2009: Yes I think you should be worried, this guy clearly has some issues with anger, trust and jealousy.
The fist thing may mean nothing but his other behaviour is more worrying to me - the fact that he grabbed your head and hurt you is a very big... (read in full...)
Do women like to view porn?
Q. it is an old new quistion, please girls answer me i need more answers please GENERALY does women love to view porn?? because most of the girls that i know deny, while i am sure they do...
A. 7 April 2009: Well I am a woman, and I dont look at porn. I have in the past, when I was about 17 but since then I dont look at it anymore, I just dont find the need to nor do I have the time!
Women are very different from men - they dont need to be watching... (read in full...)
He says one thing one day, something totally different the next! CONFUSED!
Q. I am 22 and I've been hanging out with a 34 year-old guy recently. He is nice to me, always talks to me online, and we hang out a couple times every week.(I posted a similar question yesterday but this one is different) He tried to kiss me last wee...
A. 7 April 2009: Well from my knowledge of dating in the US, this normally means you are just hanging out together and going out on dates, sort of getting to know each other before you make the commitment of being boyfriend and girlfriend. Generally you still see ... (read in full...)
I love her but she makes me jealous - How do I fix it?
Q. I was walking with my girlfriend of 4 months now and we have gotten pretty serious. We love each other and I tell her that as much as i possibly can (not in a... creepy way). So she is beautiful and has tons of guy friends... I am not that jealous ...
A. 4 April 2009: I'm not sure why she would talk about her friends like that in front of you - normally that sort of talk is reserved for girl only conversations! I am guessing that if she is the same age as you, then she will still be pretty immature so I think she ... (read in full...)
I want to work everything out but don't know how
Q. I love my boyfriend (age 20) a lot. We have been together for 8 months now. However, I feel like hes hiding something from me. it bothers me so much. For example, he never told me that he has a daughter until I confronted him about it. I had to f...
A. 4 April 2009: He has hidden his child from you and already has cheated on you in only 8 months? This relationship has got off to a very bad start and will only go downhill I'm afraid - It wont get better no matter how hard you try!
This guy clearly has no idea ... (read in full...)
My g/f told me I was her first. Should I believe her?
Q. my girlfriend told me she couldn't really feel something when i was inside her, but she told me i am her first time but before me there was a boy who just fingered her for a bit but didn't have proper sex, so she told me she never really have sex ...
A. 4 April 2009: Well in my opinion, it is very unusual for a virgin not to feel anything on her first time, most girls will feel some pain or they will at least feel something!
But everyone is different, so maybe she is telling the truth. Thing is, she is your ... (read in full...)
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