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writes:I am 22 and I've been hanging out with a 34 year-old guy recently. He is nice to me, always talks to me online, and we hang out a couple times every week.(I posted a similar question yesterday but this one is different)He tried to kiss me last week but I told him that I won't kiss someone unless I am going out with him. The same day, I asked him:"it's not like we are going out right?" He laughed and said "of course not. why do you have to ask me?"Two days ago, he kissed me when we were watching a movie. We hugged each other with clothes on and kissed. He even touched my breasts. He tried to reach under my shirt but I stopped him. Afterwards, I asked him if we were dating. He laughed and said “of course. Why do u have to ask me?” I was confused and asked, ”since when?” He said, “Do you want to?”I forgot how I answered him. It’s not clear what is going on because he never asked me to go out with him, or asked me to be his gf. For my past relationships, I always had guys asking me to be their gf. I am not sure what he meant by date. And what is going to happen afterwards? My questions are: what does he mean by asking me if I wanted to date him? What do people do when they are dating? Is there any chance that he was asking me if I wanted to be his gf? I always feel confused because he never told me about his feelings. I tried to ask him and he got offended.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 Well from my knowledge of dating in the US, this normally means you are just hanging out together and going out on dates, sort of getting to know each other before you make the commitment of being boyfriend and girlfriend. Generally you still see other people whilst you are dating until he asks you to be his girlfriend or go "exclusive" as you say over there in the US.
I;m guessing this guy likes you but doesnt know whether he wants to be fully committed to you and being in a relationship, so he wants to "date" you first just so you can spend some more time getting to know each other. There is nothing bad about "dating", it is literally just the stage before being boyfriend and girlfriend.
Just take it slow, if you like him then just say you do want to "date" him and enjoy the first part of your relationship when everything is new and fun! Hopefully if things go well then you will be boyfriend and girlfriend at some point in the future.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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