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What should I do about my husband's anal obsession?
Q. My husband insists on having anal sex. Every time we've try, it's been very painful. Yet he keeps begging for it and makes me feel bad when I turn him down. What can I do?...
A. 17 May 2009: Its simple: you need to tell him you are in pain. Even if it makes you feel guilty. You shouldn't have to participate in it if it is painful and unpleasurable for you. Perhaps try some other activities, or search the internet for ways to 'warm up' ... (read in full...)
FWB wants me to move in with him and his wife!
Q. I have an older male friend who lives near me and we have a discrete physical relationship that has been going on for about a year. I enjoy being with him but I don't see him as anything more than a fun time once in a while and a good friend. F...
A. 17 May 2009: That is bizarre. Are you sure you want to get in between him and his wife? Even if she apparently doesn't care if he sleeps around, she isn't going to feel this way forever and will eventually get jealous. Sounds like dangerous territory, if I were ... (read in full...)
Why do people stare at me wherever I go?
Q. When I go out with family or by myself, people look and stare at me like i'm an museum exhibit. This really irritates, upsets, and angers me. They stare at me for more than 3 seconds. When i'm at a restaurant with my family people just stare at me ...
A. 17 May 2009: Nobody can really answer this unless you tell us if your appearance is abnormal or anything. Sorry if it sounds mean, but read over your question from someone else's point of view, its kind of a hard one to answer.
xox... (read in full...)
Faint pregnancy negative?
Q. Well I took a pregnancy test when I Got home from work and recieved a very faint line which looked like a negative result should I test again with first morning urine or does this mean Im not pregnant I've never seen faint negatives before just ...
A. 16 May 2009: If I were you I would simply take another test just to be sure. If you get the same result, maybe try another brand of pregnancy test. xox... (read in full...)
Can I have an abortion without my parents knowing?
Q. Ok heres my question - At the age of 13 if you got pregnant can you go have an aboursion with out your parents coming with you or even knowing i would really like to know it would really help a situation i am in Thanks x...
A. 15 May 2009: Young women under the age of 16 may seek abortion information without parental consent. A young woman under the age of 16 may also have an abortion without parental consent if her doctors determine that she meets the Fraser Guidelines:
-She unde... (read in full...)
When he's in a bad mood he ignores me!
Q. When my bf is in a bad mood, he ignores me. He wont tell me about his problems or what really happened. This really upsets me because I feel like I must be a bad gf because he wont let me be there for him. I want to support him, but I dont ...
A. 15 May 2009: I know what you mean. But my experience with a guy like this was when I was in Year 9. Don't let this guy bring you down, he needs to grow up. Don't spend time worrying what you did wrong, and dont fret over what to do or say when he is in one of ... (read in full...)
Why is body image so important to men?
Q. Well, what if you don't have them, hmmmmm? What does that make me? Obviously, not a real woman. I know society puts pressure on women to be thin, but I don't understand why they need to listen to this crock of nonsense, since men prefer women ...
A. 15 May 2009: There are countless styles of clothing to add curves and shape, in this day and age it isn't hard to transform yourself. I'm sure you are very frustrated but you need to transform your way of thinking. So many body types are gorgeous, long and lean, ... (read in full...)
Help me to be thin!
Q. hello. i have a problem. please help as best you can. well i am 14, 5'4'' and weigh 9 st 9 lbs. i am really fat. i want to weigh 8 st 7 lbs so i am going to do a pro-ana diet and lots of exercise etc. now someone told me that ana can make you pu...
A. 15 May 2009: Pro ana? Please don't tell me you want to be anorexic. If you try to lose weight by extreme diet and exercise, then you are just setting yourself up for a lifetime of eating disorders and binging. If you lose the weight too fast, you may have excess ... (read in full...)
I need some pointers, on how to get over an inferiority complex?
Q. I have a crush on this guy in my class, and I'm not ready to confess to him or anything, but the thing is... I think he is REALLY high above me. As in, he's way smarter than me, can do everything better than me, etc. and it makes me feel like I...
A. 15 May 2009: Okay, well I think this is more about you than this guy. You need to realize that you are a person, you have every right to be happy and successful just like he does. If you keep thinking that he is so high above you he will be forever out of reach ... (read in full...)
This guy wouldn't give someone like me the time of day!
Q. Ok so there is this boy I like and he has a girlfriend, but she is one of my best friends. I didn't realize I had feelings for him for quite some time, and he is really cute but i'm not sure if he even likes me as a friend...but...idk! He is sooo ...
