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writes:I do not get this situation someone give me some advice its driving me mad! I was with my boyfriend two years on/off we broke up mainly cos he cant give me the commitment dont live in the same town he put his mates first is selfish and he dont consider my feelings at all! I was madly inlove with him but he didnt give me respect! And then he was like a different person. So loving. Carin. Cuddly when were together and he said i brought the best out in him! Now 8 months since we spilt i havent really moved on. Havent been with anyone else cos i was hurt! And just feel im getting to be my normal self again! Hes come back now begging for another chance saying i will do whatever it takes i love u so much. I met him to talk he was so convincing! We ended up in bed had a nice time and i truely believed he had seen sense! So we arranged to c each other in the wk id arranged to have my little girl to go to my parents! And then he says he cant come now cos the football is on tv and i dont have sky! I even suggested going to the pub to watch it wiv him just so we could spend time together. But no he couldnt! I went mad! As i know he wanted to watch it with him mates! Now a wk on he begging again take me back i love you im a fool. Please dont say no more! Im an idiot! This is the pattern! I also found out that he had been with various women when we spilt! And his excuse was when u cant have the one u want i was lonely needed some love! He doesnt love me does he! Hes just good at charming and talking the tall isnt he? Its not me is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Woman-ditch him. He doesnt deserve your time and effort in trying to make a real relationship of this. Sound to me like he my have just wanted booty call. Maybe he wants it again and is just playing with your heart to get physical satisfaction. Matter of fact he's probably using you as a cushion for his lonely times.
Love you and kick him to the curb.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 This man is not worth it - he obviously thinks that just cos you had sex and it was great that there is nothing wrong - that he can continue to treat you like he treated you before. This is not good enough you need to send him on his way cos he will never change - he wants his sex on the side without any problems so that he can go and do his thing with all his mates. Well if he wants his mates, then send him on his way, you deserve to be treated better!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 April 2009):
Yep, he's found you are the best door mat around.
While all these other women are spotting him for what he is and telling him to get lost, you just lie down and believe everything he says.
As soon as you tell this guy to get out of your life then you can start being happy.
Just be careful because he'll probably try and get you back a couple of times. A good doormat is hard to find. Every time you turn him down you are going to feel so much stronger.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 April 2009):
 It is all definately him, he is treating you like a doormat, someone to fall back on when he gets lonely. If he cannot put you first over a game of football then he is not worth you giving him the time of day!
If he was really serious about getting back together then he would have stuck to the plans you made and he would have missed the football for once because getting you back would be more important. Clearly he just thinks that no matter what you will be around for him whenever he wants to see you - and so far you have proved him right.
Dont let him pick you up and put you down again whenever he wants to - this guy clearly uses women and he is definately using you. Now you need to cut this guy out of your life - he will never change and unless you completely cut him out of your life then this cycle will continue.
You deserve someone better than this; someone who actually knows how to treat a woman properly. You need to get rid of his phone number, email address etc etc, keeping these things will only give you means to contact him when you are feeling down. Change your number so he cant contact you either - the best thing to do is to not let him come begging and wearing you down with all his words!
You are completely spot on with your thoughts and in no way are you at fault here - he is just clearly not mature enough to be in an adult relationship and treat a woman properly. Forget about this guy and find yourself a real man!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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