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female
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writes:im torn between two really nice, decent guys and im unsure which to choose: i think i need to make a decision or at least do something about the situation pretty soon otherwise its unfair for everyone involved. guy 1 I haven’t known him long. i got with a couple of times in the summer. And at this point were really pretty into each other. we planned to meet up outside of college but due to some circumstances never happened, perhaps because I backed out as I was nervous about seeing him and since then my feelings for him are on and off – sometimes I really really like him and other times I find it hard to be bothered about us. I cant help thinking that if something was going to happen then It would have already? We were talking to each other a lot but haven’t had as much contact within the past few weeks. guy 2 i have been friends now for over 2 years: we hang around together at school and are in classes together and do a lot of stuff outside of school. i think the reason we are so good friends is because we are so comfortable around each other and we have exactly the same humour. he is friends with many of my friends and told one of them that he has liked me for ages. i only recently realised my feelings for him: people were discussing him with getting with another girl and I realised I couldn’t stand the idea of them together. She is a stunning and really nice girl but he told her he didn’t like her in that way as she wasn’t his type of girl. Apparently I am. so people.what do i do ?I am equally happy in a relationship as I am out of one, but I really do feel that to leave both of them alone would be a wasted opportunity. Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Well it is pretty simple really; you have feelings for your friend and you enjoy spending time with him so choose him!
Your relationship with the other guy seems to be fading and you are not sure of how you feel for him - this is a clear sign that you dont really want to be with him. If you wanted this guy then you would be making sure you kept in contact with each other and would be pushing to meet up with him. I would just let this guy go - it seems the whole thing is fading anyway so you dont even need to tell him you are not interested - it seems that he is not that interested either!
So you have a good opportunity with your friend here - it seems he really likes you and wants to be with you so you should give it a try! Just be cautious seen as he is already a good friend - if things dont work out between you then you may end up losing him as a friend.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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