A. 15 May 2009: Unfortunately, he is taken, so there really isn't anything you can do. You could tell your friend, but it may make the relationship very awkward. Just be generally friendly to him, make him see that you are a nice, cool girl and get to be his friend ... (read in full...)
Crush on my teaching assistant!
Q. I have a crush for a teacher assistant at my school; what to do?! He really only talked to me and rarely other students because the kids he teaches with in my class don't really like him. I try to avoid him now because I thought I was being a little...
A. 15 May 2009: Well if he is alot older than you and you don't want to lead him on, I suggest being friendly with him but don't do anything that could be taken as flirting. You didn't mention his age, but I am guessing he is 20-30, and if you are 14 he is ... (read in full...)
Oral sex replacing hugging and kissing?
Q. I read in a magazine recently that some people are saying that among teens girls giving casual blow-jobs to boys is replacing regular petting. In other words, hugging and kissing is being replaced by oral sex. Is this true? Is this a dangerous ...
A. 13 May 2009: I am a teen and I haven't seen this trend really, but I have noticed people talking about hand and oral sex quite casually. I wouldn't go to the extent of saying that it is replacing kissing, but that it is becoming more common among younger and ... (read in full...)
Pregnant & ectopic pregnancy signs?
Q. hey i just found out i am pregnant but i dont feel like i am apart from hungrier. iv started to develop upper back ache, like a dull aching, its jst below my shoulder blade, is this normal? i heard shoulder pain can be a sign of ectopic pregnancy, i ...
A. 13 May 2009: I found this list of pregnancy signs not to ignore. I wouldn't worry unless you start to notice any of these symptoms. Like the Anon. poster said, back pains are common in pregnancy. And of course, go see your doctor if you are really worried.
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Never reached orgasm..giving b/f confidence issue
Q. anytime i make love with my boyfriend i dont reach orgasm easily except he plays with my clitoris.dis is giving me concern cos he feels i can neva be satisfied with him wat do i do?...
A. 13 May 2009: Do you mean you can only reach orgasm by him touching your clitoris? Or that you don't orgasm even with him touching your clitoris? I agree with Gina, you may want to do some research and experiment to find out what you like. Make it a game for you ... (read in full...)
We meet up 20 years later...
Q. I loved a girl some 20 years ago. She said she liked me but was already seeing someone. I left it at that and we never met for the next 20 years.In the meantime, i married (happily). I happened to return to the same city as hers after these 20 ...
A. 13 May 2009: Well, she is 20 years more mature now. She probably thinks of you as an old friend, or love interest from the past. What was she replying to? I don't think it means anything.. she was probably just saying it to be extra nice for whatever you said ... (read in full...)
18th birthday present for b/f
Q. I need help with buying my boyfriend's 18th birthday present! I know that he really wants to buy a bag but it is worth about $120 which I find a bit too pricey for me. Any other ideas for good presents? I know he doesn't want any clothing, and he's ...
A. 13 May 2009: You could always pitch in with a few friends to get him something really special. He might enjoy an experience type gift, like a voucher for a day at a rockclimbing place with you or something. Or since he is into watersports, a wakeboarding or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is reluctant to go on holiday because of what I did whilst we were on a break!
Q. my boyfriends mom wants him to go to Moscow for 2 weeks with her! i think its a great thing to do..i told him i wanted him to go! a couple months ago we took a break and i messed around with another guy he found out (before i got a chance to tell ...
A. 12 May 2009: I think that you should explain to him that you know you hurt him really badly before, and you regret it, but you want to earn his trust so he wont have to worry while he goes away. You will have to earn back him trust after what you did to him.... (read in full...)
My natural curly hair becomes floppy when I shampoo. Any suggestions?
Q. ok first things first... this is NOT a relationship/sex question, but i hope that i can get some advice up in this joint, lol. ok it's simple: i have naturally curly wavy hair and everytime i shampoo, the curls and waviness go away and the result is ...
A. 9 May 2009: i think you should condition your hair after you shampoo it. you may find this makes a really big difference. tell us how it works out!... (read in full...)
I am tearing my hair out trying to understand him!
Q. Help please I'm in a relationship with a guy but he is so hard to read when it comes to his feelings that i am always tearing my hair out trying to understand him. He always txts me in the morning but today he was late so i sent him a txt that said ...
A. 27 April 2009: I think you are obsessing a bit! Hes just trying to keep it light, you may be freaking him out that you are worrying too much about not receiving a text. I think it was a rhetorical question, you dont have to answer. Just dont smother him or make ... (read in full...)
Is there a correct way to flirt with guys?
