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writes:I was walking with my girlfriend of 4 months now and we have gotten pretty serious. We love each other and I tell her that as much as i possibly can (not in a... creepy way). So she is beautiful and has tons of guy friends... I am not that jealous but... what does she mean when she says her guy friends have nice abs. Than second later after me going wow... nice... (as a joke of course) she quickly changes her mind. Most of her Best Friends are guys so... I feel bad when she talks about them and how they can pick up chicks so well and are great kissers... :|
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Well shurley she must like you more than she likes them to be with you?.....
you shouldn't worry because if someone likes YOU enogth, then she won't be intreted...
and if she is intrested at all then you should find someone that can be all for you
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reader, haha702 +, writes (5 April 2009):
haha702 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks people for the advice. And she knows they are great kissers... from... she dated like 2 of them and they are still friends. Not like... a cheating way... :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Hmmm i'm no expert but I'm just going to tell you what i think from my perception of things.
I think that she may be jelouse of you, or maybe she is testing your waters to see how much YOU really care.
Imagine.... if you didn't have any feelings for her, then would her behavouir bother you at all?.... so maybe this is her way of finding out...
If she is jelouse of you then this could be a good way to turn her situation around.
I don't think that you should worry though. If she had feelings for these other men, then what whould she be doing with you and why wouldn't she be with one of these men.
I'm geussing you must mean alot more to her than these other guys do.
GOOD LUCK...
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (4 April 2009):
 Your girlfriend does love you!
Just think to yourself if she wanted any other guy she would be with them but shes with you so she doesn't want anyone else but you.
What you need to understand is that your girlfriend will find other people attractive, she won't fanciee, love etc.. them, she will just think they are good looking as i'm sure you think other girls are pretty without loving them. You don't need to be jelious, next time she says it try and make a joke out of it like
"Yeh but i'm sexier" or "i have a much better bum tho"
Don't worry about it though, i know its hard but she does love you!
Livia
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reader, MrBrightside90  +, writes (4 April 2009):
Yeah I am in kind of the same situation here. My grilfriend has alot of guy-friends too, she talks about them sometimes. But anyway I know she loves me, and I offer something her guy-friends cant.
And besides, if she wanted to cheat, nothing would stop her. Could your girlfriend stop you from cheating if you set your mind to it ? I dont think so.
But if you are uncomfortable talking about her guy-friends, just tell her.
good luck,
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 April 2009):
 I'm not sure why she would talk about her friends like that in front of you - normally that sort of talk is reserved for girl only conversations! I am guessing that if she is the same age as you, then she will still be pretty immature so I think she might be trying to make you jealous by talking like this. Normally when girls do that they want a reaction out of their boyfriend - maybe she wants you to be more protective of her and maybe she likes her boyfriends to be a bit jealous?
I am only speculating here - there could be a variety of reasons why she is doing this. The most important thing is though that her behaviour makes you unhappy and she is wrong for doing this. So you need to talk to her - explain calmly that when she talks about her friends in that way it makes you uncomfortable/unhappy. Tell her that you have no problems with her having lots of guy friends but you would prefer it if she wouldnt talk about their bodies/how good they are at kissing etc.
One thing that does worry me - how does she know they are great kissers?! This might be a good question to ask!
When you do talk to her, make sure you are not getting angry or annoyed when you talk about; try and be calm and explain fully how she is making you feel. If you get nervous in confrontational situations (like a lot of people do!) then make some notes of what you want to tell her - write down your feelings and then some examples of what she has said that you dont like - it may be a case that she says these things without even thinking about it!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Well, since im a girl, I have experience of why girls talk about guys abs. They are great, but I think shes trying to tell you that she might want you to get them. But maybe its just she doesn't like who you are, which isn't nice at all :0 Maybe you should ask her why she alwayz talks about it and maybe shell give you the answer. :]
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