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writes:Do guys like girls with fat round faces and who are short and heavy because I am short, fat round face and heavy. Up on my 30s and I never had boyfriend, I wouldn't know how to get one. I am sick of liking guys who don't like me. A guy of nice looks and nice personalty wouldn't like me because I am NOT tall and beautiful looking like a model or a hottie in the magazines. Guys want girls their own age and younger NOT OLDER LIKE ME. Reply to this Question
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You have to make a list of the things you don't like about your appearance. Next, highlight the things you CAN change. Then dammit, go change them, you'll feel MUCH better about yourself. :)
Good luck!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Seen as you keep on asking this question hopefully I will be able to give you an answer that might help!
Basically your standards are too high - if you are looking for a man who is great looking and who has a great personality then you will never find this ideal guy because he doesnt exist! And even if he does, then you are right, he will be going out with a model or someone very beautiful. Lower your standards a little - stop lusting after the really hot men and find someone who is more on your own level.
Now I am no model, I am 5"3, a UK size 14 (which is pretty curvy) and I would say I am average looking. I never go after guys who are really good looking because I know I will never get them (and generally all the good looking ones have no brains anyway!). Instead I look at a guys personality, and how he makes me feel and how he treats me. This is way more important than looks and opens up opportunties with loads more men than I would get if I waited for some really hot guy!
And again, you are right in thinking that the majority of men go for younger women. A man will normally be happiest with a girl 2-4 years younger than him (not true for all men but does apply to quite a few!). Therefore you should be looking for a guy who is 32-39 (depending on how old you are). Dont waste your time on guys in their 20's, they are too immature and unlikely to want a girl that isnt much older than 18!
If you have confidence and are happy with who you are then you will be attractive to other men. If you are permanently self conscious and have low self esteem then you will never find a man! So stop wallowing in self pity, make the most of yourself and get out there and enjoy life! There are things you can do to change the way you look - have a hair cut, buy some new make-up and go to the gym. All of these will make you feel better about yourself and give you some confidence. Men love women that smile and are happy with their own bodies - no man wants to listed to a woman moan about how fat she is!
So the problem here is not that men only go for stick thin 18 year old models, the problem is actually YOU. I know that is hard to hear but you need to accept it otherwise you will feel like this forever. Make some changes to yourself and you will soon find that men will be attracted to you and you can find yourself a boyfriend.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (9 April 2009):
 listen shouldn't be so hard on yourself that's why you're not getting guys or you don't know how to get one.you need to have more faith in yourself!!not all guys want stick thin blondes!alot of guys like curvy girls something they can grab hold of.i'm quite big bigger than my mates but i'm not at all obese!i get guys there is no reason you can't!just have a bit more faith in yourself!guyss don't want younger girls!there are guys whom like elder women and women there own ageshonestly give yourself credit!guys like girls with some confidence!!don't put yourself down so much it's not helping you in anyway at all!!!love yourself and they will love you!if you need anymore advice please don't hesitate to message me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Can't find a guy, sick of falling for guys who don't like you back? It happens to people of all different sizes and ages, not just the short fat and oldER ones (I'm just going by your description, here) I don't know what your social calendar is like but I guess you'll have to put the guy issue on the shelf and do other things that are out of your comfort zone. 30-35 is still a young age bracket, so just go crazy and find new things that make you happy. Would you rather wake up with an accomplished life or one where you spent pining for lack of a boyfriend?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 April 2009):
 If you saw yourself under a more loving light, more people would be attracted to you. Looks are not all, dear. In fact, looks are not at all important if you are smart and you want a long relationship, which is, I guess, what you want.
Admittedly, many of us men go for looks only, but we learn our lessons.
Wish you the best.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Why do you keep posting this over and over again? You get pretty much the same responses each time.
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