Q. im keeping this short and simple is there a correct way to flirt with guys?...
A. 25 April 2009: Be conscious of your appearance. Possibly the most important rule to remember when flirting with any guy! No, this does not mean you need to look like a stunning doll. Not every guy wants a Barbie girl. It means that you should be elegant and clean ... (read in full...)
Will our childhood relationship last?
Q. I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14 and we are seriously thinking about moving in with eachother when im 20 and she's 19 are we crazy? Are we going to last that Long?...
A. 24 April 2009: why plan that now? just enjoy the relationship, and when you get to that age if you want to move in with eachother, then do it. you dont have to make that decision now.... (read in full...)
He isnt acting like just a teacher
Q. Hello there. Thank you so much for deciding to help me! Sometimes I actually think I like this guy, do you think he likes me??? First of all, I am in eighth grade. The teacher, we will refer to him as {}, is 46 years old, married, and has tw...
A. 5 April 2009: if i were you i woulds top joking around with him. it may seem harmless to you but to him it may seem like you are flriting! avoid being alone with him and tell your parents about the situation before anything bad happens. good luck!... (read in full...)
When will I start?
Q. Well, Im 13 soon to be 14. Mainly for girls to answer, but I haven't gotten my period yet and im worried that theres a reason for it. Is there? Or does it just come slower for some people?...
A. 5 April 2009: no big deal at all. i got mine when i was 14, my mum got hers when she was 15 and a half. nothing to worry about. :)... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I kissed her wrong she'll think I'm a bad kisser
Q. Help im really nervous im going out with this girl tommorow and shes really nice :) her sister and her friend where talking to me and said "are you going to kiss her?" i am really scared because i want to and its my first time. She already has and ...
A. 27 March 2009: Some girls don't want to "make out" for the first kiss, but some do. Try a quick peck on the lips, then move in for more. If she pulls away, DO NOT try to kiss her more. If you forget this tip, don't become frustrated with her reaction. Simply back ... (read in full...)
How do you get tested for HIV/AIDS? Is it a urine test? or what?
Q. This is probably going to be a long one but I'm worried! Recently I've been thinking about getting a HIV test but I'm too scared to do it and to tell anyone, I'm not sure if I'm positive or not, I've had sexual intercourse with about 7 people u...
A. 25 March 2009: The most common HIV tests use blood to detect HIV infection. Tests using saliva or urine are also available. Some tests take a few days for results, but rapid HIV tests can give results in about 20 minutes. All positive HIV tests must be followed up ... (read in full...)
Is this a good gift idea?
Q. Hi, im 15 anf my gf is 14. Next week will be our six month anniversary, and i wanted to get her somethin special. We recently took some pictures together and i really like this one where we were passionately kissing, it looks so romantic. So i ...
A. 24 March 2009: thats a really sweet gift. im sure she will love it. i would if a guy did this for me!... (read in full...)
Parenting advice wanted!
Q. Hi everyone. i was wondering if anyone has parenting advice? i am 22 weeks pregnant and terrified. any advice about birth, raising a baby, names for the baby, or the portion of the pregnancy comming up would be greatly appreciated....
A. 23 March 2009: http://www.babycenter.com.au/pregnancy
thats a really good website about everything having to do with having a baby and parenting. good luck!... (read in full...)
Ideas to tone my skin?
Q. hi all! i have a problem with my body i am 29 yrs old, i have a 10 yr old daughter and b4 i had her i was well built, not fat! solid.... i had an eating disorder after having her and lost 5 stone in a very short time. i am bk to a healthy 10 st. my ...
A. 21 March 2009: feed your skin both from the inside and the outside. Eat a varied and balanced diet with plenty of fresh fruit and veg, which are packed full of the vitamins and minerals necessary for healthy, toned skin.
Your skin tone relies upon proper and adeq... (read in full...)
I'm a hopeless romantic and I need some birthday ideas!?
Q. My girlfriend's birthday is coming up soon and i want to do something very romantic for her. She and I are hopeless romantic but i am not sure what to do for her. I know different girls like different things but i am just asking your advices to help ...
A. 21 March 2009: Ginalolabridga's idea was great. if you dont have the money to go to a hotel, maybe while shes at work or away fro the day (maybe arrange for her friends to pick her up and take her for a day of shopping) make her a nice dinner with some champagne, ... (read in full...)
If she is 7 months older is that a big difference ???
Q. hi .. she is 7 months older than me .. is that a problem ???? ..i like her very much and i think she likes me too ... ...
A. 21 March 2009: seven months is like nothing... i dont see how that could be a problem! go for it!... (read in full...)
My mom won't let me be with my girlfriend without a parent there
Q. My mom won't let me see my girlfriend without a parent with us. We've been dating for over 6 months and I really want to be alone with her. What can I do?...
A. 21 March 2009: earn some respect from your mother, let her knkow that you can be responsible enough to be alone with your girlfriend. maybe arrange for a date to the movies or in a public place so she knows you wont get up to anything. just act like a respnsible ... (read in full...)
Stretch marks on my breasts. is this normal and how can I get rid of them?
Q. I have recently noticed that i have now got stretch marks on my breasts. im 15 and only have 34B boobs so i don't know if it's because there big because there not? :S i really want to get rid of them because its preventing me from being able to ...
A. 20 March 2009: its because your growing so fast. i am 15 and i had some too as my boobs were growing, but they have totally faded. YOu can put some Bio Oil or vitamin E on it to help speed up the fading process but they will fade over time. most girls get them in ... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea?
Q. Hi, im 15 and my gf is 14, weev bin goin out for five months now, and in a few days itll be our sixth month, this one's gonna b special cuz its also my bday! I need to kno if this is a good present idea, im gonna buy her a meaningful ring, not too ...
A. 16 March 2009: be careful with rings.. what if you get the wrong size? maybe you should go with a bracelet or a necklace unless you are sure of the size. and go for simple, pretty jewellry, not too over the top. she'll love it.... (read in full...)
He smiles when he says hey, does he like me?
Q. I'm 14 and have only had one boyfriend but I've told people I've had tons. I've also said is kissed a guy before but that's a lie too. I started liking this guy and I want to know if he like me or not. I think he does but I'm not sure. We don't see ...
A. 15 March 2009: sounds like he does like you! just be yourself and smile, and things might go somewhere!... (read in full...)
I'm not circumcized and amafraid of what girls would think
Q. I found out that i am not circumcised when i was about 12 or 13 and my mom told me to wash my skin good. I am mad at her that i am not circumcised because i think everybody i hang out with are circumcised and they think if you're not circumcised ...
A. 14 March 2009: "I just wish i was circumcised so i can be normal and had lots of pussy already." okay lots of pussy? thats really immature but the truth is girls are too self conscious abut themselves to be looking at you down there..they wont notice or care a... (read in full...)
Do you think she likes me or is she just enticed by my body???
Q. Hey aunts, I really like this girl but I don't know if she really likes me back. Today I was walking in the hallway and caught her looking around my crotch area, our eyes met she gave me a smile and quickly turned around. Do you think she likes me...
A. 13 March 2009: girls arent usually like that, im sure she probably has a crush on you and was just 'curious' and checking you out. she was obviously embarrassed to be seen checking you out so she may like you back. do you flirt with eachother? to me it sounds like ... (read in full...)
Under-developed?
Q. This is a little weird... I'm a 13 year old girl and well I look younger. You see I haven't really started puberty. My period has not come, I'm almost completely flat chested and the only changes I've had are hair down there and growing a little ...
A. 13 March 2009: it will happen. i used to really hate being flat chested then all of a sudden i started getting boobs! if you are really self concious about it, you can get trainer bras or bras with a bit of padding. getting pubic hair is a good sign, you know some ... (read in full...)
6 month anniversary important?
Q. Hi, im 15 and my gf is 14, weve been goin out for five months now, and in two more weeks, itll be six. Is a half year anniversary significant? If so, wud it be even better if i got her a gift? I rly do love her, and can see my self being with her a ...
A. 13 March 2009: she would love it im sure if your recognised your anniversary, stuff like that means alot to girls. maybe some flowers with a nice note, or just chocolates or a necklace or something (doesnt have to be expenisve, there are lots of good ones out ... (read in full...)
Black and love white boys
Q. i'm "black" and i love white boys but they don't seem to like me all the time.i'm not a "gettho girl" at all.HONESTLY i act "white".Is it because i'm black? i don't really know can you help me?is it because i act white but not purposely.and i refuse...
A. 3 March 2009: well i sorta get how you feel, im a white girl and i like black guys. you just gotta be yourself, and when the right guy comes along, it probably wont matter what his colour is. but once you expand your horizons and meet lots of new people, im sure ... (read in full...)
Should I break up because of a sparkless kiss?
Q. I haven't kissed my boyfriend because I'm nervous. I won't feel the sparks like eveyone says, I really like him honestly I don't want to wreck it with a kiss and I don't want him to end it because I'm a bad kisser. I never kissed anyone so how do I ...
A. 1 March 2009: First, take a nice deep breath. There's no reason to stress over something that hasn't happened yet and you don't really know when it's going to happen either. A first kiss is something that you usually don't plan - it just happens at the right ... (read in full...)
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